Boy poked DD9 in the chest

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

What do you mean by “solve the problem?” Wouldn’t OPs DD tell her if the kid was still poking her in her nipple?

Trust me the principal is hearing from “relentless” parents all day long.That is why they can’t find school staff anymore- every one is “relentless” over everything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

OP here. I'm at my wits end with the poorly behaved kids at her school. I'm documenting everything this year. I am not afraid to be a pain in the a$$ if needed. I told DD, any incident with him or another kid in her class, needs to be told to me. I'm especially annoyed because we tried to get her a transfer out of this school and was denied, so now I want a paper trail for everything.

Switch to private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

Unpopular opinion, but hard agree. Police report. The parents of this kid will not do anything until you make it a problem for them. Read the CPS laws for your state, where I am allowing a child to assault other children is explicitly a form of reportable child abuse. This kid may be being abused themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Gaslighting an underage sexual assault victim, classy. I have enough mileage on me I know why repeat pedos are so common, the reason is people like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

OP here. I'm at my wits end with the poorly behaved kids at her school. I'm documenting everything this year. I am not afraid to be a pain in the a$$ if needed. I told DD, any incident with him or another kid in her class, needs to be told to me. I'm especially annoyed because we tried to get her a transfer out of this school and was denied, so now I want a paper trail for everything.

Switch to private school.

And it will be so much worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Gaslighting an underage sexual assault victim, classy. I have enough mileage on me I know why repeat pedos are so common, the reason is people like you.

Just Stop. Seriously. No one is “the reason” except the perpetrator. Are you accusing the PP of sexual assault?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Gaslighting an underage sexual assault victim, classy. I have enough mileage on me I know why repeat pedos are so common, the reason is people like you.

Just Stop. Seriously. No one is “the reason” except the perpetrator. Are you accusing the PP of sexual assault?

No, I am saying the reason pedos are allowed to have repeated victims and are not stopped are because of observers like you who see s--t and explain it away rather than stopping them

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Gaslighting an underage sexual assault victim, classy. I have enough mileage on me I know why repeat pedos are so common, the reason is people like you.

Just Stop. Seriously. No one is “the reason” except the perpetrator. Are you accusing the PP of sexual assault?

No, I am saying the reason pedos are allowed to have repeated victims and are not stopped are because of observers like you who see s--t and explain it away rather than stopping them

Wow calling 9yo kids as pedos.. PP needs help and therapy for whatever she went thru.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her the next time, she is to grab a handful of shirt with one hand and set to punching him in the face with the other until they pull her off, all the while shouting stop molesting me.

OP here. Lol you sounds like my husband. But I did tell her to raise her voice and say "STOP TOUCHING ME NOW" over and over. She's a rule follower, so this is not her comfort zone, but I told her she has full permission to raise her voice as loud as she needs to.

Yes. And roleplay with her. She needs to practice because it's uncomfortable. But this is the best way to get the attention of a nearby adult.

If he doesn't stop, I'd tell her she can punch him in the stomach. When she gets in trouble, you reference the email you already sent.

So then what happens if this kid punches her back? What ridiculous advice. Violence is not how we handle things in a civilized society. Especially disproportionate violence. Being poked is not the same as being punched or kicked. SMH

Boy pokes girl repeatedly in nipple
Girl says stop
Boy doesn't stop
Girl sobs
Boy does it again
Girl defends herself physically

Your take: How terrible we are encouraging this girl to resort to violence! How dare she!

GMAFB

+1

Also— at this point the school has been notified. They can monitor him in the line. They can have him eat lunch in the office. They have endless opportunity to do their job right and safeguard these kids.

If they don’t do it? Why should the girl expect that telling an adult will make any difference this time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

None of us know if he was poking her in the chest area or if it was sexual because we are getting second hand information. He’s putting his hands on her, that’s serious enough to warrant an investigation. But if you go in half hysterical talking about sexual assault they might get defensive and claim you’re overreacting.

I think I described this before, when my daughter was 10 years old she was tiny, completely flat chested, four years away from puberty. I got a call from the vice principal telling me that a boy was bothering her. He would scream in the hallway about how “hot” she was. He would slap her ass or touch it when she walked by. She never told me anything. The only thing I knew about him was he would our house over and over and I always said she wasn’t home.

The vice principal told me that another mother called about this boy harassing her daughter (my daughter’s friend). During the investigation the vice principal interviewed a bunch of kids and found out my daughter was the target not her friend. So this was going on and I had no idea until the investigation was over.

I asked if there was anything the school could do to teach the girls what to do in these situations. They said it was the end of the year, no time, they had to focus on him. I was upset about that because these are little girls in elementary school and they don’t know how to respond like a 16 year old.