Question for SAHMS..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Same reason why I chose to SAH too! I want to enjoy this time with my children and not rush around.

AKA - I am lazy.

I am not the poster you quoted, however, I do have a question for you. Why you equate caring for one's children with being lazy? I assume you pay for daycare...are the daycare teachers where you send your children lazy? Or did you do a lot of homework to find the very best place for your kids? I am guessing it is the later (and hope it is).

[Anonymous]

How.did.our.mothers.do.it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How.did.our.mothers.do.it?

My.mom.stayed.at.home.for.13.years.until.the.youngest.of.four.children.turned.five.and.then.she.went.back.to.work.and.was.very.successful.for.years.but.is.now.happily.retired.

How.did.your.mother.do.it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I would add there are some who probably did love their career, were not burned out, but were in fields or organizations that offered no flexibility. I love my job and it makes sense for me to work, but if I had to consistently work 50 or god forbid 70 hours a week, or if I had to travel a lot, I wouldn't last if we could afford it. I am lucky that I'm in a field that may not pay great but has sane hours and good flexibility. "

[b]Why would any woman who thought she wanted kids lock herself into a type of work where there's no balance available? That's not very good planning. I stopped being a mergers and acquisitions lawyer once I realized that doing that type of work wasn't compatible for me with parenting.

Actually, I'm betting that a great deal of women train for careers without fulling understanding how much their jobs would cut into time spent with their child. I chose teaching because I thought it would be a career that would be easy to balance around raising a family. How little I knew. If I had it to do over again, I would choose a career that had the opportunity to go part-time.