Great guy but sex is mediocre

[Anonymous]

I’m not quick to call troll but this is a lie, women don’t think like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not quick to call troll but this is a lie, women don’t think like this.

I’m not a troll and you’re beyond wrong. There are many women into rough sex and I’m one of them. Sorry that you’re a prude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your Body count and what’s his?

Why is this relevant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your Body count and what’s his?

This is odd that you would ask but he’s the 5th guy I’ve been with. I’m not sure about his but he’s had multiple relationships throughout the years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found this awesome guy who is pretty much everything I’ve wanted and envisioned my husband to be but the sex is lacking. He makes great money, treats me well, our lifestyle and future goals are aligned, we get along super well, and life is just easy with him. I know that you can’t have everything in one partner but I was hoping the sex would be more than just mediocre. Is it worth it to forego great sex for a great man?

Is he easy to conversate with? Has good conflict resolution skills? Doesn’t shy away from talks about feelings or difficult topics? Does he advocate for you or others when obviously needed to?

Basically someone passionate and in tune with others’ needs or feelings would also be good at sx. Someone mechanical and zero emotional is check the box about things, and sx.

Yes you can always take the lead in new bedtime adventures BUT, also make sure you are not taking the lead in everything about the relationship (what to do, where to go, how to think about this or that, where to live, to get engaged, etc.). Real men need to take the lead in many aspects of life and relationships.

IOW, i hope the lackluster sx is not the tip of the iceberg of a lackluster partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Is he awkward in bed? Or just not as adventures as you?

Many don’t go 0-500 on the adventure scale, just go in increments and maybe you only make it to 250. As you grow and trust each other more. Btw you don’t want to appear like a slut either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Is he awkward in bed? Or just not as adventures as you?

Many don’t go 0-500 on the adventure scale, just go in increments and maybe you only make it to 250. As you grow and trust each other more. Btw you don’t want to appear like a slut either.

Not as adventurous. Regular sex is fine. He is just timid and shy when it comes to anything but vanilla sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found this awesome guy who is pretty much everything I’ve wanted and envisioned my husband to be but the sex is lacking. He makes great money, treats me well, our lifestyle and future goals are aligned, we get along super well, and life is just easy with him. I know that you can’t have everything in one partner but I was hoping the sex would be more than just mediocre. Is it worth it to forego great sex for a great man?

Is he easy to conversate with? Has good conflict resolution skills? Doesn’t shy away from talks about feelings or difficult topics? Does he advocate for you or others when obviously needed to?

Basically someone passionate and in tune with others’ needs or feelings would also be good at sx. Someone mechanical and zero emotional is check the box about things, and sx.

Yes you can always take the lead in new bedtime adventures BUT, also make sure you are not taking the lead in everything about the relationship (what to do, where to go, how to think about this or that, where to live, to get engaged, etc.). Real men need to take the lead in many aspects of life and relationships.

IOW, i hope the lackluster sx is not the tip of the iceberg of a lackluster partner.

He’s great in every other aspect. He converses well, excellent communicator, I can talk to him about anything..

He’s not mechanical or non-emotional. I just get the feeling he doesn’t what to treat me roughly and is timid.

[Anonymous]

Ok then, get over it. Maybe risking you against the wall or from behind will have to be later or when you both feel like it, not just you.

[Anonymous]

I sincerely doubt any woman with a history of just 5 partners is into rough sex, unless one of those lovers was particularly adventurous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Love your requirements …. I would be a better match for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I sincerely doubt any woman with a history of just 5 partners is into rough sex, unless one of those lovers was particularly adventurous.

NP. You sincerely need to examine your head.

[Anonymous]

His vanilla bedroom style is a dealbreaker for you.
End the relationship or learn to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

What is rough? You like it hard ? Pulling hair? Dirty talk? That is pretty easy to do. Sexy too .

Just tell him! Testosterone will take over and you will be thankful.

[Anonymous]

Cut him loose and keep looking.

He deserves better than you.