We have been to counseling. DH decided he didn't want to go anymore. Unfortunately I don't think the issues are fixable. I'll try to talk about my day at work and what is going on with the kids and he will stare at his phone screen and ignore me. I don't think he wants to be married to me any more. I don't want to get a divorce, but I feel so sad thinking that no one will ever be attracted to me or interested in me ever again.

To the poster at 9:22, you are likely still very attractive. I am sure there are men interested in you right now.

No, just plain old sex.

So far, I can do some easy magic tricks, and have sex, after drinking. I do not do both at the same time.

DH and I rarely ever drink--may 2-3 times per year and never to excess. I used to drink but quit when I had kids.

Funny. I started drinking when I had kids. Just kidding.

This is a great question. Before I got married and I was dating, I used to drink more on dates because I was very shy. Now, I am much less shy and feel like more than one drink per hour reduces the thrill of the evening.

Just to address this before another poster brings it up, I have not found that drinking causes any problems regarding sex and I believe that dating and relationships are much easier now for me than 25 years ago (e.g., I can be a better date, lover, etc. because I have more experience and confidence than when I was younger. I can also be more focused on her rather than worried about something I might say or do "wrong".)

I am interested in how the single women feel about this. Ladies - if you drink, do you think a glass of wine helps "put you at ease" or "in the mood"?

Mountain Dew, not mountain dew. You are too stupid to have access to the internet, and that is saying a good deal.

If you were even half way funny it would be fun to troll you. But you are not.

Sure they do. Time to wipe the cheeto dust from your fingers and step outside. I guess this is the only way you know to get any reaction at all from the soccer moms you fantasize about

You are not funny at all. Maybe it is time for you give it break and work on your source material.

BTW - It is "Cheeto" dust, not cheeto dust. Proper names require capital letters at the front of the word. That is sort of thing you master at MajorLawPartnerSchool.

One time I got in big trouble at a Langley soccer game because I tried to hug the student teacher that was helping coach. I thought she was my kid but after an hour and 1/2 of the game it was anyone's guess.

BTW - most of my law firm partners have their first house (the house from their first marriage) in Great Falls. Great yards, great schools, and great people.

Except for the puke stains in my front yard.

Still drink and I am 53.

Not as much and not for nearly as long. I am divorced and dating and normally only have one or two glasses of wine on date over the course of an evening.

What a true ass you are. I knew I left private practice for a reason

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Do you handle tax work at your current firm? May we contact you for a free evaluation of your current corporate tax profile?

Nope.

I am tax attorney at major DC law firm. I normally go to my AP's right after work to make sex tapes. Then, I go to my kids' sporting events and hit on the hot moms. (This task is harder after my 3rd Gin & Tonic - Bombay Sapphire with extra lime).

Sometimes, I forget which are my kids because I have not seen them in some time. The best I can do around the house is throw up in the front yard instead of the den. (Go Great Falls - big yards.)

I agree the moms work much harder than I do. That is why I offer to give them some time off their feet in my place in the Watergate.

No, I really meant stability. As in, come home on time every night, do 50% of the household work, be an active parent. I make 55% of the household income, my stable husband makes 45%.

Really? Cool. I am not sure I could do all three (or even two) most of the time.

For example, I could maybe come home and be an active parent, but would not do housework. I think if I had to do all three at one time I would need a night of drinking the next day. Sadly, I am sure that I would spend more than my 45% of that day's income on the night out.

Yes, I am a real peach. But I am not fat. Yet.

You made a good choice.

Women should get to have two men - one for stability and one for physical chemistry! Its not possible to have everything in one person

A PP stated that none of the women in this post have talked about rich men turning them on.

Posts like this one (where the word "stability" is a stand in for earning power) are all over up post.

There are a number where the poster states that money is a major factor is attracting women. Even up post on this page a female post states money "helps" attract women.

Where did I, or anyone else, say that men have a magical idea that women's sexuality never prioritizes physical appearance.

Most men have known that girls (and then women) like cute boys since they were in their early teens. Even if they were not interested in girls at all. Every young woman I knew (every girl in her mid to late teens) had posters of men they found attractive in their room or dorm room. Tell me how men could see evidence like this and get the magical idea that women do not prioritize physical appearance?

If he knew better he wouldn't want me!

5 years later I feel like I settled.

What will be 5 years from now?

+1. Please tell us in detail.

And everyone who thinks this is awful please make sure to keep that POV when we read about a DW hacking her DH's phone, password, etc. to see if DH has an SO. Or vice versa,

The logix is still flawed.

Contact during a relationship is not relevant since contacting each other is what relationship is about. Contact after a relationship is over is different because the prior relationship is concluded.

Any new contact is the beginning of a new relationship or the beginning of a different type of relationship (i.e., we became friends after we broke up).

Saying "I would not have a problem contacting my ex but do not because I do not want to" is circular reasoning.

The most useful post is one noting that men often contact former lovers to have sex again. He called me to get laid makes so much more sense than he called be because I was the one that got away.

Do many of your friends call former lovers to have sex with them? How many have been called by a past sexual partner seeking to have sex again?

I posted +1000 and I honestly think part of it is men are more sentimental/prone to missing an ex than women. Within my friend group almost every woman has been contacted by an ex at some point or another- I would say a fraction of my guy friends are contacted by an ex gf. I think men like to put on a front of being unaffected and if anything that contributes to having trouble getting over a person

Not sure this post's logic works:

1) "Almost every woman has been contacted by ex" - In our society, men are much more likely to initiate romantic contact with a woman than women are with a man. The fact that ex bf initiated the contact with the ex gf is likely given the fact that the man initiated the contact with the woman in the first place.

2) "fraction of guy friends contacted by ex gf" - Please see the point above.

Therefore, fact that men are more likely to contact an ex than women are could be more related more to the fact that men normally contact women in the first place, not how much the ex bf misses the ex gf.

This is interesting since based on this thread alone, the female posters post much more often that they are the "one that got away" than they male posters do. I realize that female posters outnumber male poster so this could account for this fact. It is also possible these women believe they "got away" when if fact other women also believe they "got away" from the same man. It other words, it is very unlikely any one woman is the "one and only one that got away" for any one man.