Should I tell my wife that I got the OW pregnant?

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I guess at this point it won't matter since the marriage is over. However you might want to wait a few months to add this fuel to your fire.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

OP is fake, I think. Men don't use exclamation marks, and OP is enjoying being whipped by the commentators too much

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

bwahahhha hahahh you are an IDIOT

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

OP is fake, I think. Men don't use exclamation marks, and OP is enjoying being whipped by the commentators too much

Agree.

It's the wife posting. The tone is enjoying you all shitting on her husband.
Sorry he broke your heart op

[Anonymous]

OP were you really expecting anything but to get skewered on here? I mean, your wife could have been the laziest bitch ever and flat-out mean to you and your kid with your wife, but now she is Saint Cheated-Upon who can do no wrong -- and be assured her attorney is going to paint her as such.

With that said, your wife can't control what you're doing if you have moved out/been separated. While the timing is not ideal (heh), and she will fume, she can't really stop you.

But it's going to look worse in the divorce proceedings.

Talk to one of those law-talking types and figure out your goals. You may not announce your plans to marry OW the day after your divorce is finalized, as that might make you look worse in the proceedings.

I'd keep it quiet until 4-5 months along, as you don't know if OW will miscarry, have an abortion, etc.

So ladies -- you going to make fun of some other guy you disagree with and assert that he can't get laid?

Because OP sure as fuck gets laid.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

Because I loved her and planned to spend the rest of my life with her. Plus we were both ready to start a family.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

Because I loved her and planned to spend the rest of my life with her. Plus we were both ready to start a family.

You loved her because?

You strayed for a reason, you need to figure that reasoning out.

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OP, are you sure that it is your baby? I mean OW could have been cheating on you too...

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

Because I loved her and planned to spend the rest of my life with her. Plus we were both ready to start a family.

You loved her because?

You strayed for a reason, you need to figure that reasoning out.

I still love her, but I'm not in love with her the way I was before we got married. I know why I strayed, it started from a fight we had about family. I know it's not a good reason, but it's hard to make a marriage work when you constantly are torn between your wife and your family. I confided in my coworker about my feelings and things took off from there.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you sure that it is your baby? I mean OW could have been cheating on you too...

She told she hasn't been with anyone else. I believe her.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

Because I loved her and planned to spend the rest of my life with her. Plus we were both ready to start a family.

You loved her because?

You strayed for a reason, you need to figure that reasoning out.

I still love her, but I'm not in love with her the way I was before we got married. I know why I strayed, it started from a fight we had about family. I know it's not a good reason, but it's hard to make a marriage work when you constantly are torn between your wife and your family. I confided in my coworker about my feelings and things took off from there.

You confided in a female co-worker? You don't have any male friends of your own that you could have got advice from?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

Wow, you had no clue about her unhappiness? Gimme a break, no one is that naive. She had to drop hints at the very least. You didn't want to be married to her to begin with, that is the real reason you found companionship elsewhere.

She didn't drop any hints that she was unhappy. I did want to be married to her, but I met the OW at work and we really connected in a way that I didn't connect with my wife.

So why did you get married to begin with? It sounds like she didn't have the qualities you were looking for and found it with someone at work instead.

Because I loved her and planned to spend the rest of my life with her. Plus we were both ready to start a family.

You loved her because?

You strayed for a reason, you need to figure that reasoning out.

I still love her, but I'm not in love with her the way I was before we got married. I know why I strayed, it started from a fight we had about family. I know it's not a good reason, but it's hard to make a marriage work when you constantly are torn between your wife and your family. I confided in my coworker about my feelings and things took off from there.

You confided in a female co-worker? You don't have any male friends of your own that you could have got advice from?

My friends don't like my wife so I wanted to talk to someone who wouldn't be biased.