Elite privates and social dynamics for a fat mom

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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine got uninvited from the neighborhood book club after she got divorced. Still working on that . . .

Seriously? Is this an all women book club?

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Anonymous wrote:It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

If this correct, these women should be more welcoming of heavier women.

Plenty of DHs like a little extra cushion for the pushin'.

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Anonymous wrote:It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

Well if you just lost your wealthy husband, where is the easiest place to find another one quickly?

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Anonymous wrote:Lose the weight for yourself and your social standing

This is the most ridiculous thing ever but... I know two women at our private who are currently starving themselves to be skinny because they were intimidated by the skinnier, fit women. I'm talking about someone who went from a size 10/12 to a size 2 and another woman who went from a size 8 to a size 4. The size 2 transformation is so noticeable that the woman isn't even attractive anymore. She looks like a bobble head.

It's sad that acceptance is based on custom clothing and dress/suit size.

who are you to judge and how do you even know the original sizes?

I know the sizes because they are proud of their accomplishment. But FYI... (and I am being judge-y here) there is nothing sexy or cute about a 12in thigh gap on any woman; let alone one holding on to her youth past 48/50. It's ridiculous. Not to mention the super dark hair dye over those gray hairs that are winning the aging battle. Since the average age of parents in DC skews older than most cities, a lot of these older parents do all this crazy stuff to look young but it's pretty obvious they're 55 with toddlers, tweens and barely teens.

DC makes people crazy.

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OK, now tell us what you really think about those skinny blonde SAHMs at private schools.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

Well if you just lost your wealthy husband, where is the easiest place to find another one quickly?

One of those recently divorced blonde women recently turned her attention on my husband at a party recently. It was very funny.

This woman who had never spoken to my engineer/nerd husband in ten years was suddenly enthralled by his every word. It was even more funny since my husband is somewhere on the Aspergers spectrum and was completely indifferent to her charms.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

Well if you just lost your wealthy husband, where is the easiest place to find another one quickly?

One of those recently divorced blonde women recently turned her attention on my husband at a party recently. It was very funny.

This woman who had never spoken to my engineer/nerd husband in ten years was suddenly enthralled by his every word. It was even more funny since my husband is somewhere on the Aspergers spectrum and was completely indifferent to her charms.

That is funny. I am guessing he was oblivious to her charms.

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This thread is going in a lot of interesting directions. It seems to have struck some kind of nerve.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is going in a lot of interesting directions. It seems to have struck some kind of nerve.

True, and a lot of views for just two days.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lose the weight for yourself and your social standing

This is the most ridiculous thing ever but... I know two women at our private who are currently starving themselves to be skinny because they were intimidated by the skinnier, fit women. I'm talking about someone who went from a size 10/12 to a size 2 and another woman who went from a size 8 to a size 4. The size 2 transformation is so noticeable that the woman isn't even attractive anymore. She looks like a bobble head.

It's sad that acceptance is based on custom clothing and dress/suit size.

who are you to judge and how do you even know the original sizes?

I know the sizes because they are proud of their accomplishment. But FYI... (and I am being judge-y here) there is nothing sexy or cute about a 12in thigh gap on any woman; let alone one holding on to her youth past 48/50. It's ridiculous. Not to mention the super dark hair dye over those gray hairs that are winning the aging battle. Since the average age of parents in DC skews older than most cities, a lot of these older parents do all this crazy stuff to look young but it's pretty obvious they're 55 with toddlers, tweens and barely teens.

DC makes people crazy.

I like sexy thighs and a cheerleader ass as much as the next guy, but I don't understand how some of these women think a guy would want their skinny chicken legs over his shoulders. Not a turn on.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is going in a lot of interesting directions. It seems to have struck some kind of nerve.

I guess the moral is that we all hate SAHMs

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

If you're like me (and many others) who grew up with weight issues (and you mentioned high school so perhaps I'm correct), it's not a surprise that you think the reason these Moms aren't bonding is that you're not slim, coiffed and heeled. But OP, unless you're reality show material (and you're not from what you wrote), then you are wrong.

You are a person, first and foremost. If you want to explore new friendships, what's a cardinal rule? Get out of your own head and find out what makes them tick as people, not as clothes, shoes and hair.

As a person, you have every right not to be pals with everyone. You have a right to choose. But you can only choose if you find out about what you'd be choosing.

Remember, you're a new family. What about the other families? Have they been at the school through multiple children? It's always hard to be the new ones on the block.

If it's an elite private, you went through a parent interview. What did you pick up during that process? Do you have a "buddy" family assigned to you? I'm not questioning the existence of cliques, mind you, but that's not the end of the story.

Are there school activities you're interested in being involved with? You don't have to be president of the PTA right out of the starting gate, or even a room parent.

I'm troubled, however, by your comment that, although DC is happy at the new school, you're not getting positive responses to playdate proposals. Which kids does your Larla want to spend time with outside school? Again, get out of your own head and focus on learning about these kids and their families. Who are the parents? Is it a single parent situation with several siblings? What does the kid like to do? If you do child pickup, are there opportunities for casual/impromptu playdates, i.e. we're going to hang out at the playground for a little while, why don't you join us?

Best post I've seen on DCUM on a long time. Can we make this a sticky and put this on the top of this forum and every other forum where a poster asks "Why can't I make any friends"?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is going in a lot of interesting directions. It seems to have struck some kind of nerve.

I guess the moral is that we all hate SAHMs

Especially the skinny blondes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is going in a lot of interesting directions. It seems to have struck some kind of nerve.

I guess the moral is that we all hate SAHMs

Especially the skinny blondes.

The skinny blonde future real estate professional.