If you were beaten as a child….

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Anonymous wrote:….how do you manage not repeating this with you own kids?

FTR I don’t hit my kids. But I will admit to sometimes being so filled with rage when they are being especially difficult that I get overwhelmed with the urge to do what I experienced as a kid. I always manage to fight it off but it is hard. Harder than I think it should be.

Anyone else in similar shoes? If you were beaten (whatever your own definition of corporal punishment is and your own line of what’s acceptable) do you have a hard time avoiding a repeat of the past?

I was spanked as a child. Probably 3 times. However, my parents were never in rage when spanking me. Usually, we would have a long conversation beforehand about what I did. I remember one night we had a long conversation at the table and I thought I was getting spanked that night, but my dad said they were too upset so we would postpone for the next day. Honestly, the worst part about spanking in my experiences was the long conversation before and after you got spanked. I always felt an embarrassment of how what I did was just so wrong. My spankings were always for serious offenses. I don't think I will spank my kids, but I wonder how I can get my children to have remorse about doing super wrong things. The one distinct spanking I remember was that in elementary school I stole one of my tests from a teacher so they couldn't report my grade and lied about it until one of my friends finally told the truth. It had gone on for weeks and I had lied in so many ways I started forgetting my lies. Today I wouldn't spank my child b/c of how society views spanking and because I am an extremely soft person. I think if I got spanked for random stuff here and there I would resent my parents.

You answered your own question here.

Kids desperately want the love and approval of their parents. Feeling a parents' disappointment in you is deeply painful. Spanking honestly confuses this issue. When kids do very wrong, it is really not hard to impress upon them why it's not okay, especially if you have been raising them with good values all along.

I'll tell you what is hard, though. When you hit your kids and then one day they get in trouble for hitting someone else and look at you and say, "Why is it okay when you do it but not when I do it?" Sure, parents who spank will have some line about how they are spanking out of a sense of responsibility blah blah blah, but kids (especially teenagers) are BS detectors and won't buy it.

Never do something to your kid that you don't want them doing to someone else. Especially not something smaller and more helpless. You don't want your kids hitting younger siblings? Don't hit them. You don't want them beating up on friends? Don't hit them. You don't want them to hit your eventual grandchildren? Don't hit them.

This is not rocket science, and I can't believe we are still having this conversation in 2022.

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Is it possible that your brother was an "a*hole" because of how he was treated? I'm not just talking about "spankings". I think whichever parent abused your brother had no patience or tender feeling for him and took any opportunity to hurt him and justify it by labelling him as a bad kid. My parents were each abusive in their own ways and I observed at the time that my dad was roughest on my eldest brother and my mom was harshest on me. You seem hesitant to accuse your parents of abuse, by where do you suppose your rage comes from? I know I was affected not only by being beaten, but from witnessing my siblings being abused, as well. Please consider working on your rage feelings toward your kids. I promise they do nothing to deserve it.

I know why I was an a**hole and got punished harder as a kid - it's because my sister was the Golden Child who could do no wrong and I was the Scapegoat who could do no right. I always felt that my parents were teamed up with my sister and against me, which made me resent my sister and be an a**hole to her, which led to me getting punished, which increased my resentment, and so on.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Children aren't born aholes, they act that way for a reason. My eldest sister was the golden child and never got beaten. There was a time I was with her and couldn't have done something which enraged my dad. I was whipped with a belt and she didn't tell him I was innocent. My skinned swelled so much, it split and I bled. I was 9. I have never and will never spank or otherwise assault my kids. I don't view them as anything other than children, who are to be treated gently and with love. I hope you treat your kids gently, too.

I'm a different poster. I think it's fine to do what you want, but some kids are born aholes. Like why are some kids doing super disrespectful things?

