Sleeping with someone for first time when you're over 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's been years since my last BF and we were very sexually active, like 4-5 times per week which is a lot for people in their 40s. Thing is, I haven't had a yeast infection since we broke up and I used to have at least one or two a year. I miss sex sometimes and I miss him sometimes but I never miss those yeast infections.

Did you read a previous post above where someone explained the difference between sex triggered and sexually transmitted? You should. Because your yeast infections were sex triggered-not sexually transmitted. A man can’t spread a yeast infection to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's been years since my last BF and we were very sexually active, like 4-5 times per week which is a lot for people in their 40s. Thing is, I haven't had a yeast infection since we broke up and I used to have at least one or two a year. I miss sex sometimes and I miss him sometimes but I never miss those yeast infections.

Did you read a previous post above where someone explained the difference between sex triggered and sexually transmitted? You should. Because your yeast infections were sex triggered-not sexually transmitted. A man can’t spread a yeast infection to you.

Thanks, yes I did. However at the end of our relationship he was cheating on me so who knows where it came from. I'm just glad I don't get them anymore and this factor would definitely be one I would consider seriously if I was deciding whether to have sex with a new man now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t have sex after 50. This is gross. You are acting like a teenager.

I bet you're a lot of fun at parties

I think that was a joke, at the expense of some of the people on this forum, and I think it was pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never had a man refuse to wear a condom. If they do, then I am not sleeping with them.

Yeah I think this is actually very rare. Even though it’s not “preferred” I don’t really see any man foregoing sex because a condom is requested. That said I did have one instance where the guy said he could not keep an erection with a condom. And I did not believe him for a second. Well, we didn’t have sex because he would go soft every time he tried a condom (went through 4 in the trial and error). And we were like 19 so definitely not an age thing. And I have one friend who told me she dated someone with the same issue. So I do think maybe a very small percentage of men have this issue.

I don't think it's that small.

And I've done this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread got derailed.

Middle-aged man here, who has the snip. I get regularly tested, like every few months. Every middle-aged woman I've been with lately is fine with not using a condom. I also evaluate my risk, so for example I like dating someone in health care as they get tested regularly for all kinds of stuff as part of their job; and also there's some women who haven't been with someone in a long time including since their last test. Then for single mothers, they get tested as part of pregnancy so if she's not had sex since then, she's likely to be clean.

Yes, people can lie about this. For me, it's a risk I'm willing to take after evaluating the level of risk. It's more enjoyable without a condom.

How often do YOU get tested?

I get tested every couple months.

Personal question, sorry: is that because you change partners all the time? Just curious how it's done for people who date

I've used this. letsgetchecked.com NP