Elite privates and social dynamics for a fat mom

[Anonymous]

Geez, people! You all sound miserable! Come on over to an EOTP DCPS and bask in the glow of everyone being friendly - kids and adults - whether you are black, white, fat, thin, gay, hetero, working poor or high SES. And... Our kids are doing great and learning far above many of their peers in privates and WOTP elementaries.

Signed, Boarding school and Ivy League grad...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's probably because they feel you have little in common and don't want to invest their time on new friendships. It is uncool, however, for them to be unfriendly and intentionally exclude you. The lifestyle and mentality of a lean healthy person is very different than an overweight person, in general. I see this firsthand when my overweight family members visit our ski vacation home, and it trickles down to the kids. Every detail of our day is affected from how we eat to what we do during the day. Having said that, this is not a private school issue, rather a cultural issue. I'm guessing you're a kind and smart person, in which case it'll just take a little more time for people to see what's underneath an want to have you as their friend.

Are you serious? This is funny! I'm overweight and I probably spend more time at the gym than you do. I hike and run and travel extensively. What activities do you engage in as a thin person that others don't? Do you assume that every fat person spends all day sitting on the couch watching OPrah and eating cake?

Yes, very serious. You're obviously eating too much or the wrong foods or not enough cardio or an illness.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry that you are having this experience. Unlike the other posters, I think that schools work best when the parents form a community. I think you are right to be disappointed that it's not easier to find a community within the school. It sounds as though you have tried and your efforts have been rebuffed.

I'd only consider moving your child if you feel that the parents' attitude is being mirrored in the children. That does not sound fun for anyone.

[Anonymous]

I perused the comments but may have missed your entry year. The problem may be as simple as that after a number of years of doing the school social thing many of us have "checked out" and minimize our efforts in being social at the school. Just don't have the energy by the time upper school arrives.

There are a percentage of the jerks who will superficially determine whether you are worth knowing based on your look, your perceived wealth, or your ability to be a useful connection but those are far fewer than you would assume. Usually those are just uncomfortable folks jockeying to fit in themselves.

Good luck. You sound like you have a good heart. People will find you.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

lol, this is really funny and SO true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

and escorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

lol, this is really funny and SO true.

What else are you going to do if you are beautiful but have no education, career or skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

Do the divorced SAHMs who lose their social standing take their lunch boxes and sit on park benches like laid off Japanese workers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

lol, this is really funny and SO true.

What else are you going to do if you are beautiful but have no education, career or skills.

Well there is always what 10:02 said.

[Anonymous]

It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, you can dis the skinny moms after their husbands divorce them and they lose their social standing.

+1 and you get to watch these SAHMs become real estate agents.

lol, this is really funny and SO true.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing how quickly those skinny cliques close ranks on the recently divorced skinny SAHM.

They don't want her anywhere near THEIR husband.

If this correct, these women should be more welcoming of heavier women.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine got uninvited from the neighborhood book club after she got divorced. Still working on that . . .