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OP: why settle for a good guy. You deserve a great one. No time or energy wasted on them. Instead, your weight loss shows you can commit to turning a bad situation better with you willing to invest in yourself. However, if you've got another flaw or are a dead fish in bed, it's an easy excuse for the real reason.
Love the PP! Get on the treadmill with a great playlist of awesome upbeat songs (or even f-u breakup songs). The endorphins of exercise will carry you through, and make you look even hotter.
Love purging the closet idea. I gave 5 bags to goodwill of clothes that didnt automatically bring me joy. Felt great to help others and get the negativity out of my closet.
Focus each day on some little self improvement. You'll be amazed what occurs in 2 weeks. If you like music, go see a concert at a club. You'll be amazed the great friends you will meet over a common thing.
You're ex gave you a gift really, because they now allow you to find the person you really should be with. I say it a lot here, but I truly believe the only difference between a groove and a rut is how you see it. If you need a suggestion, I love jammin java in Falls church or the tally ho in Leesburg or the Fillmore in Silver Spring. All have a wide variety of music and its a blast to go get out there!
Love purging the closet idea. I gave 5 bags to goodwill of clothes that didnt automatically bring me joy. Felt great to help others and get the negativity out of my closet.
Focus each day on some little self improvement. You'll be amazed what occurs in 2 weeks. If you like music, go see a concert at a club. You'll be amazed the great friends you will meet over a common thing.
You're ex gave you a gift really, because they now allow you to find the person you really should be with. I say it a lot here, but I truly believe the only difference between a groove and a rut is how you see it. If you need a suggestion, I love jammin java in Falls church or the tally ho in Leesburg or the Fillmore in Silver Spring. All have a wide variety of music and its a blast to go get out there!
She smoked you out. You already proved too easy and she's no longer intrigued. Would you accept this behaviour from any friend? Hell no. But for a chance at someone, you toss out your convictions? Don't settle. You're way better than that.
No paper trails. Ever. This means turning off the GPS in your phones and parking 2 blocks away (or taking a cab, but not an uber). If someone wanted to find you out, they can through a digital footprint and breadcrumbs you leave along the way.
Make sure your communication is on Text Secure or another encrypted app. http://www.businessinsider.com/the-7-safest-apps-to-send-private-and-secure-messages-2015-4#/#textsecure-1
No matter how well you hide your tracks, you can be found. Just make sure you're limiting your exposure.
As for facilities I would get a pay as you go credit card and call the hotel directly for the cheapest rates.
I won't judge, but I don't condone anything stupid just for a great piece of ass.
Make sure your communication is on Text Secure or another encrypted app. http://www.businessinsider.com/the-7-safest-apps-to-send-private-and-secure-messages-2015-4#/#textsecure-1
No matter how well you hide your tracks, you can be found. Just make sure you're limiting your exposure.
As for facilities I would get a pay as you go credit card and call the hotel directly for the cheapest rates.
I won't judge, but I don't condone anything stupid just for a great piece of ass.
First of all....breathe.
You feel the pressure of all other couples sending out baby notifications....breathe.
You hear the stories of people who can't concieve...breathe.
In through the nose out through the mouth.
Now get a glass of wine. Let that breathe, too.
Now, a couple of pointers and quick thoughts.
He's probably got a good enough swim team. You probably are fertile soil as well. You can both get them checked out if it makes life better.
I'm sure you already are charting your cycles and those 2-3 days of perfect timing. To men, BTW this is awesome sex -- get home, get hard, get finished and go watch sportscenter.
As for him, make sure he finishes missionary. We want the fastest path for his swimmers to find their way to you. Also, make sure you've got some wedge underneath you so your hips are elevated during missionary. Think of it as no sperm left behind.
For him, I recommend eating egg whites, celery and no smoking or heavy drinking. Also, switch to boxers and let his cash and prizes dangle without being couped up hotter than bikram yoga session. L-Arginine, zinc and Leticin also help.
