Is this rude?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

I've already acknowledged that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I am not perfect, but I am not abusive. SIL literally shoved me while I was holding my infant child. There is so much more to this story. I deleted her instead of just asking her because I'm afraid of her.

LOL ok now you are just going off the rails. I thought you deleted her because she made a passive-aggressive comment that excluded you? "So much more to this story" that you conveniently dole out as you feel the need to rebut PPs who aren't telling you what you want to hear. I don't believe a word you say, and I honestly feel sorry for you. This is ridiculous behavior.

I've said there was more to the story since the beginning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to recognize your own responsibility in contributing to this unhealthy cycle between you and your in-laws.

It doesn't mean your in-laws are perfect.

But it means you are definitely not a saint. You clearly do like drama and are engaged in a "tit for tat" cycle. You know the term "it takes two to tango?" You are a contributing partner.

+1. ALL. OF. THIS.

OP, you refuse to accept any responsibility for your own actions. You have repeatedly denied any wrong doing, when you are doing A LOT wrong. Nobody here can help you because of how adamant you are in refusing to accept blame for what you're contributing to the situation at hand.

I put that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I apologized to SIL. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do here? I guess I'm truly missing something.

You've made 3 threads. The consensus on DCUM is that you're insane (and there is very rarely a consensus). So you need to be introspective now, but unfortunately, you've demonstrated that you are incapable of that. So you need to print out these threads and share them with your therapist. So he or she can give you proper help and advice. What you were supposed to do, according to you, is not engage with your SIL. Again, according to your own words, your DH is only supposed to interact with them, so why did you text your SIL? You are perpetuating a cycle of "abuse" (which I doubt) and you are only making things worse. So STOP DOING IT. Do what you've been told, which is have no interaction with your in-laws, and leave it up to your DH. And for heaven's sake, stop posting here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

I've already acknowledged that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I am not perfect, but I am not abusive. SIL literally shoved me while I was holding my infant child. There is so much more to this story. I deleted her instead of just asking her because I'm afraid of her.

LOL ok now you are just going off the rails. I thought you deleted her because she made a passive-aggressive comment that excluded you? "So much more to this story" that you conveniently dole out as you feel the need to rebut PPs who aren't telling you what you want to hear. I don't believe a word you say, and I honestly feel sorry for you. This is ridiculous behavior.

I actually have a thread somewhere on here about. It was quite some time ago.

[Anonymous]

Every single time someone disagrees with you, you come back like an infomercial with "but wait, there's more." No OP, there isn't anything else, or anything more, that will make any of us change our minds about you. You are deranged, unhinged, and psychotic. And you are a liar. You need professional help, more than what you are receiving right now. You also need to have your internet access taken away. Because there's no way you are any less unhinged in real life, so maybe the no internet thing will help you spend some time being introspective and figuring out what is wrong with you. Because there is very obviously a lot wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every single time someone disagrees with you, you come back like an infomercial with "but wait, there's more."

hahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Again, with the drama!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Oh lord. Dial down the drama. Maybe just discuss your problems with your therapist instead of internet strangers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

And you claim to not be a drama queen. We don't care what you do, as long as you stop posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Yeah you're definitely not immature or dramatic OP. No, not at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Again, with the drama!

Good god what do you want from me? I screwed up. I take responsibility. I thought this was a safe place to vent. I never dreamed id wind up bullied and feeling terrible about myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every single time someone disagrees with you, you come back like an infomercial with "but wait, there's more."

hahaha

There really is a thread about it. It happened last Valentine's day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Again, with the drama!

Good god what do you want from me? I screwed up. I take responsibility. I thought this was a safe place to vent. I never dreamed id wind up bullied and feeling terrible about myself.

Have you ever been here before? First of all, there are no safe places on the internet. Second of all, there are nasty and judgmental comments on every DCUM post.

And if you don't like how you're being talked to, STOP POSTING. WALK AWAY. It's that simple. Either you are utterly clueless or you really enjoy stirring up drama.

[Anonymous]

Christmas of 2015 my DD was very sick. Things got very heated and Ugly with my inlaws because we missed Christmas. I they ended up getting on Facebook and creating a status about what a bad mom I am etc. During this time I was in severe heart failure. It's called PPCM. Pregnancy related heart failure. DH and I took some major time apart from ILs. We tried again a couple months later on Valentine's day and it ended with my getting shoved while holding my DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Christmas of 2015 my DD was very sick. Things got very heated and Ugly with my inlaws because we missed Christmas. I they ended up getting on Facebook and creating a status about what a bad mom I am etc. During this time I was in severe heart failure. It's called PPCM. Pregnancy related heart failure. DH and I took some major time apart from ILs. We tried again a couple months later on Valentine's day and it ended with my getting shoved while holding my DD.

Dear God, STOP POSTING HERE.

You are only going to receive more posts that disagree with you. DCUM is not a safe space. No forum is. Nowhere on the internet is. You WILL be judged. And I'm sorry, but this story does NOT absolve you of your guilt. You are to blame. You are a drama queen. And you are only making your relationship w/ your in-laws worse by the behavior you told us about today. LOG OFF THE INTERNET now.