Thicker ones feel ten times better than thin ones, even if it's long
Mmmm, Thank you for reminding me that I have a Dick women crave, lol. Short but ever so thick.

My 2 affairs were beautiful women over the last 2 yrs. One was a 10, plain and simply out of this world beautiful bod that was 20 yrs younger. The other one was exceptional for being 49. She was the kinkiest woman I've ever known. We did everything sexually you can think of.

However, the beauty and newness had nothing to do with why I cheated. It was for one reason only. Lack of Sex. I grew tired of begging and hoping over 30 yrs after having sex avg of 2-3x yr. In the last 2 yrs, something happened with her, and now we have sex 2-3 mth. That's a HUGE increase for me. BUT, it's too little too late. I have such huge resentment that I was denied all those yrs. I'm looking for another Affair now while I can still get erect. I'm not going to let her steal the rest of what sex life I have. 2-3x a mth, while I have to JO every day, just doesn't cut it.

I still have huge issues of guilt because I'm just not wired to cheat. My DW is my best friend and it kills me to do this to her. I couldn't even get erect until after several sessions with my AP because of the guilt. It really does make me so sad and angry that it has come to this. I just have to keep reminding myself that my DW is also the woman that has caused me immeasurable pain by rejection after all those yrs. Sometimes I could just cry thinking about it all. All those thousands of times of having to masturbate, it damaged my soul beyond help. Sometimes the Anger about it is just sooo much to handle. I can't leave her though, I love her and never want her to be hurt. I'm going to hold her tight and let her know she means everything to me when she's on her death bed.

Is she ever catches me, and it's not plausible for me to deny it, I'm going to tell her the truth. It was all about sex. Divorce me if you must, but just know that I still love you. Now you DW can make the hard choice I had to make. I just hope you'll live with the pain of 30 yrs like I did before I took action. By that time, I might be dead, LOL

Thank you for reading and helping me to get this off my chest. Although no matter how many times I write about it, it never seems to help me.

YEP, you gotta be strong and move on. Don't make the mistake of giving him an ultimatum or other means of pressuring him into marriage. It will be a huge mistake in the end. He's already shown thru actions where his mind is and convincing him otherwise will only work short term.
7 yrs says it all , Period.

I lived together for 5. That was a red flag for me but I ignored it because of all the time I had invested. That, and she had the best lookin ass and tits I've ever seen. Still have the best ass and tits for her age. In hindsight, I wished I didn't ignore the red flags. It's been a ball and chain that I couldn't leave because of having kids.

Agreed. You're making much too big a deal out of it.

I admit, I had tons of partners b4 marriage that the Mrs knew from almost the very beginning. It was before the day of Aids and Herpes thank god. She didn't make a bid deal out of it.

Shortley after her 1st pg, the OB told her she had an unusual exam and HPV caused it. She came home accusing me of cheating. Never cheated for the first 31 yrs. It was perpostourous for her to think so, so I pretty much just ignored it. They burned her cervix which she described how painful it was, ouch.

7 yrs later, the exact same thing occured after the 2nd pg. She had it taken care of again. She's had perfectly normal exams for the last 20 yrs.

I would say, stop hinting to your DH and come right out and tell him you need more emotional support from him. For heavens sake, stop accusing him and making him feel to blame.
Young men have a hard time understanding women ..... keep having direct talks until it gets thru to him. Men are very different from women. Learn to love it.

Anonymous wrote:It's his responsibility to deal with his mother - but, in this case since this is your career in jeopardy - you should call her and explain the situation.

If she gets hurt/angry too bad.

DH here. YES, he's being a BUTT

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Anonymous wrote:maybe you should stop picking losers?

Maybe- but I've also had relationships without cheating. It's not pathological- it comes back to my point that *most* (if you want to exempt yourself or your partner from this category, fine) people are capable of infidelity. Some don't even need to be unhappy in their current relationship to cheat.

how do you know? you don't seem very astute, having fallen for the same shit twice.

Maybe there are a lot of people out ther falling for this shit and don't know it? The first time I was shattered and didn't reflect- it was when it happened again that I saw the pattern.

It says more about the character of people that you chose to have relationships with (pattern - stop picking losers). You are the common denominator.

EXCUSE me little ms ignorant the pattern isn't picking losers. the pattern in all probablity is the wife being TOO DAMN selfish as a Lover.

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Anonymous wrote:maybe you should stop picking losers?

Maybe- but I've also had relationships without cheating. It's not pathological- it comes back to my point that *most* (if you want to exempt yourself or your partner from this category, fine) people are capable of infidelity. Some don't even need to be unhappy in their current relationship to cheat.

No, EVERY person is capable of infidelity. A man can visit a call girl and a woman can pick up a man in a bar for a one night stand anytime they want. So what? Most people do not cheat.

Yeah, I guess. But 51% not cheating at any time during marriage isn't much to brag about

jooos, I mean when I WASNT married

I think it's a factless based article

I clean house 50% and do all the grocery shopping / cooking. I get 10% of the sex when I was married.
Listen. If you have a spouse with a very low sex drive ......... you can't do shit about it when they're selfish on top of that.

When you figure it out, let me know.

I've lived thru your situation. Coming up on 60 now. Except my wife never had much of a libido before the first child. Kept telling me she would get better. I felt she was just lying to me. Sex normally 2x a yr, once went 2 yrs without sex. Never a BJ in marriage. Never let me live one of my fantasies. Never one pg sex nite, etc etc. I tried everything you did and more, including couseling.
Bottom line ........... no way in hell I was going to leave my kids, period.
I was faithful all those yrs, even though I think she had one affair. Simply because I didn't want her to have an excuse to take the kids.

Her libido didn't pick up in the 40s. Sure, blame it mostly on the husband. You've no idea the pain I went thru. I'm sorry man, I know it's tough.

In hindsight do I wished I divorced. NO. My kids are the most important thing in the World. Not everyone feels as me though. You'll have to make your own decision.