Now what you can do to help him finish is "dirty talk." If you feel uncomfortable about it, think about yourself as an actress and your end state here. Start with whispering in his ear some really sexy stuff during missionary. Then get a bit louder and more commanding with it. Dig a nail or two in the small of his back or backside. You get the drift here...
You're probably going to get the desired outcome here, but I will tell you this, he'll love the process. Lather, Rinse and Repeat.
Here's a parable I will share that I love in closing too. A salesman complained he only closed 1/2 of his prospects and felt like a failure. His rabbi asked him to look up the lifetime batting average of the greatest hitter of all time. The next week the Rabbi asked the man what was the number. ".336" So the greatest hitter of all time failed nearly 7 out of every 10 times he got to the plate.
You don't need to be successful 100%, just 1% of the attempts. Now go get that baby!
You feel the pressure of all other couples sending out baby notifications....breathe.
You hear the stories of people who can't concieve...breathe.
In through the nose out through the mouth.
Now get a glass of wine. Let that breathe, too.
Now, a couple of pointers and quick thoughts.
He's probably got a good enough swim team. You probably are fertile soil as well. You can both get them checked out if it makes life better.
I'm sure you already are charting your cycles and those 2-3 days of perfect timing. To men, BTW this is awesome sex -- get home, get hard, get finished and go watch sportscenter.
As for him, make sure he finishes missionary. We want the fastest path for his swimmers to find their way to you. Also, make sure you've got some wedge underneath you so your hips are elevated during missionary. Think of it as no sperm left behind.
For him, I recommend eating egg whites, celery and no smoking or heavy drinking. Also, switch to boxers and let his cash and prizes dangle without being couped up hotter than bikram yoga session. L-Arginine, zinc and Leticin also help.
Now what you can do to help him finish is "dirty talk." If you feel uncomfortable about it, think about yourself as an actress and your end state here. Start with whispering in his ear some really sexy stuff during missionary. Then get a bit louder and more commanding with it. Dig a nail or two in the small of his back or backside. You get the drift here...
You're probably going to get the desired outcome here, but I will tell you this, he'll love the process. Lather, Rinse and Repeat.
Here's a parable I will share that I love in closing too. A salesman complained he only closed 1/2 of his prospects and felt like a failure. His rabbi asked him to look up the lifetime batting average of the greatest hitter of all time. The next week the Rabbi asked the man what was the number. ".336" So the greatest hitter of all time failed nearly 7 out of every 10 times he got to the plate.
You don't need to be successful 100%, just 1% of the attempts. Now go get that baby!
You know you just gave him even more power with your emotional reaction?
Agree with others here. Don't give it oxygen. Let the spark die without comment or fanfare. I traditionally just grin and shrug my shoulders or go get myself some more food. It's that I don't engage that ticks off DW more.
The other line I use is, "You're so much better than that. "
And remember, you came in here with your hot take. This room isn't an AA meeting. It's more like a "cheer-ocracy" to take the line from Bring It On.
Agree with others here. Don't give it oxygen. Let the spark die without comment or fanfare. I traditionally just grin and shrug my shoulders or go get myself some more food. It's that I don't engage that ticks off DW more.
The other line I use is, "You're so much better than that. "
And remember, you came in here with your hot take. This room isn't an AA meeting. It's more like a "cheer-ocracy" to take the line from Bring It On.
Most people I know after divorce actually lost something...weight.
OP: M or F? Definitely can help if Male.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation with my ex-wife.
I found a bunch of lesbian porn on the computer, which she denied looking at. It took me finding more and more of it for her to finally admit that she was starting to feel sexually attracted to one of her friends.
She grew up in an abusive house with self-proclaimed religious folks. I considered that perhaps she was gay or bisexual and repressed it out of fear. We were in our twenties, so I gave her a one time hall pass. She could go figure out if that's what she wanted, and I wouldn't ask any questions. If it was something she wanted to keep doing, then we would need to have a new conversation.
