Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

"I'd like to see that dress on the floor next to my bed after I help you out of it." -that's a man being honest, saying what the first guy is really thinking.

Added that last one for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"

Also be honest: there are plenty of "nice guys" who have the idea - perhaps not even consciously - that "if I'm a nice guy she'll see I'm not a jerk like all the other guys and she'll want to sleep with me".

If you were old, fat or ugly, he probably wouldn't be nice to you. You'd be invisible."

There are many nice guys who are just nice without being flirty.

I have worked with plenty of tall and handsome guys(I had to include tall because I like tall men) who have been very nice, and I am overweight and ugly.

I have had coworkers compliment my suit, my hairstyle etc without being creepy about it. "Nice haircut", "you look very nice today" etc. I have had nice male coworkers pay for my lunch without being creepy or flirty about it.

Flirting is different from being nice.

For example, there was a party at work where a few guys said to me: "That is a very pretty dress, Lila!" It was a long dress, touching the floor, the only body parts exposed were arms and shoulders(tiny boob girl here so no cleavage). It was a very nice dress because, and women were giving compliments too.

I thanked them and went on my merry way, happy my money was well spent. These guys were just being nice. The dress was pretty and so they complimented it. There was nothing sexual about it.

Then I got on the elevator, and this man(a partner who probably had a very good looking wife at home) stared me up and down like a piece of meat and then said: "that dress looks very sexy on you" with his eyes scanning me from head to toe, side to side. He was staring for much longer than he should have been.

It was just the two of us in the elevator, and I almost vanished. That elevator encounter is flirting, and it is creepy. I was happily married(still am) and there to work. Freaking asshole.

The guy's behavior in the elevator wasn't flirting. He was being a pig. FWIW - I'm a male.

I'm a male also and I completely agree with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

You're FOS and incredibly immature. As to the latter, admiring a woman's appearance while lacking the ability to abstain from mentally undressing and assaulting her qualifies you for more than a statement of immaturity so consider my assessment as kind.

I am a man.

NP: 1) Who said anything about assault? In the unspoken fantasy, she's into it. 2) It's not a lack of ability to abstain from the mental visions, it's a lack of desire to abstain. If it's purely mental and unspoken, it's not hurting anyone and adds some luster to an otherwise mostly dreary existence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It annoys me a lot. Admire me as a great coworker. Find me interesting enough to be a friend. But don't flirt. To me, that means you don't respect me or my husband or my relationship. So I figure you don't have much respect for women in general.

+1

This, exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

You're FOS and incredibly immature. As to the latter, admiring a woman's appearance while lacking the ability to abstain from mentally undressing and assaulting her qualifies you for more than a statement of immaturity so consider my assessment as kind.

I am a man.

I agree - person is FOS.

[Anonymous]

That he is giving his wife a heart attack by doing this in front of the wofe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a women who is good looking with a nice body still (I'm not bragging, it is what it is...lucked out) I enjoy when certain men flirt with me. They know I'm married. I wear my engagement and wedding band everyday. I've had this chat with my friends and the honest truth is it all 100% depends on man. And yes it is 100% unfair.

If the flirting is coming from an attractive or nice man most women don't mind at all. But, if it's coming from someone you don't care for or isn't attractive it's "harassment" or "unwanted". Yes, it's unfair but that's life. Any woman who's honest will agree. You don't mind the small flirt or touch on the shoulder from an attractive nice man. But, if it's from someone you don't care for you file it under "harassment".

PERFECT EXAMPLE
I have a friend whom I've known for eight years. We are both married and met after we were married. In honestly if I could turn back time I would LOVE OH MY LOVE to have dated this man before I met my husband. He's kind, sweet, mature, hard working, very funny and attractive. He's my "if I wasn't married now crush". I know he feels the same by the way he speaks whenever we talk.

One day I asked him for a huge favor. We were at a member's club chatting (meaning not many people around) at the bar and a few times he placed his hand on my knees. I was wearing a skirt. I did not flinch. Of course, we both knew it was just flirting. But, reality is I've had other members in the club try to give me hugs or whatever and if they did that..hell no. Some may read this and think it's wrong for me to let someone touch my knee, but really it's a knee not my tits or ass. Bottom line is it depends on the man and what type of flirting it is. My friend has never mentioned my body in specifics, only saying how nice I look, etc. He knows the line as I do.

I see some of my friends who get chatted up by men. Sure it's flirting to a degree but it's harmless. As someone posted above "we're not dead".

What's wrong with a hug? (of course while your "friend" rubs your knee and it's fine)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

correct

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

correct

+1

Any man that doesn't think about attractive women nude needs to get his testosterone levels checked. Or maybe you're gay. It has nothing to do with maturity. It's hard wired into us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

I don't know that THAT is true or not, but the different lines about the dress rings true. Exactly how I'd parse it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

correct

So why do you insist that sexy gym guy wasn't looking at me??? He was imagining right through my tank top and yoga pants.

