Boy poked DD9 in the chest

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Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Kids are taught from 3-4 not to touch anyone anywhere a bathing suit covers, and that no one should touch them anywhere a bathing suit covers. This is 100% sexually inappropriate, and should be treated as such. The 9 y/o should be suspended at a minimum and yes, potentially reported to CPS in case this is a symptom of abuse he’s receiving at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her the next time, she is to grab a handful of shirt with one hand and set to punching him in the face with the other until they pull her off, all the while shouting stop molesting me.

OP here. Lol you sounds like my husband. But I did tell her to raise her voice and say "STOP TOUCHING ME NOW" over and over. She's a rule follower, so this is not her comfort zone, but I told her she has full permission to raise her voice as loud as she needs to.

Yes. And roleplay with her. She needs to practice because it's uncomfortable. But this is the best way to get the attention of a nearby adult.

If he doesn't stop, I'd tell her she can punch him in the stomach. When she gets in trouble, you reference the email you already sent.

So then what happens if this kid punches her back? What ridiculous advice. Violence is not how we handle things in a civilized society. Especially disproportionate violence. Being poked is not the same as being punched or kicked. SMH

Boy pokes girl repeatedly in nipple
Girl says stop
Boy doesn't stop
Girl sobs
Boy does it again
Girl defends herself physically

Your take: How terrible we are encouraging this girl to resort to violence! How dare she!

GMAFB

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Also— at this point the school has been notified. They can monitor him in the line. They can have him eat lunch in the office. They have endless opportunity to do their job right and safeguard these kids.

If they don’t do it? Why should the girl expect that telling an adult will make any difference this time?

WHO exactly is going to take that job? No one is out there to teach or be a one on one. No ONE.

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Have her yell “stop touching my boobs” or nipples, or tits. That will get everyone’s attention

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Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Kids are taught from 3-4 not to touch anyone anywhere a bathing suit covers, and that no one should touch them anywhere a bathing suit covers. This is 100% sexually inappropriate, and should be treated as such. The 9 y/o should be suspended at a minimum and yes, potentially reported to CPS in case this is a symptom of abuse he’s receiving at home.

+1 could be abuse or special needs. There was a child on the spectrum in my DD's class. He would say sexually inappropriate and do things like touching himself. The school wouldn't/couldn't suspend him I assume because of special need but finally they got a full-time aide.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her the next time, she is to grab a handful of shirt with one hand and set to punching him in the face with the other until they pull her off, all the while shouting stop molesting me.

OP here. Lol you sounds like my husband. But I did tell her to raise her voice and say "STOP TOUCHING ME NOW" over and over. She's a rule follower, so this is not her comfort zone, but I told her she has full permission to raise her voice as loud as she needs to.

Yes. And roleplay with her. She needs to practice because it's uncomfortable. But this is the best way to get the attention of a nearby adult.

If he doesn't stop, I'd tell her she can punch him in the stomach. When she gets in trouble, you reference the email you already sent.

So then what happens if this kid punches her back? What ridiculous advice. Violence is not how we handle things in a civilized society. Especially disproportionate violence. Being poked is not the same as being punched or kicked. SMH

Boy pokes girl repeatedly in nipple
Girl says stop
Boy doesn't stop
Girl sobs
Boy does it again
Girl defends herself physically

Your take: How terrible we are encouraging this girl to resort to violence! How dare she!

GMAFB

+1

Also— at this point the school has been notified. They can monitor him in the line. They can have him eat lunch in the office. They have endless opportunity to do their job right and safeguard these kids.

If they don’t do it? Why should the girl expect that telling an adult will make any difference this time?

WHO exactly is going to take that job? No one is out there to teach or be a one on one. No ONE.

Then I guess he gets to eat lunch with the school principal or secretary every day. The solution isn’t let him keep assaulting his classmates because #boyswillbeboys and hand wringing over teacher shortages.

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Anonymous wrote:Have her yell “stop touching my boobs” or nipples, or tits. That will get everyone’s attention

I love this! Would force people to notice.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think the advice to punch or kick another 9 yr old is misplaced anger. She should move away from him immediately and tell an adult, not get into a physical altercation. She isn’t fighting for her life and he is a child too

He should keep his hands to himself and stop when he is told to stop. Girls need to protect themselves because too few will do it for them. The girl got in trouble for trying to get help.

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Anonymous wrote:Have her yell “stop touching my boobs” or nipples, or tits. That will get everyone’s attention

If she knows his name, use it. "BILLY I TOLD YOU TO STOP TOUCHING MY BOOBS".

