Great guy but sex is mediocre
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Anonymous
That is not how rights work. But also OP doesn’t have the “right” to try and convince a man that he should want the same type of rough sex she does just because that’s what SHE wants. |
Anonymous
Ignore the "right" parts then, and acknowledge your moral compass is broken. And OP isn't trying to convince him. Her post didn't involve anything related to convince him or even encouraging him. She asked if she should accept/compromise or move on. That doesn't inolve asking anything of him. |
Anonymous
+1000 |
Anonymous
There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing |
Anonymous
Yeah. It's the same type of crowd that loves to brag about being in polyamorous relationships. Most of them have blue hair and weigh around 300 pounds. But they consider themselves edgy/cool because they jerk off to hentai. Society's unwanted cast offs |
Anonymous
The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy. |
Anonymous
Not OP but I am similar and consulted with medical specialists regarding my need to be degraded and experience pain to O. I was told it’s how I was born. In fact I experienced my first O when I accidentally hurt myself…. And didn’t even realize what happened. There was a state TV with approved list of programs back then in my country of origin. No access to porn whatsoever or even sexual literature. |
Anonymous
Experienced it first as a teen- long before I became sexually active |
Anonymous
| The whole appeal of being dominated/taken roughly is the idea that you’re just so hot and irresistible that the man is just completely overcome with raw animal lust and cannot control himself around you. Thus having to spell this out for a partner kills the fantasy. At the same time, decent men - reasonably and correctly - are going to err on the side of NOT raping you, so it’s a no-win proposition for both parties. |
Anonymous
The whole idea of wanting to be dominated is to experience relaxation before the act from feeling helpless and being spanked. Then I need slight pain, being tied up, disoriented in space to focus on my responses, and to get deeper pressure to O. It’s very physical to me and specific and it was always like that. I only had 5 partners in a lifetime because few men can do this to women usually they are hesitant |
Anonymous
| Just do anal |
Anonymous
You are aware that it can’t be done that often safely for the woman, right ? |
Anonymous
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People who criticize BDSM here are solely focusing on the woman being degraded . They are missing the whole variety of role play and activities that could be super fun, and greatly improve sex life. Particular in longer marriages.
And there are men out there who also like to be degraded, walked on a leash and have her finger in his a.ss…., hits c..k being made fun of and called names Sexuality is complex |
Anonymous
Exactly. I love these women that wanna act like theyre so alternative and transgressive by getting off on *checks notes* the most regressive patriarchal BS that echoes power dynamics that women have had to adhere to for, oh, just the past few thousand years. Yes, youre really pushing boundaries by having some guy slap you around and call you names... not like that doesnt happen every damn day to countless women and is just a larger echoing of the misogynistic framework every culture is centered around. It's all so very boring, outdated, and just uninteresting. |
Anonymous
And that's what people are trying to tell you... that having such a very limited, fearful sexuality is not really anything to brag about and is pretty sad. If you actually worked on unleashing some genuine sexuality, not having to feel "overpowered" by some man in order to get yourself to feel an O, then you could experience a much wider, more open range of things. There's something so cringe about the pretense and fakeness of a man and a woman performing some fake scenario in which he pins her down, name calls her, etc, and it's all because she's too chickens**t to just own her sexuality and admit she's a sexual person. And everyone is playing some disingenuous role, likely something they did see scripted out in porn or some soap opera or read in a romance novel or something. My God, take the limits off your sexuality, be genuinely open and honest with your sexuality and see what happens. I bet your orgasms would improve tenfold and you wouldnt have issues having them anymore |