Guy Said I’m Not in His League..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

That's fine, but what kind of jerk tells a woman she's out of his league. That's laughable.

[Anonymous]

What a loser!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow what a terrible person. I'm a nanny and single guys probably think that way about me but the divorced DILFs loooooove me. I'm cute and great with kids. There's a lid for every pot!

I like your attitude! What is a DILF , by the way?

I'm a DILF and while I can pull women in their 20s, and nannys, I tend to go for women with high-powered careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're 29 and just started a 4 yr program. That means you'll be 33 when you're done. For the next 4 years, you're primary focus will be school and I'll assume you also have a job. That doesn't leave a lot of time for dating. Depending upon how you are paying for your education, there maybe debt at the end.

By 33, you're going to want to start a family. What time does that leave for just the 2 of you? Maybe he is not looking for someone that comes into a marriage with potential debt, lack of time for the relationship, and a desire to start a family before the biological clock starts clanging.

I wouldn't say that you are out of his league, just that the two of you are at different places in life right now. FWIW--I'm female and I can see his perspective.

I don’t and I think it’s bs ! If this stuff this is important do the world a favor and don’t reproduce

[Anonymous]

It would be reasonable to be concerned that she will be too busy for a relationship, but that's not really the issue. He said that OP was not up to his league socioeconomic status-wise. This is NOT a typical concern for most men. Maybe it's common in DC, but not in general. Most educated, successful men are OK being with a less educated, less successful woman, as long as he finds her to be attractive. Men are different from women in this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

+1000. Don’t look back OP. He would have been a nightmare husband.

[Anonymous]

He's a d-bag and its best to move on. Disregard his crap because he is full of it.

[Anonymous]

Would it have been better if he ghosted?

[Anonymous]

Can you date a nurse from your job? Or a physical therapist or something.

Lots of people are more open than this dude

[Anonymous]

Oh man, he must be the guy in the "red flag" thread.

UGH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird comment from him

Thought he was talking about being more attractive at first


Focus on being attractive, fun to be around and not crazy

Those attributes are way more important to a man than your career status if you are just talking about dating

By the time things get serious, your career will be on a better track

+1 Most guys couldn't care less about your academic credentials and earning potential. It's probably only an issue to guys who live beyond their means or are obsessed with status. And for guys with money, all of that stuff is even less relevant. If you are feminine, non-militant, and try to complement your man, you will be just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

Thank God you're not in the dating pool anymore!

+1

Not every woman wants to marry a tightwad cheapskate like the pp. If he doesn't want to support anyone will his wife lose her worth to him if she is laid off or loses her job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow what a terrible person. I'm a nanny and single guys probably think that way about me but the divorced DILFs loooooove me. I'm cute and great with kids. There's a lid for every pot!

I like your attitude! What is a DILF , by the way?

I'm a DILF and while I can pull women in their 20s, and nannys, I tend to go for women with high-powered careers.

Men today might as well be women. Just marry a 70 yr old rich granny and leave normal women alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

That's fine, but what kind of jerk tells a woman she's out of his league. That's laughable.

Most of the men in this area are seeking a woman with a fat wallet to increase social status and move into a minority free neighborbood then brag on dcum about not being able to clean their 6000sq ft house in mclean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No. This is a dude who likes to judge women to shore up his shriveled little ego.

If she was already through school and into a job, he'd find something else to chuck in her face.

And starting a family at 33 is hardly unusual these days. Many women do it later, especially educated ones. Mind blown?

Tough shit. Millions upon millions of handsome, hard working, well intentioned men have been shitcanned by women because they felt they were "out of his league." Now the tables have turned.

This.

Female here and the DCUM double standard is disgusting.