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Anonymous
Ditto. 
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It is much easier to keep the house together when the family is not in it during the day. My house used to stay much cleaner but now that I am home with my DD, it gets messy pretty quickly. |
Anonymous
2nd this. Although when sahms talk about taking care of the house it is usually said as part of a list, including other things they do. If someone asked me what I did as a stay at home mom, I would mention cleaning too, although it's certainly not what I spend the majority of my time doing. |
Anonymous
How big is your house? Do you have a yard? How many kids do you have? What are their ages? Are they at home with a nanny, or at daycare? If they are with a nanny, how much cleaning does she do? How much time you you and your spouse spend at home? Do you as a family spend much time at home? How often do you cook a meal at home vs. heat something up vs. eat out? There are a lot of variations. A family with a 4 bedroom/ 2 1/2 bath home with a half-acre yard, three young kids who are at home with a nanny who help with kids' food, toys and laundry but not much else, and who cook most meals from scratch is going to require substantially more cleaning than a family in a 2 bedroom/1 bath condo with 2 kids who are in school all day, and who tend to eat out a few nights a week. Just because housework isn't a substantial time-suck for you, doesn't mean that everyone who says it is is OCD. |
Anonymous
See 12:17 post. |
Anonymous
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"It is much easier to keep the house together when the family is not in it during the day. My house used to stay much cleaner but now that I am home with my DD, it gets messy pretty quickly. "
How's that? |
Anonymous
You really can't see how a house gets messier quicker when people are IN it rather than OUT of it??? |
Anonymous
It's just the day to day housework/shopping/cooking/laundry/errands that a lot of working parents squeeze into their lunch hour/after work/weekends. If you are home full time, you usually try to get them done during the day. I was much more lesiurely about them before I went back to work. I freely admit I wasn't being the most efficient in using my tiume -- because I didn't need too. I really appreciated that more relaxed aspect of not working... but I'm sure the prosecuting attorney will see that as another sign of "dullness" 
Oh well. As I always say the key to being happy is not giving a rat's ass what anyone thinks of you. Oh, and yeah, if you have three kids under than age of 5 home with you most of the day, cleaning/making meals and snacks/tidying does take more time than if those kids are out of the house all day, eating one or maybe 2 meals and one or more snacks elsewhere where someone else is cleaning up after them! But you knew that! |
Anonymous
Yes, basically sahms do during the day what wm's do after work and on weekends, giving sahms more free time to pursue other interests. |
Anonymous
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But less money with which to pursue those interests!
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Anonymous
Maybe you should ask your daycare providers how much time they spend cleaning up during the day or the people who come in to empty the trash, vacuum, and clean the bathrooms at your office after you've all been there using it. Home is the office and the daycare. But you know that, right? |
Anonymous
Not less money, just less time. |
Anonymous
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"You really can't see how a house gets messier quicker when people are IN it rather than OUT of it??? "
Clean as you go. |
Anonymous
We outsource some stuff, and my husband does a lot too. He does most of the cooking and we have a housekeeper, we split up errands and do a ton online. I know that if I stayed home, my husband wouldn't do as much, which is fine since I'd presumably have more time during the day to cook etc. |
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I've worked PT, FT, and hard core FT (60+ hours per week). Now I'm a SAHM. I spend significantly more time with our kids, talking, playing, running errands together, cooking, everything. My big indulgence if working out, which I do every day (I run 4 days a week and can be home before DH goes to work, and if he's traveling I just do a workout video at night).
Since I've been home, I've been responsible for everything regarding the house and just about everything regarding the kids. So, our weekends and evenings are much more relaxed. I clean, but it doesn't take long. And the administrative side of running a house (bills, activity scheduling, medical appointments, social scheduling, holiday/birthday gifts, car check-ups, service people, dealing with a rental house, etc.) actually doesn't take any more time than it did when I was working. The big difference for me is having so much more time with our kids. It's why I'm home, and I love it. |