Question for SAHMS..

[Anonymous]

Hi there, I am just curious of a few things.. I have a few questions that I'd really appreciate honest answers for.

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week?

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs?

4.)What does your typical day look like?

5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what?

I'm sorry if this is nosy.. I have personal reasons for trying to understand these things about other families.. I'm sure there will be negative comments for whatever reason, but I appreciate the comments that are helpful. Thank you in advance for your help.

[Anonymous]

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week?
45
2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work
he travels
3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs?
when he's home he loads/unload dishwasher takes trash out and takes over childcare completely. dc is 10 mo old and he'll only bring dc to me to feed. most of the times though he'll tell me he got milk from the freezer and let me know I have to pump.
4.)What does your typical day look like?
wake up feed dc skype with my mom gonout to run errands come back nap while I cook lunch dc wakes up to eat lunch then we go out to play then nap #2 and I get chores done or relax/browse and get dinner on the way. dc wakes up and joins me in the kitchen. we eat and go for a walk. come back bath skype with dad and dc goes to bed. I pick up around the house browse again and head to bed.
5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what?
once a month a deep cleaning service and occasional sitter so I can get mani/pedi whatever and date night.

[Anonymous]

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week? He travels for a living - so he is out of the house from Sun night to late thursday night

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs? He is responsible for fixing things and making money

4.)What does your typical day look like? I wake up at 6am, do chores, have coffee..DS wakes up between 7 and 8am. We have breakfast, play. I try to clean as much as possible. We usually have an outing/go for a walk. Lunch is around 11-12, nap from 1-3 (for DS) I usually continue to clean, or do other stuff around the house. DS gets up and we play - go outside. Dinner is around 5:30, bedtime around 8. Then it is mommy time


5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what? No - we are pinching pennies so I can stay home. Plus I feel that it is my job to run the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1.) How many hours does your husband work per week? He travels for a living - so he is out of the house from Sun night to late thursday night

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs? He is responsible for fixing things and making money

4.)What does your typical day look like? I wake up at 6am, do chores, have coffee..DS wakes up between 7 and 8am. We have breakfast, play. I try to clean as much as possible. We usually have an outing/go for a walk. Lunch is around 11-12, nap from 1-3 (for DS) I usually continue to clean, or do other stuff around the house. DS gets up and we play - go outside. Dinner is around 5:30, bedtime around 8. Then it is mommy time


5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what? No - we are pinching pennies so I can stay home. Plus I feel that it is my job to run the house.

Housework and childcare. Ugh.
Not a scintilla of an intellectual life.
Marriage sounds kinda blah.

[Anonymous]

That didn't take long!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi there, I am just curious of a few things.. I have a few questions that I'd really appreciate honest answers for.

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week? 40-50 hours a week
2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work 9-5ish

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs?He cooks dinner for us. The kids eat earlier because they are toddlers.

4.)What does your typical day look like?Up, breakfast, park, preschool (afternoon), errands, pick up, play, dinner, bath, bed, dinner with DH, tv, bed.

5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what? We have a weekly house cleaning service

I'm sorry if this is nosy.. I have personal reasons for trying to understand these things about other families.. I'm sure there will be negative comments for whatever reason, but I appreciate the comments that are helpful. Thank you in advance for your help.

[Anonymous]

You are mean poster 7:47.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi there, I am just curious of a few things.. I have a few questions that I'd really appreciate honest answers for.

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week? He is out of the house from 7:45 am to 5:30 pm...pretty good schedule!

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs? When we are both home, we divide evenly. When only one of us is home, we do what needs to get done!

4.)What does your typical day look like? Outing/errands in the morning, lunch, DD goes down for her nap around 1:30...afterwards, we normally play outside and then DH gets home.

5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what? Nope.

I also work part-time out of the house but my schedule varies...sometimes it is 25 hours a week and others it is closer to 10.

I'm sorry if this is nosy.. I have personal reasons for trying to understand these things about other families.. I'm sure there will be negative comments for whatever reason, but I appreciate the comments that are helpful. Thank you in advance for your help.

I must admit I am curious what your personal reasons are!

[Anonymous]

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week? 70 plus

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work 8am to 8pm but varies based on work-load.

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs? No assigned "job" but he typically fixes things I cannot (i.e., electrical). I do everything else including yard work, etc. He does make time to assist in coaching kids sports.

4.)What does your typical day look like? Long. Up at 5:30 with youngest, pack lunches and get two older off to school (dad does drive them), laundry, clean-up, errands (or do absolutely nothing but relish the silence of only having one kid at home), pick up preschooler at 11:30, home for lunch and activities until time to pick up older sibling, prep-dinner, homework, play outside/sports practice, dinner, bath and bed-time, hubby home for "grown-up" dinner, asleep on couch at 9:30 but refusing to go to bed or relinquish control of remote b/c "I'm watching that". Glamorous life, I know.

5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what? [b]Cleaning lady every other week to force me to do a good pick-up of the mess of our lives.

