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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"[quote]Also be honest: there are plenty of "nice guys" who have the idea - perhaps not even consciously - that "if I'm a nice guy she'll see I'm not a jerk like all the other guys and she'll want to sleep with me".

If you were old, fat or ugly, he probably wouldn't be nice to you. You'd be invisible."
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There are many nice guys who are just nice without being flirty.

I have worked with plenty of tall and handsome guys(I had to include tall because I like tall men) who have been very nice, and I am overweight and ugly.

I have had coworkers compliment my suit, my hairstyle etc without being creepy about it. "Nice haircut", "you look very nice today" etc. I have had nice male coworkers pay for my lunch without being creepy or flirty about it.

Flirting is different from being nice.

For example, there was a party at work where a few guys said to me: "That is a very pretty dress, Lila!"  It was a long dress, touching the floor, the only body parts exposed were arms and shoulders(tiny boob girl here so no cleavage). It was a very nice dress because, and women were giving compliments too.

I thanked them and went on my merry way, happy my money was well spent. These guys were just being nice. The dress was pretty and so they complimented it. There was nothing sexual about it.

Then I got on the elevator, and this man(a partner who probably had a very good looking wife at home) stared me up and down like a piece of meat and then said: "that dress looks very sexy on you" with his eyes scanning me from head to toe, side to side. He was staring for much longer than he should have been.

It was just the two of us in the elevator, and I almost vanished. That elevator encounter is flirting, and it is creepy.  I was happily married(still am) and there to work. Freaking asshole. 
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[b]The guy's behavior in the elevator wasn't flirting. He was being a pig. FWIW - I'm a male.[/b][/quote]
I'm a male also and I completely agree with you.[/quote]

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