Boy poked DD9 in the chest

[Anonymous]

If it happens again, a quick knee somewhere should stop him. I think it's reasonable to ask what is being done to protect your daughter and others. They don't have to tell you exactly how he is being dealt with. It could be better supervision, or not being in trouble for leaving the line to get help, etc.

I love what you told her to do, though. Good job. I had a boy grab me in grade 7. It was humiliating. I told my parents. He was suspended for 3 days BUT I had to explain exactly what happened to a gruff male principal.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like our elementary school. My kids have been bruised, punched, sprayed with chemicals and nothing was done

[Anonymous]

scream, make a scene. Can't be embarrassed. Teachable moment. Don't count on others to protect you, protect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it happens again, a quick knee somewhere should stop him. I think it's reasonable to ask what is being done to protect your daughter and others. They don't have to tell you exactly how he is being dealt with. It could be better supervision, or not being in trouble for leaving the line to get help, etc.

I love what you told her to do, though. Good job. I had a boy grab me in grade 7. It was humiliating. I told my parents. He was suspended for 3 days BUT I had to explain exactly what happened to a gruff male principal.

A knee to the groin was my immediate thought. I’ve told my similarly aged girls to do that when they’ve complained about a boy acting in a similar fashion. My advice was to first tell them to stop, then if they don’t, knee them where it hurts. They have an older brother and have seen his reaction after getting accidentally hit in that area.

It’s never gotten to that point, but I’m confident my 10 year old would do it.

[Anonymous]

They probably aren’t going to do anything and they’re not going to give you an update anyway. You will never find out if they addressed it with the boy since they always claim that’s confidential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

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Press charges. No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

Omg
Press charges. No

Sometimes it takes pressing charges for the school to do something. There was a boy in my DD’s grade with a history of violence against other kids. In PE he pushed down our DD then kicked her and ended up bruising 3 ribs. The PE teacher and the principal brushed it off as an accident. Unfortunately my DD was just another “accident” of many with this kid. We pressed charges and went to the media. Needless to say, we ended up having to leave the school but the other child did too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Id want to know from the principal how it was going to be addressed. If necessary to press charges I would. Schools need to get these kids out of there or a 1:1 support.

Omg
Press charges. No

He's 9. Yelling quit it and knee to the groin will keep him from doing it again. Wish I'd learned that sooner.

[Anonymous]

Pressing charges does absolutely nothing, our child was viciously attacked and punched in fcps middle school and we pressed charges and never heard back from the police. The other student was suspended for a few days but other factors like hone life and ses were in play that they didn't want to do anything, both on the school and police side.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I can't imagine pressing charges on a 9 or 10 year old over this, but my experience with the school is that they do very little. DD has some serious behavior kids in her grade and from everything I can tell, they don't do a whole lot. They did start implementing ISS so that's something I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her the next time, she is to grab a handful of shirt with one hand and set to punching him in the face with the other until they pull her off, all the while shouting stop molesting me.

OP here. Lol you sounds like my husband. But I did tell her to raise her voice and say "STOP TOUCHING ME NOW" over and over. She's a rule follower, so this is not her comfort zone, but I told her she has full permission to raise her voice as loud as she needs to.

Yes, and protect her chest from him. Use her lunch tray to block this loser's hand. I'm with PP, I'd teach her to punch in the face and knee to the groin!

[Anonymous]

Kneeing is much harder to get a solid hit than most people realize. Hence the prior advice to grab and wallop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think saying loudly "stop touching me" and then moving to another spot in line, even if its the back is the best advice.

Im not convinced from this telling that it is sexual in nature at all, but still annoying and inappropriate to poke anyone.

Uh, kids that age definitely know what and where private parts are, or they should. Of course the boy shoudl know not to touch a girl's chest. WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing, OP, by modeling to your child how parents protect their children. Perpetrators have the right to confidentiality in their punishments, so the Principal will likely not tell you what was done. I know that can be frustrating to hear for victims and their families.

Keep you ear to the ground and warn other families of girls, so that they're not scared of filing reports as well. Schools cannot move to more drastic measures, such as suspension, etc, unless they have an accumulation of evidence.

Correct they won't tell you the other kid's punishment, but OP doesn't need to know that. OP needs to know what they're going to do to keep her kid SAFE. She deserves to know what procedures exist or will be put in place, and what her kid should do next time (From the school's perspective, obviously i'd allow my kid to knee the kid in the groin).

This will all help her paper trail that she said she's keeping.

[Anonymous]

It felt great to knee my tormentor in elementary school. Writhing on the ground, he never bothered me again. Mom taught me that.