Guy Said I’m Not in His League..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Weird comment from him

Thought he was talking about being more attractive at first


Focus on being attractive, fun to be around and not crazy

Those attributes are way more important to a man than your career status if you are just talking about dating

By the time things get serious, your career will be on a better track

+1 Most guys couldn't care less about your academic credentials and earning potential. It's probably only an issue to guys who live beyond their means or are obsessed with status. And for guys with money, all of that stuff is even less relevant. If you are feminine, non-militant, and try to complement your man, you will be just fine.

Some of the above posts are harsh....but most men I know want women whom are their peers education and salary potential wise. They may not be as crazy about like women, but its def counted for. Didn't women fight for equality?

Being the sole breadwinner is stressful.

How old are you people posting stuff like this? Mid 40’s at least I’m guessing? Nowadays, a woman’s a catch if she has her life together, which means higher education in a marketable field, no student loans, and family wealth. The days of the cute, dumb secretary having her pick of guys are over unless her family is wealthy.

[Anonymous]

sounds just like a lot of other DCUMs posters that what the man to have his life together and have a high 6 figure salary by 29.

He has his priorities and standards. Thumbs up for him knowing what he wants and sticking to it! He is empowered.

[Anonymous]

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This is not most men. This is a dude without a libido. When a guy falls in love, he doesn't care what she does for a living or how much money she makes, or whether or not she has kids, or anything else. When he's in love, he wants to be with her. Then they figure it out together. All of this shit you're saying is not the real world.

The voice of reason.

[Anonymous]

OK. So you are not in his league. So what? You are in a league of your own and you will find a partner who will be appreciative of you. You do not have to be compatible with everyone romantically. One person is enough.

[Anonymous]

What a inconsiderate LOSER. He has no manner's. Find someone less judgemental. It's one thing to think this but he actually told you. He's very rude. You do not want to be with this guy OP. You can do much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had been on 2 dates with a guy who told he didn’t think it will work out. He gave the reason as me not being in the “ league” he usually goes for. I worked as a medical tech and just took the jump to further my career. I just started school ( 4 years - 3 years bachelor + 1 year fellowship) to become a radiation therapist. He said I’m cute and fun with a good personality, but he is looking for someone who has their life together at our 29. I get it, and I figured it would be an issue, but it sucks. I want to find something serious, maybe that can lead to marriage, but now do put off from dating. I want to be seen as a great catch, but I know in my current state, most wont view me in that way. Part of me wants to just wait until at least done with school ( 32) to start dating. Maybe then I will have a better chance as coming across as a better catch. I’m bummed and feeling hopeless.

I do not understand OP why you are offended. He went out with you twice, decided you are not what he is looking for and has moved on. Why would he want to date you, and miss the woman of his dreams? And why would you want to waste your time dating him, when you should be looking the man of your dreams?

I met a very nice person, great in fact, but not for me. He asked for another date, I told him the truth - we are in different places in life, looking for different things, I wish you the best. (instead of ghosting or making up some bs)

[Anonymous]

Did not read the other comments but this is a guy that you dumb. Run away, Op!! As fast as you can and do not look back.

[Anonymous]

^dump

[Anonymous]

He's a tactless twit with an inflated sense of his own worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had been on 2 dates with a guy who told he didn’t think it will work out. He gave the reason as me not being in the “ league” he usually goes for. He said I’m cute and fun with a good personality, but he is looking for someone who has their life together at our 29.

I’ve edited out your editorials and left only what you report he said to you. What’s wrong with this? He says he wants someone with their life together. What’s wrong with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is empowered.

Yeah, like a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had been on 2 dates with a guy who told he didn’t think it will work out. He gave the reason as me not being in the “ league” he usually goes for. He said I’m cute and fun with a good personality, but he is looking for someone who has their life together at our 29.

I’ve edited out your editorials and left only what you report he said to you. What’s wrong with this? He says he wants someone with their life together. What’s wrong with that?

If he literally told Op that she was not in the "league" of women that he usually goes for and that he's disinterested in her because she doesn't have her "life together", that's tactless and a rude statement to make. If Op is putting those words into his mouth after what he really said was, "I think you are cute. fun, have a great personality but I'm looking for someone who is a bit more established in life"....that is different.

But you don't go out with someone and tell them that they are out of your league and put them down for not having their act together. That's needlessly rude and even downright mean.

[Anonymous]

^And, in Op's case, it wouldn't even be true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

That's fine, but what kind of jerk tells a woman she's out of his league. That's laughable.

Most of the men in this area are seeking a woman with a fat wallet to increase social status and move into a minority free neighborbood then brag on dcum about not being able to clean their 6000sq ft house in mclean.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is empowered.

Yeah, like a woman.

In a competitive area women feel they need to be men and men feel they need to be women.