Is this rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Christmas of 2015 my DD was very sick. Things got very heated and Ugly with my inlaws because we missed Christmas. I they ended up getting on Facebook and creating a status about what a bad mom I am etc. During this time I was in severe heart failure. It's called PPCM. Pregnancy related heart failure. DH and I took some major time apart from ILs. We tried again a couple months later on Valentine's day and it ended with my getting shoved while holding my DD.

Dear God, STOP POSTING HERE.

You are only going to receive more posts that disagree with you. DCUM is not a safe space. No forum is. Nowhere on the internet is. You WILL be judged. And I'm sorry, but this story does NOT absolve you of your guilt. You are to blame. You are a drama queen. And you are only making your relationship w/ your in-laws worse by the behavior you told us about today. LOG OFF THE INTERNET now.

I'm actually not going to have a relationship at all with my inlaws. I'm no longer concerned about my relationship with them. There isn't one. DH supports that.

[Anonymous]

I'm beginning to think OP is a 13 year old child bride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Again, with the drama!

Good god what do you want from me? I screwed up. I take responsibility. I thought this was a safe place to vent. I never dreamed id wind up bullied and feeling terrible about myself.

Oh come on! Do you really think "I suck...I'll stay out of everyone's lives" is a mature response?! That is not venting. That is throwing a pity party for yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry DCUM. A lot of my defensiveness is a me issue. I switched back to my old phone today and on it were about 50 screenshots of hateful messages from my SIL. Saying how im psychotic and need mental help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Christmas of 2015 my DD was very sick. Things got very heated and Ugly with my inlaws because we missed Christmas. I they ended up getting on Facebook and creating a status about what a bad mom I am etc. During this time I was in severe heart failure. It's called PPCM. Pregnancy related heart failure. DH and I took some major time apart from ILs. We tried again a couple months later on Valentine's day and it ended with my getting shoved while holding my DD.

Dear God, STOP POSTING HERE.

You are only going to receive more posts that disagree with you. DCUM is not a safe space. No forum is. Nowhere on the internet is. You WILL be judged. And I'm sorry, but this story does NOT absolve you of your guilt. You are to blame. You are a drama queen. And you are only making your relationship w/ your in-laws worse by the behavior you told us about today. LOG OFF THE INTERNET now.

I'm actually not going to have a relationship at all with my inlaws. I'm no longer concerned about my relationship with them. There isn't one. DH supports that.

Cool story bro. How about not having a relationship - at all - with DCUM? We'd seriously appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I give up. I suck. I'll do everyone a favor and stay out of their lives.

Again, with the drama!

Good god what do you want from me? I screwed up. I take responsibility. I thought this was a safe place to vent. I never dreamed id wind up bullied and feeling terrible about myself.

Oh come on! Do you really think "I suck...I'll stay out of everyone's lives" is a mature response?! That is not venting. That is throwing a pity party for yourself.

Are you reading PP's comments? Holy batman they aren't going to be happy until they internet bully someone into suicide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry DCUM. A lot of my defensiveness is a me issue. I switched back to my old phone today and on it were about 50 screenshots of hateful messages from my SIL. Saying how im psychotic and need mental help

Did I not tell everyone she's like an infomercial? Here's her "but wait, there's more..." for page 9 of the thread. I think she's done it on every page so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Christmas of 2015 my DD was very sick. Things got very heated and Ugly with my inlaws because we missed Christmas. I they ended up getting on Facebook and creating a status about what a bad mom I am etc. During this time I was in severe heart failure. It's called PPCM. Pregnancy related heart failure. DH and I took some major time apart from ILs. We tried again a couple months later on Valentine's day and it ended with my getting shoved while holding my DD.

Dear God, STOP POSTING HERE.

You are only going to receive more posts that disagree with you. DCUM is not a safe space. No forum is. Nowhere on the internet is. You WILL be judged. And I'm sorry, but this story does NOT absolve you of your guilt. You are to blame. You are a drama queen. And you are only making your relationship w/ your in-laws worse by the behavior you told us about today. LOG OFF THE INTERNET now.

I'm actually not going to have a relationship at all with my inlaws. I'm no longer concerned about my relationship with them. There isn't one. DH supports that.

Cool story bro. How about not having a relationship - at all - with DCUM? We'd seriously appreciate it.

Is someone holding a gun to your head forcing you to engage? You must be unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry DCUM. A lot of my defensiveness is a me issue. I switched back to my old phone today and on it were about 50 screenshots of hateful messages from my SIL. Saying how im psychotic and need mental help

Did I not tell everyone she's like an infomercial? Here's her "but wait, there's more..." for page 9 of the thread. I think she's done it on every page so far.

I generally post on DWIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry DCUM. A lot of my defensiveness is a me issue. I switched back to my old phone today and on it were about 50 screenshots of hateful messages from my SIL. Saying how im psychotic and need mental help

Did I not tell everyone she's like an infomercial? Here's her "but wait, there's more..." for page 9 of the thread. I think she's done it on every page so far.

[Anonymous]

"but wait, there's more" = +100000 spot on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is a question. If SIL asks me why I deleted her, how should I handle that?

Oh FFS. If you're mature enough to be all passive aggressive, then you're big enough to have that conversation

[Anonymous]

op, i dont agree with DCUM here. i think you mafe a mistake blocking SIL from fb, but you owned that. everyone hete is unfairly giving you a hard time. everyone comes on here to vent every onve in a while.

i think you shoulkd juyst cvontinue doing what you're doing. let dh do the communicating.

the one thing id keep an eye out for though is as your dd is growing, make sure the inlaws dont bad mouth you in front of her. if they do thst, you and dh need to disengage again for good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me just start fresh here. I'm struggling with my relationship with my in laws. DH and I are in marriage counseling due to his allowing his family to abuse me for years. I agreed to give my inlaws another chance as long as DH is the one that handles them. I get easily defensive when it comes to my inaws, which is why DH is supposed to handle them. I'm not psychotic or unhinged. I'm just greatly struggling to move past everything that has happened in the past.

You aren't helping yourself here. You are just as abusive as you claim they are. Your passive aggressive behavior is entirely unhealthy. And if your DH is supposed to handle them, then why are you texting your SIL? You are guilty of encouraging any bad behavior they exhibit and you are also guilty of stoking the fire. Seriously, get off DCUM, and the internet as a whole, and call your therapist. You *are* unhinged. Your posts here and the behavior you describe is psychotic.

I've already acknowledged that I shouldn't have deleted SIL. I am not perfect, but I am not abusive. SIL literally shoved me while I was holding my infant child. There is so much more to this story. I deleted her instead of just asking her because I'm afraid of her.

Aw crap. You've already created another generation of crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry DCUM. A lot of my defensiveness is a me issue. I switched back to my old phone today and on it were about 50 screenshots of hateful messages from my SIL. Saying how im psychotic and need mental help

Did I not tell everyone she's like an infomercial? Here's her "but wait, there's more..." for page 9 of the thread. I think she's done it on every page so far.

I generally post on DWIL.

Why'd you stop posting there? They always agree that the mom/wife/op is 100% true and right and saintly, and should cut off the inlaws until the end of time. I can't imagine they didn't give you the attention and validation you crave.