Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

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Anonymous wrote:Different quotes:

"That's a great looking dress" - that's a compliment about the dress

"That dress looks really good on you" - that's flirting because its about you and the dress

"That dress looks really sexy on you" - that's being a pig because he's thinking about what's underneath the dress.

Well, o.k. But you do know that when he says "that's a great looking dress," he's still thinking about having sex with you.

Newsflash- if you're pretty every single man you encounter every single day is thinking about having sex with you. It doesn't mean we'll try to, but we sure will think about you naked and moaning.

You're FOS and incredibly immature. As to the latter, admiring a woman's appearance while lacking the ability to abstain from mentally undressing and assaulting her qualifies you for more than a statement of immaturity so consider my assessment as kind.

I am a man.

NP: 1) Who said anything about assault? In the unspoken fantasy, she's into it. 2) It's not a lack of ability to abstain from the mental visions, it's a lack of desire to abstain. If it's purely mental and unspoken, it's not hurting anyone and adds some luster to an otherwise mostly dreary existence.

Oh my lord, you are such a little drama queen.
"I am a man............barely"

[Anonymous]

I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how it's done. if it's subtle--not too pushy-- I don't mind it. Never in the workplace, obviously

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's hard to tell what is flirting and what is just a guy being nice.

I've had to see an ENT recently for a health issue; he's very attractive. He always tells me I look great and makes intense eye contact. It almost seems flirty but I think it's just him being friendly. I think it's easy to confuse the two.

Sounds like you were probably the one flirting.

How does this sound like she was the one flirting?

Sounds like a typical case of a woman imagining flirting.

Sounds like they were both flirting with each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

From anyone, or only *certain* guys?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

From anyone, or only *certain* guys?

Women file men into three categories.

1. Like.
2. Dislike.
3. Don't Care.

May seem funny but it's true. All men fall into one of these three categories and over time they may change files, but overall they stay there. Women love attention from men in the "like" category. I'm not referring to flirting, just any attention at all. Even if it's 100% work related. But, women dislike any contact with someone they file under "Dislike".

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

From anyone, or only *certain* guys?

Women file men into three categories.

1. Like.
2. Dislike.
3. Don't Care.

May seem funny but it's true. All men fall into one of these three categories and over time they may change files, but overall they stay there. Women love attention from men in the "like" category. I'm not referring to flirting, just any attention at all. Even if it's 100% work related. But, women dislike any contact with someone they file under "Dislike".

dislike vs. don't care? is there a distinction?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

From anyone, or only *certain* guys?

I think probably anyone as long as he wasn’t rude or scary about it.

If the guy was really good looking I’d probably be totally intimidated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it flattering and I like it, unless it becomes creepy.

+1. I like it.

From anyone, or only *certain* guys?

Women file men into three categories.

1. Like.
2. Dislike.
3. Don't Care.

May seem funny but it's true. All men fall into one of these three categories and over time they may change files, but overall they stay there. Women love attention from men in the "like" category. I'm not referring to flirting, just any attention at all. Even if it's 100% work related. But, women dislike any contact with someone they file under "Dislike".

dislike vs. don't care? is there a distinction?

Yes. Dislike means you want nothing to do with them. You actually dislike them as a person. Don't Care means you don't mind them, they're just people in the world. This can be 90% of co-workers or just someone in your life that doesn't really have an impact. Don't Care are the ones who can move to "Like" or "Dislike". Huge difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a women who is good looking with a nice body still (I'm not bragging, it is what it is...lucked out) I enjoy when certain men flirt with me. They know I'm married. I wear my engagement and wedding band everyday. I've had this chat with my friends and the honest truth is it all 100% depends on man. And yes it is 100% unfair.

If the flirting is coming from an attractive or nice man most women don't mind at all. But, if it's coming from someone you don't care for or isn't attractive it's "harassment" or "unwanted". Yes, it's unfair but that's life. Any woman who's honest will agree. You don't mind the small flirt or touch on the shoulder from an attractive nice man. But, if it's from someone you don't care for you file it under "harassment".

PERFECT EXAMPLE
I have a friend whom I've known for eight years. We are both married and met after we were married. In honestly if I could turn back time I would LOVE OH MY LOVE to have dated this man before I met my husband. He's kind, sweet, mature, hard working, very funny and attractive. He's my "if I wasn't married now crush". I know he feels the same by the way he speaks whenever we talk.

One day I asked him for a huge favor. We were at a member's club chatting (meaning not many people around) at the bar and a few times he placed his hand on my knees. I was wearing a skirt. I did not flinch. Of course, we both knew it was just flirting. But, reality is I've had other members in the club try to give me hugs or whatever and if they did that..hell no. Some may read this and think it's wrong for me to let someone touch my knee, but really it's a knee not my tits or ass. Bottom line is it depends on the man and what type of flirting it is. My friend has never mentioned my body in specifics, only saying how nice I look, etc. He knows the line as I do.

I see some of my friends who get chatted up by men. Sure it's flirting to a degree but it's harmless. As someone posted above "we're not dead".

What's wrong with a hug? (of course while your "friend" rubs your knee and it's fine)

I'm not sure if she's saying "hell no" to the hug or to a hypothetical knee touch from the other guys. Though, once a guy has his hand on your knee, he usually tries to move it further north...

[Anonymous]

I think that it's wrong to flirt with a married women. I am actually flirting very often, but only with young girls that really want it. If they don't want, I am not trying to flirt with them, and to be annoying. I really know how to flirt correctly with a girl, because I have read a very useful article about this on lovedignity.com/. This helped me a lot, and now it's fine!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care for it at all.

Me either.

[Anonymous]

Flirting in the office better be pretty tame and two-sided. Flirting out and about in a social setting: great.

[Anonymous]

I like men who are smart and show an interest in me as a person but at this stage in my life flirty is cheesy. Save it for hotel bars on your business trips.