Sleeping with someone for first time when you're over 50

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As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

[Anonymous]

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As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

I mean, of course they do component to get under the skirt but I’m objectively a 97’-27’-97’ fitness freak with 20 BMI. When men I dated asked for sex they would always offer protection. Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Ironically, the ones who are relieved about my insistance on condoms are younger women (20s to early 30s). They frequently say that guys their own age pressure them to forego condoms.

If a divorced woman in her 40s-50s is banging a young stud, I can guarantee they are not using condoms. Both groups like to take risks.

Another snipped man here and I can verify that this is totally true. After my divorce, I assumed dating and having sex again meant condoms would be the norm and I'd just have to get used to it. I wrongly assumed that women would insist on condoms. Only a few, and I mean like 2 in 15 years insisted on condoms as a rule. Several others said I needed a condom because they weren't on BC and when I told them I had a vasectomy, they didn't want to use a condom any more than I did and they were clearly very happy that I was snipped. Getting that V was one of the best life choices I ever made. In the past few years, a few have asked for test results and I get regular blood work anyway so I'll request an STD panel (you have to special request the Herpes test) and I'm glad to show the latest results. I know going without a condom has it's risks, but I'd still rather share test results and choose my partners carefully than have sex with a condom. I hate them so much and the women I've known seem to hate them even more, much to my surprise.

[Anonymous]

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As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

I mean, of course they do component to get under the skirt but I’m objectively a 97’-27’-97’ fitness freak with 20 BMI. When men I dated asked for sex they would always offer protection. Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

….and I bet you have “no ONS, no hookups” on your profile.

🎣

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

I’m happy to post a bathing suit photo if you explain how - Imgur doesn’t work for me for some reason

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

I mean, of course they do component to get under the skirt but I’m objectively a 97’-27’-97’ fitness freak with 20 BMI. When men I dated asked for sex they would always offer protection. Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

….and I bet you have “no ONS, no hookups” on your profile.

🎣

No - I had “STI testing and negative HSV status required” when I dated.

[Anonymous]

Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

I never insist or push at all. But if she's cool with no condoms and I get the impression that she's at all thoughtful about sexual health I'm going for it.

I know it's a risk. Don't care. Hasn't bitten me yet.

[Anonymous]

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Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

I never insist or push at all. But if she's cool with no condoms and I get the impression that she's at all thoughtful about sexual health I'm going for it.

I know it's a risk. Don't care. Hasn't bitten me yet.

LOL. If she’s f..g you first time with no condoms by definition she’s not thoughtful about her sexual health. And you might have a number of deceases already that men are not routinely tested for

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

I’m happy to post a bathing suit photo if you explain how - Imgur doesn’t work for me for some reason

Don't feed the misogynistic troll. Im sure you look fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

100%. Men say this to every person they are willing to have sex with. I promise you are reading too much into your status as a “beauty”.

I’m happy to post a bathing suit photo if you explain how - Imgur doesn’t work for me for some reason

Don't feed the misogynistic troll. Im sure you look fine.

I’m very proud of my fitness achievements and happy to show everyone what a great body looks like for a well maintained woman in her 40s who gets compliments. No issues with that whatsoever regardless, even if he’s a troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

I mean, of course they do component to get under the skirt but I’m objectively a 97’-27’-97’ fitness freak with 20 BMI. When men I dated asked for sex they would always offer protection. Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

….and I bet you have “no ONS, no hookups” on your profile.

🎣

No - I had “STI testing and negative HSV status required” when I dated.

Men do have far more false negative when it comes to HSV.

[Anonymous]

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Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

I never insist or push at all. But if she's cool with no condoms and I get the impression that she's at all thoughtful about sexual health I'm going for it.

I know it's a risk. Don't care. Hasn't bitten me yet.

LOL. If she’s f..g you first time with no condoms by definition she’s not thoughtful about her sexual health. And you might have a number of deceases already that men are not routinely tested for

That's why I wrote 'at all thoughtful'. This is not binary.

A number? What diseases that are not on a routine panel can harm men if they're not causing symptoms.

[Anonymous]

I now understand how The Villages happened. And this folks didn’t even live through a period where condoms were standard operating procedure.

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Anonymous wrote:

As a man, I can tell you that so many divorced women post-40 are willing to bang without condoms and just a simple ask of “you’re clean, right?” without actually verifying my STD status by trading results. I insist on confoms and you can see the disappointment in their face.

I have a vasectomy. It’s like nectar to bees - women see it as an invite to disregard condoms from the get-go. They assume that because I am responsible enough to get a vasectomy, I’m also responsible enough to avoid catching an STD.

Snipped man here and this is all true IME.

As a sterile woman in my 40s I don’t believe it a bit. I still ask for both STD test AND condoms. All my single friends who ate dating /professional high income women in dmv are also using condoms for dating. Of course if exclusivity is confirmed everyone forgoes condoms. I’m told I’m a beauty so maybe men are more amenable to my terms. Or all these women from the apps you bang are desperate single moms waiting for whoever calls them back after a night of unprotected sex. I also never hook up and had sex with only a few men who actually dated me. Not those who invited to hang out at their place on date 2, without an actual date.

“I’m told I’m a beauty”. Right.

I mean, that’s what men text me after dates. Gorgeous, beauty, pretty..

👄 💨 🍑

They are trying to finagle an invite to the bedroom. The game is the game.

I mean, of course they do component to get under the skirt but I’m objectively a 97’-27’-97’ fitness freak with 20 BMI. When men I dated asked for sex they would always offer protection. Never came across anyone who insisted on no protection first time having sex!

….and I bet you have “no ONS, no hookups” on your profile.

🎣

No - I had “STI testing and negative HSV status required” when I dated.

Men do have far more false negative when it comes to HSV.

Someone who is negative likely has VERY infrequent outbreaks.