My wife is an entitled bum

[Anonymous]

My wife does barely any work around the house.
She has a good job and makes a lot of money. More than double what I make and that's fine with me. We both work but I am the only one that works around the house. We also don't have kids.

I usually come home a couple of hours before she does. We live in 2,000 sqft row house
I cook and do the dishes. I clean the house, including the bathrooms. I do the laundry. I tidy up pretty much on a daily basis.
I usually work from about 9-6, she works from 9-8. She wakes up in the morning, earlier than I do, and watches trashy TV from about 6 to 8. She doesn't do the dishes from my cooking the night before. She doesn't tidy up the house in those 2 hours. We have portable tv headphones, so she can walk around and do stuff...but doesn't.
The only thing she does is pack me a lunch (usually a sandwich, meat, cheese, and a condiment) and often forgets something.

I've told her before that this can't continue. she usually makes a small effort to appease me, and then its back to normal.

I am now thinking of leaving her. I hear women constantly complaining about their lazy husbands and think to myself that I am a rare commodity. I like to cook, but need help from time to time around the house.

[Anonymous]

Hire someone.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Hire a cleaning person. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Just get cleaners. Geez. I thought you were going to say she was a SAH.

[Anonymous]

She works twice as long as you do given she makes twice as much. You sound like the bum. Go make some money and stop living off your wife. She works more than you and makes your lunch. Cook your own lunch since you like to cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire someone.

+1, except this is pretty clearly a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just get cleaners. Geez. I thought you were going to say she was a SAH.

He's probably spending her money on his AP while she's hard at work.

[Anonymous]

Try not doing anything and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

How does she work twice as much as him. She works 2 hours a day longer. It’s a relationship, not indentured servitude.

Probably all female posters attacking this guy. I’d stop doing anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try not doing anything and see what happens.

except I can't stand a dirty house. Not OP. I would just stop cooking and the laundry for her specifically. But, yea, hire a cleaner. It's one thing if you can't afford it, though, but sounds like you can? You'll probably still end up doing more of the tidying up and dishes, though. Now you know how most women feel, especially those with kids.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman in your position, although I work the longer hours. Do you plan on having kids? Kids triple your workload (at least), and your DW isn’t likely to change after kids arrive. Even worse, she may decide to SAH but continue to do no work around the house.

If you want kids, I’d get out. Life is really hard with someone who isn’t a functioning adult.

[Anonymous]

Same advice I would give a woman: outsource more. And don't have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does barely any work around the house.
She has a good job and makes a lot of money. More than double what I make and that's fine with me. We both work but I am the only one that works around the house. We also don't have kids.

I usually come home a couple of hours before she does. We live in 2,000 sqft row house
I cook and do the dishes. I clean the house, including the bathrooms. I do the laundry. I tidy up pretty much on a daily basis.
I usually work from about 9-6, she works from 9-8. She wakes up in the morning, earlier than I do, and watches trashy TV from about 6 to 8. She doesn't do the dishes from my cooking the night before. She doesn't tidy up the house in those 2 hours. We have portable tv headphones, so she can walk around and do stuff...but doesn't.
The only thing she does is pack me a lunch (usually a sandwich, meat, cheese, and a condiment) and often forgets something.

I've told her before that this can't continue. she usually makes a small effort to appease me, and then its back to normal.

I am now thinking of leaving her. I hear women constantly complaining about their lazy husbands and think to myself that I am a rare commodity. I like to cook, but need help from time to time around the house.

Your marriage must be pretty shaky if you're thinking of leaving because she doesn't wash a couple dishes and forgets to put a juicebox in your lunch.

[Anonymous]

OP Here. Not a troll. this is a real post and this is my real life.

We can easily hire cleaners, but she doesn't want to since she doesn't want people in the house when she isn't here. That wouldn't be such a big problem if she actually did something.

The only time she actually cleans is when her mother comes to town.

[Anonymous]

You work 10+ fewer hours a week than she does, and you can't manage to clean the house (especially with no kids to mess it up) and wash some dishes during that time? Weak.