Is this rude?

[Anonymous]

I do understand that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I do not think it makes me unhinged or psychotic though. I apologized to SIL and explained. She understood.

[Anonymous]

I'll never feel comfortable around my inlaws because we never had a heart to heart and cleared the air. No one apologized or expressed in the end what was was said out of anger vs what they meant.

[Anonymous]

OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

Did you read my last 3 comments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

+1. ALL. OF. THIS.

OP, you refuse to accept any responsibility for your own actions. You have repeatedly denied any wrong doing, when you are doing A LOT wrong. Nobody here can help you because of how adamant you are in refusing to accept blame for what you're contributing to the situation at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

Did you read my last 3 comments?

OP, we are all reading all of your comments, and our opinions still stand.

You are not a saint.

You are a drama queen and obsessed with engaging your in-laws when you claim only your DH is supposed to.

You are making the situation worse, not better.

You refuse to accept responsibility, so you are nuts.

But please, post again claiming that we are all wrong and only you are right. See how well that works out for you. (hint, it won't)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

I've already acknowledged that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I am not perfect, but I am not abusive. SIL literally shoved me while I was holding my infant child. There is so much more to this story. I deleted her instead of just asking her because I'm afraid of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

+1. ALL. OF. THIS.

OP, you refuse to accept any responsibility for your own actions. You have repeatedly denied any wrong doing, when you are doing A LOT wrong. Nobody here can help you because of how adamant you are in refusing to accept blame for what you're contributing to the situation at hand.

I put that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I apologized to SIL. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do here? I guess I'm truly missing something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

Did you read my last 3 comments?

Yes, and it only confirms that you are drama addicted. Did you read anyone's response here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

+1. ALL. OF. THIS.

OP, you refuse to accept any responsibility for your own actions. You have repeatedly denied any wrong doing, when you are doing A LOT wrong. Nobody here can help you because of how adamant you are in refusing to accept blame for what you're contributing to the situation at hand.

I put that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I apologized to SIL. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do here? I guess I'm truly missing something.

Maybe not act dramatic in the first place?

Engaging in an emotional cycle is a decision YOU made. And YOU participated in it deleting your SIL then trying to engage with her after and "apologize." Doing something dramatic and emotional and then apologizing doesn't make the situation better - it's clearly a cycle that you have likely engaged in for a long time.

You are unquestionably very immature, and do not have a hold on your emotions. Learn to stay in the moment, not overreact - maybe not react at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

Did you read my last 3 comments?

Yes, and it only confirms that you are drama addicted. Did you read anyone's response here?

I did read their responses. I was petty to delete SIL over something trivial. I acknowledge that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

I've already acknowledged that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I am not perfect, but I am not abusive. SIL literally shoved me while I was holding my infant child. There is so much more to this story. I deleted her instead of just asking her because I'm afraid of her.

LOL ok now you are just going off the rails. I thought you deleted her because she made a passive-aggressive comment that excluded you? "So much more to this story" that you conveniently dole out as you feel the need to rebut PPs who aren't telling you what you want to hear. I don't believe a word you say, and I honestly feel sorry for you. This is ridiculous behavior.

[Anonymous]

OP I think you need to stay off the internet and not be so defensive. If you're this defensive on the internet, you are probably 1000% more so in real life. That's not helping your relationship with your husband or your in laws. Or yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

+1. ALL. OF. THIS.

OP, you refuse to accept any responsibility for your own actions. You have repeatedly denied any wrong doing, when you are doing A LOT wrong. Nobody here can help you because of how adamant you are in refusing to accept blame for what you're contributing to the situation at hand.

I put that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I apologized to SIL. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do here? I guess I'm truly missing something.

Maybe not act dramatic in the first place?

Engaging in an emotional cycle is a decision YOU made. And YOU participated in it deleting your SIL then trying to engage with her after and "apologize." Doing something dramatic and emotional and then apologizing doesn't make the situation better - it's clearly a cycle that you have likely engaged in for a long time.

You are unquestionably very immature, and do not have a hold on your emotions. Learn to stay in the moment, not overreact - maybe not react at all.

How is apologizing for bad behavior immature? It would have been immature to not apologize. Geesh I made a mistake.