Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.

I only have dinner if they get to a third date. They rarely do.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

When I was happily married, I was not on this forum at all. Not once. I doubt you are really a happily married woman. Why this thread would interest you is beyond me.

Every one of your posts is filled with the and anxiety.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

When I was happily married, I was not on this forum at all. Not once. I doubt you are really a happily married woman. Why this thread would interest you is beyond me.

Every one of your posts is filled with *hate and anxiety.

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Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

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Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

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OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

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Op here. This was my point in posting. I am trying to stop this attitude because it is rampant. I am trying to get people to understand it is not bad for a divorced woman to be single and people can stop the judgement about it. But that is not happening here. Plenty of judgement and assumptions that I sleep around..,which I do not.

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Op here. This was my point in posting. I am trying to stop this attitude because it is rampant. I am trying to get people to understand it is not bad for a divorced woman to be single and people can stop the judgement about it. But that is not happening here. Plenty of judgement and assumptions that I sleep around..,which I do not.

OP - I am glad you posted. Nice, smart, beautiful women get divorced every day and many of them start dating again.

Sadly, this thread has become a place where girls say that another girl is popular only because she is slut. I said "girl" and not "woman" because a woman would not need to bash another based on the fact that she can (or does) date more than one man at a time.

My bet is the men who were your date options also have other women as options, and you understand this fact because everyone involved is an adult.

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Op here. This was my point in posting. I am trying to stop this attitude because it is rampant. I am trying to get people to understand it is not bad for a divorced woman to be single and people can stop the judgement about it. But that is not happening here. Plenty of judgement and assumptions that I sleep around..,which I do not.

OP - I am glad you posted. Nice, smart, beautiful women get divorced every day and many of them start dating again.

Sadly, this thread has become a place where girls say that another girl is popular only because she is slut. I said "girl" and not "woman" because a woman would not need to bash another based on the fact that she can (or does) date more than one man at a time.

My bet is the men who were your date options also have other women as options, and you understand this fact because everyone involved is an adult.

Yes, I assume they also have other good options. You get it!

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

The fact that none of these guys are divorced is not a good thing. For me it’s a red flag if a guy is in his late 40s and unmarried, usually signifies that he is either a player, has commitment issues, is too picky, Or just has major issues. It is pretty rare to find accomplished guys in their late 40s who have never been married.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

The fact that none of these guys are divorced is not a good thing. For me it’s a red flag if a guy is in his late 40s and unmarried, usually signifies that he is either a player, has commitment issues, is too picky, Or just has major issues. It is pretty rare to find accomplished guys in their late 40s who have never been married.

I never said late 40s. I date mid to late 30s. Not a red flag to be single. It is not 20 years ago.

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40 year old here .. got hit on by some MIT & Harvard students from Australia. Although I’m not interested is parting with my money and I don’t have issues ego wise— this was actually really flattering. They were handsome, foreign, and super smart. I’m a black woman( the least desirable) so was really flattered even though it was all rooted in sexual desire. Who cares— I was still wanted. 😂 they all got a no from me.

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40 year old here .. got hit on by some MIT & Harvard students from Australia. Although I’m not interested is parting with my money and I don’t have issues ego wise— this was actually really flattering. They were handsome, foreign, and super smart. I’m a black woman( the least desirable) so was really flattered even though it was all rooted in sexual desire. Who cares— I was still wanted. 😂 they all got a no from me.

Black women are very desirable.

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40 year old here .. got hit on by some MIT & Harvard students from Australia. Although I’m not interested is parting with my money and I don’t have issues ego wise— this was actually really flattering. They were handsome, foreign, and super smart. I’m a black woman( the least desirable) so was really flattered even though it was all rooted in sexual desire. Who cares— I was still wanted. 😂 they all got a no from me.

Black women are very desirable.

Yeah, f that Ok Cupid study full of absolute crap. Black women are 🔥

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!