Is this rude?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't like you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he doesn't like you?

He's 3. He gets very excited to see me and greets me with a huge bear hug. I'm sure he hates me.

[Anonymous]

Deleting her was definitely appropriate. I didn't realize but she has DH blocked.

[Anonymous]

OP,

The example you chose does not illustrate the point you're trying to make.

Perhaps your SIL is, indeed, trying to ignore you consistently. But your way of posting just undermines your credibility.

[Anonymous]

Considering you're reduced to posting here, gauging strength of a toddler's hugs, and flouncing around Facebook unfriending, and you have a long list of grievances against a SIL who dislikes you, maybe you'd be better off taking a new attitude.

Write her off. Stop thinking about her or reacting to her. You gave her a chance, she'll never like you, she wants to needle you. Stop taking the bait and start ignoring what she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Considering you're reduced to posting here, gauging strength of a toddler's hugs, and flouncing around Facebook unfriending, and you have a long list of grievances against a SIL who dislikes you, maybe you'd be better off taking a new attitude.

Write her off. Stop thinking about her or reacting to her. You gave her a chance, she'll never like you, she wants to needle you. Stop taking the bait and start ignoring what she does.

I've completely dropped the rope. The PP who suggested my nephew doesn't like me is who that was directed at. Everything now goes through DH. I will no longer be answering texts or phone calls. I will be polite in person and that is all. Sorry I seem petty it's just that I'm tired of making an effort with someone that clearly does not like me. I linked another thread in a previous comment, that is the extra background.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Considering you're reduced to posting here, gauging strength of a toddler's hugs, and flouncing around Facebook unfriending, and you have a long list of grievances against a SIL who dislikes you, maybe you'd be better off taking a new attitude.

Write her off. Stop thinking about her or reacting to her. You gave her a chance, she'll never like you, she wants to needle you. Stop taking the bait and start ignoring what she does.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/615209.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP,

The example you chose does not illustrate the point you're trying to make.

Perhaps your SIL is, indeed, trying to ignore you consistently. But your way of posting just undermines your credibility.

This is also me http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/615209.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP thinks it's rude because SIL didn't say, "he sure loves his Uncle John AND Aunt Sensitivia."

Yes. SIL intentionally leaves me out. I'm NEVER included. I just deleted her.

OK then, the problem is not that this one post was rude (it wasn't), the problem is that you and SIL do not get along.

It's a long history of her making it known im not family and that her brother should leave me. I've given her chance after chance. I just can't help but feel her comment was an intentional dig.

Why in the hell do you not provide back story when you make your original post? At the outset, I'd say "no, not rude". With more information, I can say "your SIL is always a bitch, why are you surprised by her latest move?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP,

The example you chose does not illustrate the point you're trying to make.

Perhaps your SIL is, indeed, trying to ignore you consistently. But your way of posting just undermines your credibility.

This is also me http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/615209.page

You are incredibly immature. Maybe THIS is why SIL doesn't like you?

[Anonymous]

OP, I can totally see why someone would want to avoid you.

[Anonymous]

You act like a petulant brat and then you are surprised that you are treated like one? You get zero sympathy from me, OP. And I've read both threads. You either grow up and act like an adult or you continue being treated as the insufferable child that you are.

[Anonymous]

I'd comment back "And Aunt XXX loves her nephew!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You act like a petulant brat and then you are surprised that you are treated like one? You get zero sympathy from me, OP. And I've read both threads. You either grow up and act like an adult or you continue being treated as the insufferable child that you are.

I don't understand what I have done wrong other than continue to make an effort with someone who does not like me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You act like a petulant brat and then you are surprised that you are treated like one? You get zero sympathy from me, OP. And I've read both threads. You either grow up and act like an adult or you continue being treated as the insufferable child that you are.

I don't understand what I have done wrong other than continue to make an effort with someone who does not like me.

You have to pull her aside and ask her. I'd say something like, "I can't let go of the feeling that you don't care for me. Am I wrong?"

If she says something like, "why would you think that, I love you"

Pull out your list of examples and have at it. Clear it up either way once and for all.
Maybe she's just a bitch and doesn't realize what she is doing.
Maybe she is holding onto something that can be cleared up.
Maybe it's nothing, and all a misunderstanding due to you thinking she doesn't like you.