Guy Said I’m Not in His League..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you've posted about this before?
Try not to take it personally, he just wasn't the guy for you. There will be other guys who feel like he does, but they really don't matter. Focus on the guys who would never dream of seeing your school situation as a negative.

No. First time.

Well then you can take some comfort in knowing there are other women in the same boat as you! Right down to the ages. Try not to let it get to you, everyone isn't supposed to be a match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

This times a million. What a dou***

[Anonymous]

Is this you?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/703756.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

This times a million. What a dou***

Disagree. He told her on the second date that it wasn’t going to work out and he didn’t want to date her any more... for the reason he stated or it could be whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s his job that makes him such a high league?

Op here. He’s a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

This times a million. What a dou***

Disagree. He told her on the second date that it wasn’t going to work out and he didn’t want to date her any more... for the reason he stated or it could be whatever.

So then say "I don't think this is going to work out." No utility in putting someone down.

He probably has a small penis.

Upward and onward, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

This times a million. What a dou***

Disagree. He told her on the second date that it wasn’t going to work out and he didn’t want to date her any more... for the reason he stated or it could be whatever.

+1
His words were unkind but at least he didn't let it linger, I think that would have been worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s his job that makes him such a high league?

Op here. He’s a lawyer.

Lawyers are a dime a dozen around here. He’s not that into you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/703756.page

Op here. No, it’s not me. Similar age but different field, age of getting degree, and no way will I be making that high of a salary. It is common, I’m sure, that more than one person will go back to school at 29, besides myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s his job that makes him such a high league?

Op here. He’s a lawyer.

You got away without a venereal disease. Any thoughts more than that aren't worth having.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

This times a million. What a dou***

Disagree. He told her on the second date that it wasn’t going to work out and he didn’t want to date her any more... for the reason he stated or it could be whatever.

So then say "I don't think this is going to work out." No utility in putting someone down.

He probably has a small penis.

Upward and onward, OP!

Most people want a reason why the other person does not want to date them and ANY answer is not going to be “nice”; Not attracted, not pretty enough, too poor, etc.

This is why people ghost. No reason is good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most guys don’t care about career stuff if they are into you. This guy just wasn’t into you and told you on the second date. Move on.

Such bs. Many men care about whether a woman is educated or not. Society portrays all men care is if a woman will keep putting it, but that’s simply untrue. Many men want a woman who is on the same level as them. That includes looks, educated, and income.

[Anonymous]

Someone who talks like that, despite what he may think of himself does not “have his life together” OP. I am 35 and I would think he is grossly immature. And character is ultimately more important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 29 and just started a 4 yr program. That means you'll be 33 when you're done. For the next 4 years, you're primary focus will be school and I'll assume you also have a job. That doesn't leave a lot of time for dating. Depending upon how you are paying for your education, there maybe debt at the end.

By 33, you're going to want to start a family. What time does that leave for just the 2 of you? Maybe he is not looking for someone that comes into a marriage with potential debt, lack of time for the relationship, and a desire to start a family before the biological clock starts clanging.

I wouldn't say that you are out of his league, just that the two of you are at
different places in life right now. FWIW--I'm female and I can see his perspective.

Op here. I am fully aware that with being older and starting a new career, I won’t been seen as that great of a catch. I want to further my career because it’s the best choice for me. I know it will benefit me later in life once I have a family.

I do not expect anyone to take on any debt. I will be paying fir majority of this degree out of my savings. I will have about 10k of debt to pay off, which I will single handedly pay. I also do not want children until 35+, definitely not at 33. Not all women strive to start a family by 33.

+1. I am so tired of women and men who think women are just driven by their biological clock. Many women do not base every decision on whether and when they will have kids. That is not eneough the main priority for many women. The facts support that given many women over the last decade have been having families 35+ in order to put their career first. A woman never should feel pressured into thinking or feeling she needs to have a child by a certain age. We determine when it is best for us based on our lifestyles. We are individuals, and therefore should be seen as such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

+1