My wife is an entitled bum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no kids. If you can't find a way to manage the minimal housework of two people who are out of the house all day without resentment, then you two are not a match.

Yup. +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. Not a troll. this is a real post and this is my real life.

We can easily hire cleaners, but she doesn't want to since she doesn't want people in the house when she isn't here. That wouldn't be such a big problem if she actually did something.

The only time she actually cleans is when her mother comes to town.

Unless she works 11 hour days 7 days a week, there's no reason the cleaners couldn't come on a Saturday. So I'm calling troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does barely any work around the house.
She has a good job and makes a lot of money. More than double what I make and that's fine with me. We both work but I am the only one that works around the house. We also don't have kids.

I usually come home a couple of hours before she does. We live in 2,000 sqft row house
I cook and do the dishes. I clean the house, including the bathrooms. I do the laundry. I tidy up pretty much on a daily basis.
I usually work from about 9-6, she works from 9-8. She wakes up in the morning, earlier than I do, and watches trashy TV from about 6 to 8. She doesn't do the dishes from my cooking the night before. She doesn't tidy up the house in those 2 hours. We have portable tv headphones, so she can walk around and do stuff...but doesn't.
The only thing she does is pack me a lunch (usually a sandwich, meat, cheese, and a condiment) and often forgets something.

I've told her before that this can't continue. she usually makes a small effort to appease me, and then its back to normal.

I am now thinking of leaving her. I hear women constantly complaining about their lazy husbands and think to myself that I am a rare commodity. I like to cook, but need help from time to time around the house.

I'd say you are on to something. You guys don't have kids yet and you're already on the rocks over household division of labor to the point of you calling her a lazy bum. I'd go ahead and divorce.

[Anonymous]

I don't think your wife is an entitled bum. I think you're an asshole, for multiple reasons. Who the hell leaves dirty dishes overnight! Why don't you clean as you go when you're cooking dinner? Once I put things in the oven or it's simmering on the stove, I'm cleaning up all the prep dishes.

She has a high pressure job if it's DOUBLE your salary. Has it occurred to you she needs decompression time?

Why do you need someone to pack your lunch for you? Are you a kindergartner?

[Anonymous]

Get a vasectomy, stat. Do not have children with this woman.

[Anonymous]

This took a weird turn to divorce.

Yeah, divorce her. Let someone else marry her and enjoy her income.

Or, outsource and save your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think your wife is an entitled bum. I think you're an asshole, for multiple reasons. Who the hell leaves dirty dishes overnight! Why don't you clean as you go when you're cooking dinner? Once I put things in the oven or it's simmering on the stove, I'm cleaning up all the prep dishes.

She has a high pressure job if it's DOUBLE your salary. Has it occurred to you she needs decompression time?

Why do you need someone to pack your lunch for you? Are you a kindergartner?

Do you think people who leave dishes overnight are automatically assholes? What a strange non-sequitur.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This took a weird turn to divorce.

Yeah, divorce her. Let someone else marry her and enjoy her income.

Or, outsource and save your relationship.

"Enjoy her income" the gold diggers are here

[Anonymous]

Why can’t cleaners come while she is bumming it in the morning watching shows?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here. Not a troll. this is a real post and this is my real life.

We can easily hire cleaners, but she doesn't want to since she doesn't want people in the house when she isn't here. That wouldn't be such a big problem if she actually did something.

The only time she actually cleans is when her mother comes to town.

No, she can't have it both ways. Hire the cleaners.
DH and I both work FT. I definitely do more around the house (all laundry, cooking and dishes) and I would absolutely divorce if he expected me to clean as well.

Hopefully if you can get the cleaners the rest will not be as bad. With 2 extra hours a day, it does make sense that you cook and throw in the laundry, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work 10+ fewer hours a week than she does, and you can't manage to clean the house (especially with no kids to mess it up) and wash some dishes during that time? Weak.

This x1000

+2. There just isn't THAT much work involved here and you're being very overdramatic about it. You should know that if you have kids there will ACTUALLY be a lot of extra work around the house...this problem will be magnified by 50

not dramatic at all, are you?

ya'll are a bunch of misandrists

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think your wife is an entitled bum. I think you're an asshole, for multiple reasons. Who the hell leaves dirty dishes overnight!

+1

You are cooking for yourself too aren't you? So clean it up or just use the dishwasher?!?!?!?!? Its not like she's asking you to cook some 4 course fancy meal just for her every evening.

[Anonymous]

Troll or not, OP has shown that the hypocrisy of some women knows no bounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, OP has shown that the hypocrisy of some women knows no bounds.

x a million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, OP has shown that the hypocrisy of some women knows no bounds.

How? Women who don't want to do housework are advised to outsource all the time (every time), and their husbands usually aren't packing their lunches. OP has 10 extra hours of free time in his week, so he should be doing more of the housework. He shouldn't be doing all of it, which is why everyone agrees his wife is being unreasonable by vetoing a cleaning service.

I'm one who thought OP was a troll trying to prove ~reverse sexism~ but the thread didn't even work out that way. Everyone's saying the same thing they always say; the genders are just reversed.