[Anonymous]

Dh works 60 plus
Also travels sometimes for a week at a time
My kids are in school until 230
My Day is exercise, chores, bills, grocery shopping, etc until 230 then sports lessons etc begin. Most nights I do dinner bath and bedtime on my own.

I outsource occasional babysitter to see a movie with a friend, deep cleaning 2 x a month and yard work.

[Anonymous]

My DH works 40 hours a week, home by 5:30, basically never travels or works on weekends.

He does most of the yard work (although we tend our vegetable garden together) cleans the cat boxes and feeds the cats, takes out the trash daily and on trash days, and helps me with laundry (although we are both bad about keeping up with it, honestly). He will also randomly as needed load/unload the dishwasher, and does tons with the kids when he is home (baths at night while I clean up after dinner, he watches them/takes them places while I cook dinner...which I like to do, I'm a bit of a cook and like to try new things).

We have a cleaner come once a month at least, and every few weeks if necessary. Babysitting a few times a month by family in the area.

Daily schedule: DH wakes up with kids and feeds them breakfast...I get up, dress them, we leave for either an organized activity, the library, the playground, or a playdate with a friend, come home and have lunch, put baby down for nap, older child watches a tv show for a rest, I prep dinner/clean/lanudry/garden/read/sometimes nap too, older child finishes 45 minute tv program and we play outside/listen to a book on CD/play hi ho cherry-o or other games/play dough/art, baby wakes up, both kids play while I clean or we listen to music, take a walk, go to playground, hang out with neighbor, DH home at 5:30 or so, takes kids to play with them, I cook dinner, we eat together, I clean up while DH prepares kids for bed, he puts older child down while I put down baby, after they are down we do a workout DVD together, talk, watch tv, sleep.

As far as intellectual stimulation for me...I am the (volunteer) treasurer of a local non-profit. Volunteer once a week as the personal classroom aide to a disabled middle schooler, teach Sunday school with DH, read the New Yorker (lol), occasionally fight with strangers on the internet, make multiple trips to the library a week for my children and myself, love to garden and cook and have time to do both, obviously talk to my DH every day about all kinds of things, am very close to my mother, and get together with other parents (and non-parent friends) frequently to visit and talk. My life feels more intellectually stimulating now that I can choose where to focus my energies instead of pushing paper for the government (my previous life). Obviously others have more interesting jobs than I used to perhaps but...SAH does not have to be all drudgery and for me it is not.

Cheers!

[Anonymous]

7:47 So petty! You'll need more than a job to be an attractive person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7:47 So petty! You'll need more than a job to be an attractive person.

7:47 may be spot on with the marriage thing - "He travels for a living - so he is out of the house from Sun night to late thursday night"

How is THAT a marriage?

And don't give me that "It works for OUR family" crap.

[Anonymous]

1.) How many hours does your husband work per week?
40, plus 1-1.5 hr commute each way, plus 3 nights a week out at grad school classes

2.) Does he work a 9-5/something similar, or does he do shift work
7 AM- 3 PM, home by 4:30 to play with kids and eat dinner as a family, then 3 nights a week back out from 6-10 for class

3.)What kinds of things does he do around the house? What are his jobs?
take out trash, fix anything and everything including basic car stuff, mow lawn, take care of kids for several hours so I can get out of the house, do dishes/laundry/cleaning that I haven't finished

4.)What does your typical day look like?
Up at 7 with kids (2 girls just turned 3- dad is gone by 6 AM), breakfast, start laundry or clean something, outing- park, museum, etc, or errands- or playtime at home- art/crafts, games, dress-up/pretend play, ride bikes/play in the yard now that it's nicer out, etc, lunch, nap if I'm lucky, but they are in the process of dropping the nap so some days I put in a movie for "quiet time" instead, while I continue laundry, chores, email, start dinner, etc, more playtime, daddy comes home, dinner, daddy leaves on class nights, bath, bed, then I collapse on the sofa until bedtime at 10 PM.

5.)Do you outsource anything? If so, what?
They go to an in-home daycare in the neighborhood one day a week while I work part-time and we occasionally swap babysitting with friends or neighbors, or my mom or aunt watches them so we can have a date night. No help otherwise because we can't afford it and I also feel like it's my job as the at-home parent to take care of the house. Plus I like my house and like taking care of it!

6.) Intellectual stimulation, since this has come up on this thread:
I read as voraciously as ever, and actually have more time to read things of interest to me than when I was working full-time- novels, non-fiction, magazines, news, etc. I have a wide variety of friends and family with whom I keep in touch and talk about all kinds of topics. I have really enjoyed researching child development and health, which are things I never thought much about before becoming a parent. I teach a graduate-level class in my field. I volunteer as co-chair of the annual symposium for my professional organization for next year. I often feel like I would be more relaxed, accomplish more, and have more time to read if I didn't work at all, but it keeps my hand in the field in case I want to return someday.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious about what else "isn't a marriage." Two people of the same gender? People without kids? Anything after the first time to the altar? Anything that doesn't involve an altar?