My wife is an entitled bum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever makes the most and works the longest, does the least. Sorry, that's the unspoken rule.

This!

But not none. I don't read anywhere that Op's wife does 40%.

And, I bet you ladies wouldn't feel the same if a woman made 50k working full time and her husband making 100k. Double standard AF. I'm a woman, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever makes the most and works the longest, does the least. Sorry, that's the unspoken rule.

This!

No, whoever cares the most does the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever makes the most and works the longest, does the least. Sorry, that's the unspoken rule.

This!

No, whoever cares the most does the most.

1000x this! ^

[Anonymous]

This whole thread is so dumb. Two hard working attorneys should hire a friggin cleaning service. If you want to be there, work in one room while they are cleaning the rest of the house and then switch to another part of the house when they need to clean that room. This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so dumb. Two hard working attorneys should hire a friggin cleaning service. If you want to be there, work in one room while they are cleaning the rest of the house and then switch to another part of the house when they need to clean that room. This is ridiculous.

And can I add also, I'm a lawyer living with a
Lawyer. We each do our own laundry. He washes the sheets; I wash the towels. We have someone come
Clean every couple weeks. We each pick
Up after ourselves in between. Two people
Living together with no kids with money to hire a
Maid should not be a difficult situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire someone.

That's racist.

[Anonymous]

it s unfortunate what you are going through, however you have no one else to blame but yourself. I am sure this behavior did not just suddenly show up as you stated from her upbringing her parents did everything for her. As you were dating her that was the time to discern if the two of you would be a match. well it doesn't seem there is! marriage is a partnership and involves a lot of compromise regardless of who makes more money or not. she not wanting a cleaning service is ridiculous to begin with. you know her more that anyone on this thread.. so you will have to decide because her behavior is not going to change. she is not willing to make any compromise with managing your (both) household. I have made significantly more that my husband and do most of the cleaning/cooking.. I seriously hate doing dishes and he does them for me. or he will let me know to wash my one plate so it doesn't pile up into a huge mess. We both work FT and am in the healthcare working opposite shifts and we still manage to get things done. I even still joke to hiring a cleaning service but I intend to do so the moment we have kids and that my bottom line.... either get counseling to figure the underlying issues of your marriage cuz this won't last as you will get resentful. best to figure it out now than later and hopefully you (get a vasectomy) or she ties her tubes cuz children like a PP said will magnified the issue.

[Anonymous]

Tough to get a good man in dc. Handsome (according to himself) check, good earning potential check, cooks and cleans and does the laundry check.

Dump her and get on tinder. I’m waiting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does barely any work around the house.
She has a good job and makes a lot of money. More than double what I make and that's fine with me. We both work but I am the only one that works around the house. We also don't have kids.

I usually come home a couple of hours before she does. We live in 2,000 sqft row house
I cook and do the dishes. I clean the house, including the bathrooms. I do the laundry. I tidy up pretty much on a daily basis.
I usually work from about 9-6, she works from 9-8. She wakes up in the morning, earlier than I do, and watches trashy TV from about 6 to 8. She doesn't do the dishes from my cooking the night before. She doesn't tidy up the house in those 2 hours. We have portable tv headphones, so she can walk around and do stuff...but doesn't.
The only thing she does is pack me a lunch (usually a sandwich, meat, cheese, and a condiment) and often forgets something.

I've told her before that this can't continue. she usually makes a small effort to appease me, and then its back to normal.

I am now thinking of leaving her. I hear women constantly complaining about their lazy husbands and think to myself that I am a rare commodity. I like to cook, but need help from time to time around the house.

With all due respect you sound like a complete ass… Your wife works long and hard and more than deserve those two hours to put her feet up and watch whatever the hell she wants to ' she will be lucky if you leave her, but if you love her-hire a cleaning woman and shut your mouth

[Anonymous]

Tell me more about the headphones! I need these!!

[Anonymous]

Her day starts early (you said 6am for trashy tv) so I'm guessing by 8/830 when she gets home from.work she's too exhausted to do anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so dumb. Two hard working attorneys should hire a friggin cleaning service. If you want to be there, work in one room while they are cleaning the rest of the house and then switch to another part of the house when they need to clean that room. This is ridiculous.

And can I add also, I'm a lawyer living with a
Lawyer. We each do our own laundry. He washes the sheets; I wash the towels. We have someone come
Clean every couple weeks. We each pick
Up after ourselves in between. Two people
Living together with no kids with money to hire a
Maid should not be a difficult situation

It's not a difficult situation for two people who want to stay together and are looking at minimizing friction long-term. But these aren't two happy people, these are two people who resent each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever makes the most and works the longest, does the least. Sorry, that's the unspoken rule.

This!

No, whoever cares the most does the most.

1000x this! ^

+100

DW will sometimes clean (bathrooms/kitchen, etc) but she knows I have to clean in a certain way and probably will have to re-clean after her. No offense to DW I just don’t think she deep cleaning very well. So do most of the cleaning in the house and work about 10-20 hours a week more than she does and make more than double what she earns. if you care about it you will find the time or hire someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does she work twice as much as him. She works 2 hours a day longer. It’s a relationship, not indentured servitude.

Probably all female posters attacking this guy. I’d stop doing anything.

2 hours a day is more than enough time to do all household chores in a family of 2.

If they had children, chores would take much longer.

They don't so Op should be done and relaxing before wife comes home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever makes the most and works the longest, does the least. Sorry, that's the unspoken rule.

This!

No, whoever cares the most does the most.

1000x this! ^

Yup.

And at some point you have ask yourself if you care about a clean house more than you care about your partner.

Also, remember that people perceive mess very differently. Personally, I don't see it sometimes...but if DH asks me to do something I am happy to oblige. And vice versa....luckily we are pretty equal/complimentary when it comes to our mess/cleaning habits.