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Anonymous wrote:OP taught her daughter that she can't trust her mother to keep her secrets. That's worse that one tween getting handsy.

OP here... no, I taught her that being touched inappropriately shouldn't be kept a secret. She did nothing wrong, so shouldn't be afraid to tell an adult.

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OP here... I haven't gotten any follow up from either the teacher or the principal of what was done (if anything). DD thinks the kid was talked to because he got pulled out, but she doesn't really know that. Would you follow up or just trust that it was addressed? He hasn't touched her again FWIW.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here... I haven't gotten any follow up from either the teacher or the principal of what was done (if anything). DD thinks the kid was talked to because he got pulled out, but she doesn't really know that. Would you follow up or just trust that it was addressed? He hasn't touched her again FWIW.

No let it go. It happened once. They aren’t obligated to tell you his consequences and probably can’t due to privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here... I haven't gotten any follow up from either the teacher or the principal of what was done (if anything). DD thinks the kid was talked to because he got pulled out, but she doesn't really know that. Would you follow up or just trust that it was addressed? He hasn't touched her again FWIW.

I would speak to the teacher one-on-one at the next pickup or drop off. I'd say what you said here - I'm assuming since he got pulled out, this was dealt with, and I appreciate that. But if it happens again, I expect him to be removed from Larla's class. Then if you feel like a paper trail is necessary, send a follow up email recapping the convo to "thank" the teacher for your talk, and CC the principal.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here... I haven't gotten any follow up from either the teacher or the principal of what was done (if anything). DD thinks the kid was talked to because he got pulled out, but she doesn't really know that. Would you follow up or just trust that it was addressed? He hasn't touched her again FWIW.

I would speak to the teacher one-on-one at the next pickup or drop off. I'd say what you said here - I'm assuming since he got pulled out, this was dealt with, and I appreciate that. But if it happens again, I expect him to be removed from Larla's class. Then if you feel like a paper trail is necessary, send a follow up email recapping the convo to "thank" the teacher for your talk, and CC the principal.

OP here. Literally the only time I see my child's teacher is parent teacher conferences or holiday party. I'd have to email. Not trying to make it be a BIG DEAL follow up, mostly just want to confirm it was indeed addressed, though I'm sure I won't know the details (which is fine and understandable)

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Tell her to hit him with her lunch tray if he does it again.

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Anonymous wrote:In kindergarten they had a full day that included a 20 minute nap time. The boy next to my daughter kept poking her and touching her hair. I told the teacher and she moved him away from her.

You need to notify the teacher. No need to be hysterical and threaten the police like some people suggest. The teacher can’t resolve the problem if he doesn’t know about it.

OP here. As I stated in my OP, I notified the principal and teacher. If there wasn't such a huge pattern of tolerated poor behavior at her school, I probably would've left the principal off the email.

That’s too bad. Definitely follow up. Ask if they’ve been able to solve the problem. I would stay away from over the top hyperbole like calling it assault or in any way sexual. I would be polite but relentless about a resolution. Good luck.

A boy poking girls in the breast is sexual. He's not poking girls in the arm, and he's not poking boys at all. This is sexual assault, as much as you don't want there to be any attention brought to it.

FFS breasts are not sexual and especially in pre-teens who don't have any! #girlmom

Then why is he aiming for nipples repeatedly? Maybe they're not sexual to her but they are to him.

Eww you are sick stop putting perverted thoughts onto little kids actions. Unless OP's kid is running around topless how would anyone see where the nipples are!

Gaslighting an underage sexual assault victim, classy. I have enough mileage on me I know why repeat pedos are so common, the reason is people like you.

Just Stop. Seriously. No one is “the reason” except the perpetrator. Are you accusing the PP of sexual assault?

No, I am saying the reason pedos are allowed to have repeated victims and are not stopped are because of observers like you who see s--t and explain it away rather than stopping them

Wow calling 9yo kids as pedos.. PP needs help and therapy for whatever she went thru.

You have to be post pubertal to be a pedo. This kid might be being abused by a pedo, though. Anyway, I *am* accusing you of being a pedo enabler. People like you are the reason assault victims are reluctant to come forward. 500,000 judgmental questions and gaslightings await. If this kid learned this behavior from being sexually abused, people like you not responding in an appropriate manner, specifically recognizing the behavior as sexual abuse, are potentially protecting the pedo who abused this kid. Maybe you should get therapy to find out why you enable pedophiles?