Should I tell my wife that I got the OW pregnant?

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

LoL!

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

You realize your daughter is going to hate you, right? My best friend's father left her mother for the OW when she was 3 and she still hates her father. Some of it is the betrayal of the family, some is bc he is an asshole (only a narcissist would make that decision). I feel sorry for your daughter. You are a terrible person,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

OP is fake, I think. Men don't use exclamation marks, and OP is enjoying being whipped by the commentators too much

[Anonymous]

OP, if this is any consolation:

My half-brother by my dad's AP is closer to me than my full brother. I deeply value our relationship. We were attendants in each other's weddings. My full brother hasn't spoken to either of us in 4 years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

You realize your daughter is going to hate you, right? My best friend's father left her mother for the OW when she was 3 and she still hates her father. Some of it is the betrayal of the family, some is bc he is an asshole (only a narcissist would make that decision). I feel sorry for your daughter. You are a terrible person,

I'll explain everything to her when she's older. I had an affair and fell in love with another woman. Am I really that terrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if this is any consolation:

My half-brother by my dad's AP is closer to me than my full brother. I deeply value our relationship. We were attendants in each other's weddings. My full brother hasn't spoken to either of us in 4 years.

That gives me hope, thank you.

[Anonymous]

The OW trapped you by getting pregnant. Good luck on that marriage lasting.

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Way to go dad. You are going to leave your wife and kid and start a new family. Way to ditch your kid. I hope it's not a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell her op. I am in a similar situation. It's only going to hurt her more. Tell her later. Are you my Ap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OW trapped you by getting pregnant. Good luck on that marriage lasting.

I'm going to do my best to make it last.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your lawyer. Now you'll have two kids/families to support. Good luck with that...it won't be cheap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

OP is fake, I think. Men don't use exclamation marks, and OP is enjoying being whipped by the commentators too much

Sadly I doubt it - my neighbor did that to his wife and they can three young kids. He's a real bastard I hope I never run into him again (she had to move - another reason he's a bastard - she was good to him and great with the kids. He valued none of that).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't tell her op. I am in a similar situation. It's only going to hurt her more. Tell her later. Are you my Ap?

It's going to hurt her regardless.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell OW you're so excited to have kids with her (or if it's too late to do that convincingly that you've come around) but with the divorce and selling the house the timing isn't right, that you want to do it right, get engaged, and have a baby soon, but at the right time. Then drive her to planned parenthood.

I'm not going to do that. We're looking forward to raising this baby.

BUT less than 3 years ago you weren't? And now aren't going to be a full time Father to the child you have? Really?

I was very excited about my first child! I still am and I plan to be in her life as much as possible! I hope she's close to her new sibling.

You realize your daughter is going to hate you, right? My best friend's father left her mother for the OW when she was 3 and she still hates her father. Some of it is the betrayal of the family, some is bc he is an asshole (only a narcissist would make that decision). I feel sorry for your daughter. You are a terrible person,

I'll explain everything to her when she's older. I had an affair and fell in love with another woman. Am I really that terrible?

Problem is you only thought of yourself, not your daughter. Yes she will hate you, and yes, you really are that terrible.