Married Women: How do you feel when men flirt with you?

[Anonymous]

Even though a woman is married, that doesn't stop men from flirting with them. This behavior is very normal in an office environment, etc.

Woman: How do you feel when men flirt with you even though they're fully aware you are married?

1. Is it flattering?
2. Do you dislike it?
3. Does it depend on the man?
4. Do you like it?

[Anonymous]

I think they're clueless, considering the clear "not interested" vibes I am putting out.

If the guy is genuinely good-looking or charming, I still find them clueless, but I am also slightly flattered.

[Anonymous]

I can be completely honest because this is anonymous. I'm flattered most of the time. Even though I'm not a fan of cat calls or the obvious ogling, yeah, I still get an ego boost from it.

And I'm a very happily married woman whose DH makes her feel attractive. I've just always like the attention

[Anonymous]

Depends on whether the guy is creepy or not.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely love it.

[Anonymous]

I don't think they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think they're clueless, considering the clear "not interested" vibes I am putting out.

If the guy is genuinely good-looking or charming, I still find them clueless, but I am also slightly flattered.

Perhaps you are one of the many, many, many clueless women that think men are hitting on them by being nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they're clueless, considering the clear "not interested" vibes I am putting out.

If the guy is genuinely good-looking or charming, I still find them clueless, but I am also slightly flattered.

Perhaps you are one of the many, many, many clueless women that think men are hitting on them by being nice.

So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they're clueless, considering the clear "not interested" vibes I am putting out.

If the guy is genuinely good-looking or charming, I still find them clueless, but I am also slightly flattered.

Perhaps you are one of the many, many, many clueless women that think men are hitting on them by being nice.

So true.

LOL

No.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It depends what you mean by flirting. That term encompasses a whole range of behavior.

I don't mind a compliment or something dignified and easygoing or something subtle. But I feel uncomfortable with intense and/or very obvious flirting. But I felt the same when I wasn't married.

I don't like the kind of flirting that puts me in a situation where I have to respond to it by either flirting back or shutting it down. If it's subtle enough that I don't even have to acknowledge it, then fine. But few men are good at that.

And I actually hate flirting in the workplace. HATE IT. It makes me feel uncomfortable, and it usually makes other people feel uncomfortable. I've been on the receiving end and I've been a bystander. I felt weird in both instances, but the worst is when you are at work and have to be in the room when two people are flirting with each other.

[Anonymous]

^^^ me again. And even compliments are iffy. I don't like people at work making comments about my body or looks. It just makes me feel uncomfortable.

I had a guy once compliment my body. There was a female manager in the room, and she shot me a nasty look. I really got irritated at the guy. I don't think he realized how that only feeds tension between women in the workplace. It also was inappropriate of him. The female manager should have shot him the nasty look, though, because he was the one acting inappropriately. I didn't do anything wrong. I don't even where form-fitting clothing. I actually go out of my way not to where things that emphasize my body because I just really don't want that attention.

That said, I get equally uncomfortable when women make comments about my body in the context of weight. Usually, it takes the form of a woman being self-deprecating about her weight and then saying something about "you don't have to worry about that" or something along those lines. It just makes me feel weird. I don't know why people feel the need to comment on other people's bodies in the workplace. I never do it.

[Anonymous]

*wear, not where

[Anonymous]

I don't care for it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ me again. And even compliments are iffy. I don't like people at work making comments about my body or looks. It just makes me feel uncomfortable.

I had a guy once compliment my body. There was a female manager in the room, and she shot me a nasty look. I really got irritated at the guy. I don't think he realized how that only feeds tension between women in the workplace. It also was inappropriate of him. The female manager should have shot him the nasty look, though, because he was the one acting inappropriately. I didn't do anything wrong. I don't even where form-fitting clothing. I actually go out of my way not to where things that emphasize my body because I just really don't want that attention.

That said, I get equally uncomfortable when women make comments about my body in the context of weight. Usually, it takes the form of a woman being self-deprecating about her weight and then saying something about "you don't have to worry about that" or something along those lines. It just makes me feel weird. I don't know why people feel the need to comment on other people's bodies in the workplace. I never do it.

You sound like a pill.