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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.[/quote]

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise. [/quote]

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior. [/quote]

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.[/quote]

How often do you watch porn? [/quote]

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.[/quote]

NP.

Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.[/quote]

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing [/quote]

The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy. [/quote]

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