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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.[/quote]

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise. [/quote]

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior. [/quote]

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.[/quote]

How often do you watch porn? [/quote]

Almost never. I don’t want hardcore porn . I’ve always liked this sex. Never been abused or watch violent porn. I just live the primal feeling of being taken and dominated. No slapping, choking, violent verbal talk, no degrading, and no abuse. I like a good rough pounding, light spanking, light hair pulling, and being called a sl*t.

You don’t get to judge what others like or prefer. You seem pretty high of yourself. You also can’t play some online psychologist and think you can diagnose someone because they have watched porn. People like you are is exhausting and annoying. [/quote]

Everyone is judging you OP. [/quote]

You don’t think being called a s*ut is degrading? Wow.[/quote]

It's only degrading if you find the word offensive.  Some woman own their slutiness. Some woman also like to drift into a different persona/role during sex.Nothing wrong with either of those. I have a demanding job, I oversee several hundred people and several facilities. I do nothing but make decisions and solve problems all day, every day. Being able to hand myself over to my husband, and go to the opposite end of the specturm by being completely degraded is very freeing. It doesn't mean I feel less loved or less of myself. And it doesn't mean my husband thinks less of me 
or loves me less.[/quote]

Yeah it’s certainly very normal to be called a s*ut by someone who loves you. [/quote]

He call me c*nt also because that turns ME on. And no doubt that he loves me.  If it’s not for you that is fine. But you don’t have the right to try and shame someone for their sexual preferences.

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That is not how rights work. But also OP doesn’t have the “right” to try and convince a man that he should want the same type of rough sex she does just because that’s what SHE wants. [/quote]

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