Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

[Anonymous]

I am happily married but I like when men I find attractive flirt with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care for it at all.

+1

Nasty.

[Anonymous]

This rarely happens in my office. More often places like starbucks or the post office or some.

Usually I'm flattered since I'm middle aged and not particularly pretty and rarely had any male attention as a younger woman. I am thin and curvy with nice skin, so I guess they are attracted to that.

[Anonymous]

Flirting can be subtle. Subtle flirting overlaps with just being warm, open and friendly, but maybe a degree or two more.

That's fine and fun.

[Anonymous]

I think it's hard to tell what is flirting and what is just a guy being nice.

I've had to see an ENT recently for a health issue; he's very attractive. He always tells me I look great and makes intense eye contact. It almost seems flirty but I think it's just him being friendly. I think it's easy to confuse the two.

[Anonymous]

I am "subtle flirting" poster above.

The reason I am okay with it is that it is really ambiguous at that level. We can both treat it as just normal interaction.

That is something I am okay with.

Blatant means I have to address it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends what you mean by flirting. That term encompasses a whole range of behavior.

I don't mind a compliment or something dignified and easygoing or something subtle. But I feel uncomfortable with intense and/or very obvious flirting. But I felt the same when I wasn't married.

I don't like the kind of flirting that puts me in a situation where I have to respond to it by either flirting back or shutting it down. If it's subtle enough that I don't even have to acknowledge it, then fine. But few men are good at that.

And I actually hate flirting in the workplace. HATE IT. It makes me feel uncomfortable, and it usually makes other people feel uncomfortable. I've been on the receiving end and I've been a bystander. I felt weird in both instances, but the worst is when you are at work and have to be in the room when two people are flirting with each other.

+1000. If you mean I am at the stadium and the guy checks my ID and makes a flattering comment about looking younger type flirting, I’ll take the compliment. But that’s not a hard core, “I know you are married and I am testing the waters to see if you might have sex with me” type flirting. And it’s also not a situation where I need to say more than thank you and keep it moving.

Agree with the workplace thing being awkward. I know people that are married and work at the same place and they keep it strictly professional when they are with a group of people so you don’t get those weird dynamics.

[Anonymous]

The cheating wives will love it and acknowledge the flattery and the ones who are committed to their relationship will ignore it and let it pass by.

[Anonymous]

If it's a good looking guy I'm slightly flattered but if he persists and knows I'm married then it's creepy.

[Anonymous]

I only hit on married women who are preppy and into preppy UMC white men.

[Anonymous]

If it’s Denzel, it’s flattering.

If it’s Clarence, it’s creepy.

It’s all misogynistic.

[Anonymous]

I am flattered and flirt back. Harmless fun. I am married, not dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am flattered and flirt back. Harmless fun. I am married, not dead.

I have never cheated on DH. DH is a big flirt too. I don’t mind probably why we are married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can be completely honest because this is anonymous. I'm flattered most of the time. Even though I'm not a fan of cat calls or the obvious ogling, yeah, I still get an ego boost from it.

And I'm a very happily married woman whose DH makes her feel attractive. I've just always like the attention

Me, too.

Plus, I enjoy adult and/or snarky banter. I think most people do. It helps get you through the day.

[Anonymous]

If it's really just flirting (saying that I look nice, or have a good sense of humor, or the like) it's nice and fun and I enjoy it. If it is comments of an overtly sexual nature, gross.