OP -- make some awesome playlists for your workouts. I always liked singing, "feeling stronger every day" by chicago.

Also, remember, he actually did you a favor by telling you now vs. at the alter, after the first child, after you find out he cheated, etc...

You now can find the person you should be with, so get out there and learn a new skill. I actually learned how to swing dance because I had to go to so many weddings. I suddenly found my "dance card" full. Find something you always wanted to do and go out and do it or learn it.

You got this!

At 9 months, newborn now in launching pad. You know what softens the cervix? Semen. If you want that kid faster, and naturally, don' t let him waste it on a kleenex. This one's on you.

So some tips for DH during Doggie... Tell him to grab your hips and pull you towards him, not push towards you. Feels exactly the same for you, but he's not rushing all his blood to his core. Also, avoid all both lying flat positions before he's behind you. Instead cowgirl/RVCG where you can control the pace and keep with the perpendicular positions. Also, little by little, inch by inch will prolong any session with a methodical pace. He'll get the idea!

If he read the book, he actually cares. Success is your orgasm (orally), correct?

If intercourse means very little to you, he's actually trying to finish quickly to minimize impact on you. Your perception might be its inpersonal, yet he might not feel your positive reaction, regardless of position and interprets that as a dead fish.

Here's my suggestion, let him investigate vibrators you can use together. For example, we've got 6 different ones and I really investigated the models from a bunch of providers including Lelo, We Vibe, Hello Touch and the mother of all -- the Hitachi Magic Wand. Let him purchase one (Adam & Eve always having sales). When he hits the "spot", Tell him. If you want "wax on, wax off" motion, tell him. We will do what you want and it actually improves it.

In return, be enthusiastic and even insert some dirty talk in the mix. Send a text with double entendre. Encourage him to do the same.

Think of it as a cat toy on a string....when you dangle the toy, the cat's super engaged. When you just hand the toy to the cat, it's no longer of interest.

He's no Joe B, but he will definitely do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him go down on you thirty minutes a day.

This!!!!

Could you imagine the strength of his tongue in just 3 weeks? He would be able to shatter an entire stack of cement blocks in one flick.

Oops, I meant OP not PP.

PP: IMHO this is more mental than physical. Happy to recommend an ebook that turned my life/marriage around and cured exactly that same issue about 7 years ago. PM me if interested.

PP spot on. I'm 51 and travel a lot, often by myself. Introducing myself in a strange setting no longer scares me. The confidence you'll feel will become an elixir. Either it will rub off on him or it will carry you through. Make that bucket list and start getting it done!

Yep -- it's mental. Just like in a groove vs, in a rut. Lots of ways to fix it. Been married about 20 years and went through the exact same thing during year 7-8 and again during menopause.

OP: Thanks for sharing. Here if you need to vent more. Prayers for your sanity.

So I googled the Characteristics of an Alpha Male.

Entertaining
Courageous
Defends Others
Confident
Persistent
In Shape
Has Stories to Tell
Laughs at Himself
Educated/Learned
Speaks with Value
Purpose Driven
Hard Worker
Not a Worrier
Has Style
Respects Others
Helps Others Accomplish
Passionate

At 50, I embrace all these qualities and traits. #alphamale

Just make sure your shooting string is not more than 4" from the top of the head of the stick when measured. That's a quick way to a penalty and easy way to get in a coach's doghouse

OP -- my sister = your SIL. She's bi-polar and an addict to boot. Constantly inventing new ways to siphon money out of my 80+ YO Dad. She's relentless and often angry when I won't help her financially. She leaves really mean messages on the VM and then tries to apologize once it gets too bad.

I don't have the answers. I really don't. I've kept her from visiting and only see her in a Public place. She lives 6+ hours away.

As harsh as it seems, I'm emotionally prepared for her to die due to an overdose or deal gone bad. She's 55 years old and at this point, I don't really feel any kin ship towards her.

Does your DH feel the same way or does the "blood is thicker than water" emotions take over for him?

If it helps, I decided to focus on my family and myself and block her out. I'm trying to convince my dad to do the same, but it's really hard for him.

Don't know if this helps, but thanks for listening.

As long as you're not trying to fit your L size into a "smedium", think its fine. Of course, I would still wear garanimals if i could. Hippo to Hippo!