I don't know if I felt threatened necessarily. I recognized early into the marriage that she had issues with self esteem and being herself instead of what she thought other people wanted her to be. Her revelation made me consider that maybe this attraction wasn't a new development and perhaps she'd been lying to herself about her sexuality for years. I loved her, so I wanted her to be happy even if it meant she wouldn't be with me anymore.
Hugs
The world needs more confident people like you. +1
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Recommend a trip away with girl friends. Vegas and Nashville are incredibly popular for a reason as is the slogan, "what happens in vegas..."
You'll be way more at ease and the fear of attachment or being seen isn't there.
Most of all, be vocal in bed of what you want. Tell the partner what works and be a bit demanding. They'll please you and you won't mind the wet spot.
Good luck OP!
You'll be way more at ease and the fear of attachment or being seen isn't there.
Most of all, be vocal in bed of what you want. Tell the partner what works and be a bit demanding. They'll please you and you won't mind the wet spot.
Good luck OP!
Ripping up photo alone doesn't arise to harassment or imminent harm level. Get counseling, because you need to get YOURSELF right -- forget about him.
Something you did or didn't do prompted the cheating. You need to get this out and get yourself ready for your next success.
Make sure you also work out. The more you stress about ripping up a picture, the more he still owns you.
Something you did or didn't do prompted the cheating. You need to get this out and get yourself ready for your next success.
Make sure you also work out. The more you stress about ripping up a picture, the more he still owns you.
OP: Glad he's starting to work out. The endorphins become an elixir almost as powerful as as any craving I've had. Make sure you buy him some great headphones/earbuds to listen to and block out everything on the treadmill/elliptical. It's my escape.
A few of you inquired about Testosterone Replacement Therapy. About a year ago, I got diagnosed with Low T. I started with the gel that you rub under the arm, then moved on to the pellet therapy. In short, makes a big difference. Much more energy, way better mood which makes me want to work out more which helps my metabolism, which makes me look better and feel better. It also helps a ton with anger swings, believe it or not. Much less moody and more generally happy. I know it's not for everyone, but I love my Doctor. She walked me through everything and I feel much much better.
If anything, get a physical and blood work done to see if there isn't a medical issue impacting his health. Then go from there. Feel free to PM me with any other questions if you dont want to in an open forum. Keep at it!
A few of you inquired about Testosterone Replacement Therapy. About a year ago, I got diagnosed with Low T. I started with the gel that you rub under the arm, then moved on to the pellet therapy. In short, makes a big difference. Much more energy, way better mood which makes me want to work out more which helps my metabolism, which makes me look better and feel better. It also helps a ton with anger swings, believe it or not. Much less moody and more generally happy. I know it's not for everyone, but I love my Doctor. She walked me through everything and I feel much much better.
If anything, get a physical and blood work done to see if there isn't a medical issue impacting his health. Then go from there. Feel free to PM me with any other questions if you dont want to in an open forum. Keep at it!
Go shopping and treat yourself to a great new pair of jeans. You Rock!
Here's my problem with it...too many strains now that I feel a paralysis of analysis when I set foot in a dispensary. Literally, its a "how do you want to feel?" and then you're on your way on various strains of sativa and indica.
When I was younger it was "weed" and it was good. We listened to albums and ate munchies. Now, they've got strains that actually differ from giddy to elation to happiness. Not to mention the ones that are for seduction, etc... Wow.
When I was younger it was "weed" and it was good. We listened to albums and ate munchies. Now, they've got strains that actually differ from giddy to elation to happiness. Not to mention the ones that are for seduction, etc... Wow.
DW put ad in Washingtonian mag, which I answered -- (pre online dating). She called me after seeing my pic and hand written note. We got together within a three days of first call. We both knew, even though I tried to keep a bachelor as long as I could. She soon enlisted my Mom's help and they devised a perfect plan. Soon I was shopping for diamonds and emeralds. Happy to say we're nearly 20 years from that ad placed.