+1

Any man that doesn't think about attractive women nude needs to get his testosterone levels checked. Or maybe you're gay. It has nothing to do with maturity. It's hard wired into us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a women who is good looking with a nice body still (I'm not bragging, it is what it is...lucked out) I enjoy when certain men flirt with me. They know I'm married. I wear my engagement and wedding band everyday. I've had this chat with my friends and the honest truth is it all 100% depends on man. And yes it is 100% unfair.

If the flirting is coming from an attractive or nice man most women don't mind at all. But, if it's coming from someone you don't care for or isn't attractive it's "harassment" or "unwanted". Yes, it's unfair but that's life. Any woman who's honest will agree. You don't mind the small flirt or touch on the shoulder from an attractive nice man. But, if it's from someone you don't care for you file it under "harassment".

PERFECT EXAMPLE
I have a friend whom I've known for eight years. We are both married and met after we were married. In honestly if I could turn back time I would LOVE OH MY LOVE to have dated this man before I met my husband. He's kind, sweet, mature, hard working, very funny and attractive. He's my "if I wasn't married now crush". I know he feels the same by the way he speaks whenever we talk.

One day I asked him for a huge favor. We were at a member's club chatting (meaning not many people around) at the bar and a few times he placed his hand on my knees. I was wearing a skirt. I did not flinch. Of course, we both knew it was just flirting. But, reality is I've had other members in the club try to give me hugs or whatever and if they did that..hell no. Some may read this and think it's wrong for me to let someone touch my knee, but really it's a knee not my tits or ass. Bottom line is it depends on the man and what type of flirting it is. My friend has never mentioned my body in specifics, only saying how nice I look, etc. He knows the line as I do.

I see some of my friends who get chatted up by men. Sure it's flirting to a degree but it's harmless. As someone posted above "we're not dead".

What's wrong with a hug? (of course while your "friend" rubs your knee and it's fine)

What if you don't want to hug someone? Why is a hug okay when it's almost full body on body contact, but a hand on a knee is worse??? You need to get a clue. Also, it's the woman's right to accept affection from whomever she chooses. She's not hiding that she likes her friend, so what's the problem? It's pretty common you let your guard down around people you like.

Grow up. Welcome to the real world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's hard to tell what is flirting and what is just a guy being nice.

I've had to see an ENT recently for a health issue; he's very attractive. He always tells me I look great and makes intense eye contact. It almost seems flirty but I think it's just him being friendly. I think it's easy to confuse the two.

Sounds like you were probably the one flirting.

How does this sound like she was the one flirting?

Sounds like a typical case of a woman imagining flirting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, hand on the knee isn't flirting. That's groping.

Only in America would someone say something that stupid. This only place on earth where normal human behavior is some crisis. It's no wonder so many women that come here think 80% of men are gay.

That you think it's OK to reach out and physically touch someone's body without their permission makes me think you're likely an assaulter. It's NOT OK.

Without permission? They are friends. They flirt. And obviously if the woman has a "crush" on this man and she did not seem to mind...what is this talk about permission? We are not talking about a complete stranger. Per the story they have been friends for eight years.

Like I said, only in American would some psycho woman say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"

Also be honest: there are plenty of "nice guys" who have the idea - perhaps not even consciously - that "if I'm a nice guy she'll see I'm not a jerk like all the other guys and she'll want to sleep with me".

If you were old, fat or ugly, he probably wouldn't be nice to you. You'd be invisible."

There are many nice guys who are just nice without being flirty.

I have worked with plenty of tall and handsome guys(I had to include tall because I like tall men) who have been very nice, and I am overweight and ugly.

I have had coworkers compliment my suit, my hairstyle etc without being creepy about it. "Nice haircut", "you look very nice today" etc. I have had nice male coworkers pay for my lunch without being creepy or flirty about it.

Flirting is different from being nice.

For example, there was a party at work where a few guys said to me: "That is a very pretty dress, Lila!" It was a long dress, touching the floor, the only body parts exposed were arms and shoulders(tiny boob girl here so no cleavage). It was a very nice dress because, and women were giving compliments too.

I thanked them and went on my merry way, happy my money was well spent. These guys were just being nice. The dress was pretty and so they complimented it. There was nothing sexual about it.

Then I got on the elevator, and this man(a partner who probably had a very good looking wife at home) stared me up and down like a piece of meat and then said: "that dress looks very sexy on you" with his eyes scanning me from head to toe, side to side. He was staring for much longer than he should have been.

It was just the two of us in the elevator, and I almost vanished. That elevator encounter is flirting, and it is creepy. I was happily married(still am) and there to work. Freaking asshole.

The guy's behavior in the elevator wasn't flirting. He was being a pig. FWIW - I'm a male.

No she sounds like a mental case