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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In DC, I think you should look for 150k or higher. A lot of government jobs top out around 176k[/quote]

Op here. I only have the income requirement because this is a very HCOL area and I’m targeting men 36+ given my age. At this point it’s not crazy to want someone to make a little more money than me. Given the track I’m on, I’ll easily make 200k myself in a few years.

As for why I’m here: I am recently divorced due to a cheating spouse who did not want kids. [/quote]

At this point it is not crazy that almost all the men left who meet your criteria are only dating women 36 and younger. Everything will have to go perfectly well for you to have two kids in marriage. You'd have to meet your person today, date and be engaged after a year, married after 1.5 - 2 years, no fertility issues, no early menopause etc. Why would a man do that when he could date a woman with all your attributes who is 33 or 35?

It's different if a man has already fallen for you, say someone from work, school or your childhood, who has been waiting and praying for you to be single ( have a friend who had two men ready to pounce when she left her cheating DH). But a man who is looking to have biological children and has never met you will probably not be interested.

Now there might be some men who lie about wanting children just to get married and those  who don't mind not having any but will have 1 or 2 if that is what it takes to marry a beautiful woman. You can hope to find these, but you can end up with one who will be actively praying for you not to get pregnant. That will be a mess.[/quote]

Op here. You are so cruel. I’ve been dating for 3 months and I’ve already met multiple men who meet this criteria who have wanted to date me and with whom I didn’t proceed for one or another reason. Stop with the unhelpful doomsday scenarios.

People aren’t dead after 35! [/quote]

Look lady, you want kids. I’m not sure if you aren’t aware of basic biology, but after 35 you’re not dead but your child bearing years aren’t exactly in front of you. Is it possible? Absolutely. Is it easy? Maybe, if you’re lucky. But acting like being 38 and not even with a man at this point isn’t a big deal is some serious delusion. [/quote]

She knows it’s a bid deal; that’s why she posted for years and years in her unhappy marriage; she was scared of leaving and starting over.

Nonetheless, what she wants is not unreasonable. She can give herself a timeline for freezing eggs as a backup but she’s not over-the-hill, FFS. Would you be so harsh toward someone you care about IRL? A sister of friend?

But I mentioned in my PP that the salary requirement is too high. There are wonderful teachers, feds, etc who make less than 200k but are bright and care about the work they do. It’s far more important that they share similar values. OP is ruling out a lot of worthwhile suitors.[/quote]

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