Reply to Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

[/quote]

We have very similar stories! I’m 5 years out and just now in my first real relationship- he’s 5 years younger than me at 42.

This forum is really really unkind to single moms- even the ones like us who do everything “right” in keeping new partners from our kids and working hard to not blend families, and to focus first and foremost on doin go right by our kids. It’s hurtful. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics