Caught dh in a private moment

[Anonymous]

I'm 9 months pregnant. We haven't had sex for like a month (we have regular 1-2 a week in normal circumstances) and we likely won't for another month.

He was doing nothing wrong, it was just terrible luck that I happened to interrupt. It wasn't blatant, he had time to close the internet browser etc so we just both awkwardly acted like nothing happened. Generally we have kind if a don't ask don't tell policy. I know he does it, I do it, but I just don't like to be confronted with it.

I'm also obviously very hormonal and a little insecure about my pregnant body. I have been upset that we haven't been having any sex but it's just really uncomfortable right now. I was up half the night last night with crippling heartburn that had me puking at 3am. He hasn't pressured or tried to push when I'm so uncomfortable so basically he's done nothing wrong but I'm upset.

I don't want to ruin the weekend, I don't really want to talk about it at all but he's going to be able to tell something is wrong and feel terrible.

Ugh I don't know what advice I'm asking for so much as hoping that getting my feelings out can help me just get over this before he wakes up.

[Anonymous]

You are really overthinking this. Just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are really overthinking this. Just move on.

This x1000

[Anonymous]

Married couples still hide masturbation from one another?

Not so in this house!

[Anonymous]

You caught him rubbing one out?! So what? Would he be upset if he caught you? This is no big deal

[Anonymous]

I'm aware I'm over thinking it. Did you miss the part about being super pregnant and hormonal?

And hide is a strong word, we just don't advertise it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are really overthinking this. Just move on.

This x1000

x1,000,000. This is nothing.

[Anonymous]

BJs OP.

[Anonymous]

I've caught him rubbing one out, and always asked if I can finish him. Have done it too many times over a 20 year marriage.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, what? You caught your husband masturbating? To porn? So what? What are you, 10 years old? In some cases you could have joined in and said, "here, let me help you with that" and given him a hand job or something.

There's nothing to process. Your husband was feeling sexual, you're in a dry patch, he was having a little fun. There's nothing to make the weekend awkward unless you insist on making it awkward and shrouding it with shame and secrecy. In your place I'd make a lighthearted comment or a joke now, and clear the air.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've caught him rubbing one out, and always asked if I can finish him. Have done it too many times over a 20 year marriage.

This!

[Roar]

At 9 months, newborn now in launching pad. You know what softens the cervix? Semen. If you want that kid faster, and naturally, don' t let him waste it on a kleenex. This one's on you.

[Anonymous]

OP, use your hands or your mouth.

[Anonymous]

This is so not an issue. i say that kindly. You are nine months pregnant, you understandably don't feel like having sex, your husband is masturbating, big deal.

Now I once was in a relationship (not pregnant) where the guy basically stopped wanting to have sex with me (I asked if he wanted to break up, what was the deal, and he said no) and He left lubricating jelly in the shower after masturbating there. That pissed me off. You don't want to have sex with me but you are leaving masturbation aids in the shower we share? Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I think the main issue here is just that she's not feeling attractive and the whole thing is making her feel insecure. It's hard when you're pregnant, OP. Don't worry. He loves you and thinks you're beautiful. Don't take it personally.