Anonymous wrote:How old are kids?

Anonymous wrote:I think the ethical thing would be to find some way to work this out. Leaving a SAHM and 2 kids because your sex life went downhill seems pretty shitty.

Anonymous wrote:Have you already met someone?

Anonymous wrote:Let me get this straight. You're thinking about turning your kids' world upside down solely due to lack of sex. And you haven't told your DW this or, it sounds like, sought professional help.

Good luck explaining your divorce to your kids in about 15 years.

I do think sex is important, but that your reaction to this situation tells me that you play a role in this. You have two young kids, your wife SAH with them, you are just emerging from the young kid vortex, and your reaction is you want an open marriage or divorce? After trying toys, books, talks?

What would your wife say about your marriage? Would she say you're checked out and have been for awhile, that she feels a lot of weight on her shoulders, and that has killed her sex drive? It seems like you have much bigger marital problems but you've condensed it into a sex problem. Which is making yet another demand on a woman who already has a ton of demands on her.

I'd venture to guess that if a marriage is lacking in sex, requesting more sex without addressing the issues that resulted in no sex never works.

I think you need to tell your wife how unhappy you are in your marriage and see if she is open to counseling. Actually, just you going to individual counseling might help you see what the underlying problems are and whether the marriage is salvageable. I think you need to at least understand what you are dealing with and attempt to fix the underlying issues before you give up on this since you have kids.