Should I tell my wife that I got the OW pregnant?

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This is so fake. It's not even a particularly good attempt.

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

#moralthingtodo

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You are disgusting, the OW is clearly a horrible human being (abortion is the ONLY moral option here) and I feel so incredibly sorry for your 3 yr old. Sounds like you and the ow deserve each other and will live miserably ever after.

[Anonymous]

OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her. She deserves to know the whole truth in real time, finally.
She may be having all kinds of second thoughts and doubts about the divorce. This news will assure her she made and is making the right decision. Give her some peace.

She's made it clear that she's not having second thoughts. She told me she'll never trust another man again.

You took marital vows, cheated on her, lied, are leaving her for the OW, whom you got pregnant. Of course, she'll never trust another man again. Do you really think everyone will live happily ever after? You'll cheat again or the OW will cheat - what goes around comes around. Do your really think your ex will be ok with her child being in the home with you, the OW and all play happy family when you destroyed the family.

To be fair, my wife said she wanted a divorce before she knew for a fact that I cheated. She's unhappy in the marriage, I can admit it's my fault that she's unhappy.

You knew she was unhappy. So, instead of trying to work things out with her, you cheated. She knew something was going on.... it does not matter if she knew or not as you should have divorced her before seeing the OW. You don't get it as its easier to justify and blame her than take responsibility.

I disagree here about cause and effect. He didn't cheat because she was unhappy. She became unhappy when he started cheating and checked out of his marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

Oh, my! My biggest laugh of the week. Thank you. You are a prince among men, and an ethical model, for sure.

OP, how do you think this marriage will end? (hint: we all know the answer)

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her. She deserves to know the whole truth in real time, finally.
She may be having all kinds of second thoughts and doubts about the divorce. This news will assure her she made and is making the right decision. Give her some peace.

She's made it clear that she's not having second thoughts. She told me she'll never trust another man again.

You took marital vows, cheated on her, lied, are leaving her for the OW, whom you got pregnant. Of course, she'll never trust another man again. Do you really think everyone will live happily ever after? You'll cheat again or the OW will cheat - what goes around comes around. Do your really think your ex will be ok with her child being in the home with you, the OW and all play happy family when you destroyed the family.

To be fair, my wife said she wanted a divorce before she knew for a fact that I cheated. She's unhappy in the marriage, I can admit it's my fault that she's unhappy.

You knew she was unhappy. So, instead of trying to work things out with her, you cheated. She knew something was going on.... it does not matter if she knew or not as you should have divorced her before seeing the OW. You don't get it as its easier to justify and blame her than take responsibility.

I'm not blaming her at all. I said I know it's my fault that she's unhappy. I was unhappy too and I was a jerk and went and had an affair.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did not work on your marriage if you knew your wife was unhappy to begin with?

I didn't know she was unhappy until almost a year after my affair started. That's my fault because I wasn't there for her like I use to and we didn't spend a lot of time together for obvious reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

What you are doing is not "only right" by any definition.

[Anonymous]

You're a real winner, OP. OW deserves you, since you will cheat on her in time, too. If you have any shred of decency, move out immediately & give the house to your wife and child. That's the least you can do.

I feel very sorry for your first child, and for the baby on the way.

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OP, you made a mistake but it is not the end of the world for anyone. I am amazed at the relentless vitriol that is being directed at you.

Lots of people - men and women - have cheated and it has resulted in broken marriages. The only difference in your situation is that your OW is pregnant.

I would tell your lawyer and ask his advice as to whether you should communicate it to your wife. At this point, it only matters from a legal standpoint and in determining child support, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes, please tell her. Honesty is always the best choice. My husband got his OP pregnant and the lies are what destroyed me. You owe it to her and your child.

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Op - don't get married again. Go to a therapist. Live alone so you can sort yourself out and hopefully not destroy more lives. Maybe monogamy isn't right for you. You need to do some serious self reflection otherwise your claims of regret are just bullshit. Plus you must know you really can't trust OW enough to marry her if she trapped you with pregnancy (the pill does not have mistakes.) this 2nd marriage will just end in another messy divorce and ruined woman you'll feel bad about. Focus on your kid(s)-try to be the best possible dad-ask your therapist how to help them cope. they really do need you and they are the only ones that you can help at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:At least wait until you know if it's a viable pregnancy. Are you planning to live with OW and raise this child?

Yes, it's only right that I marry her once my divorce is final.

Oh sure, because you always do what's right!!
I'm sure you wife would confirm this.

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Anonymous wrote:Well your dick got you in a deep trouble. How come you did not use birth control? I guess the baby is coming so too late now. Do you have kids?

I would kick you to curb and take you for everything. I would do this so the skank that you end up with Have no money.

You like a loser and a soon to be broke loser at that.

Yes, I have a three year old. We used protection, she told me she was on the pill.

You shoukd have had a vasectomy or kept your pants zipped. You are a pig.