Many people consider certain developmentally normal behavior from kids as "super disrespectful" because of their own issues. Like sometimes kids will break rules or do things they know will annoy their parents, on purpose, just to see what will happen. This isn't "disrespectful" unless you define respect as a child who always does exactly what they've been told, 100% of the time. That's not developmentally appropriate for children and childhood and adolescence are largely about using trial and error to learn about the world in a relatively safe environment. Kids who do stuff like this are not a*holes, they are just kids. And when they do it, it's a terrific opportunity to provide them with natural consequences for risky, rude, or inappropriate behavior, and to talk to them about why that behavior will cause problems down the road. All of which you can do without hitting them. This is literally what parenting is.

But if you just hit or ignore kids in this stage instead of, you know, parenting and teaching them, then they will keep engaging in sometimes escalating bad behavior. Maybe they become nihilists who figure "I can't do right so I might as well enjoy doing wrong," maybe they are testing the absolute limit of your relationship with them to see what will push you to throw them out or say you hate them (because at least then they'll know instead of living in fear of that moment), maybe they are just so freaking confused about what it even means to make good choices because they see their parents consistently raging and hitting in a way that is deemed fine and justified within their family, but when they do the same they are punished.

No kid is a born a*hole. I know that's hard to hear, but kids get that way through experience.

I get what you are saying. But let's fast forward to the older years when kids aren't getting spanked....why are kids being nasty to one another, hurting one another, manipulating, doing drugs, constantly lying. Many of them have not been spanked. A lot of this is considered common for older kids but many parents have laid the foundation when they are young. I'm not saying spanking is the answer but the cop out answer of "Oh something is wrong" or "They are just kids" just doesn't do it for me. I don't believe people are always as "good" as some of you are trying to make it seem. I'm not perfect. But I've been around kids when I myself was in middle school, high school, college etc. and some of the things kids do is really not okay. I myself have lied and cheated yet I was not taught to do that. Whether you spank or don't spank I just don't think that makes a child "good". The "just kids" reminds me of all the people that justify bad behavior in later years. You know the boys that rape girls in college at some frat party...."oh they are just kids". I hate this statement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:….how do you manage not repeating this with you own kids?

FTR I don’t hit my kids. But I will admit to sometimes being so filled with rage when they are being especially difficult that I get overwhelmed with the urge to do what I experienced as a kid. I always manage to fight it off but it is hard. Harder than I think it should be.

Anyone else in similar shoes? If you were beaten (whatever your own definition of corporal punishment is and your own line of what’s acceptable) do you have a hard time avoiding a repeat of the past?

I was spanked as a child. Probably 3 times. However, my parents were never in rage when spanking me. Usually, we would have a long conversation beforehand about what I did. I remember one night we had a long conversation at the table and I thought I was getting spanked that night, but my dad said they were too upset so we would postpone for the next day. Honestly, the worst part about spanking in my experiences was the long conversation before and after you got spanked. I always felt an embarrassment of how what I did was just so wrong. My spankings were always for serious offenses. I don't think I will spank my kids, but I wonder how I can get my children to have remorse about doing super wrong things. The one distinct spanking I remember was that in elementary school I stole one of my tests from a teacher so they couldn't report my grade and lied about it until one of my friends finally told the truth. It had gone on for weeks and I had lied in so many ways I started forgetting my lies. Today I wouldn't spank my child b/c of how society views spanking and because I am an extremely soft person. I think if I got spanked for random stuff here and there I would resent my parents.

You answered your own question here.

Kids desperately want the love and approval of their parents. Feeling a parents' disappointment in you is deeply painful. Spanking honestly confuses this issue. When kids do very wrong, it is really not hard to impress upon them why it's not okay, especially if you have been raising them with good values all along.

I'll tell you what is hard, though. When you hit your kids and then one day they get in trouble for hitting someone else and look at you and say, "Why is it okay when you do it but not when I do it?" Sure, parents who spank will have some line about how they are spanking out of a sense of responsibility blah blah blah, but kids (especially teenagers) are BS detectors and won't buy it.

Never do something to your kid that you don't want them doing to someone else. Especially not something smaller and more helpless. You don't want your kids hitting younger siblings? Don't hit them. You don't want them beating up on friends? Don't hit them. You don't want them to hit your eventual grandchildren? Don't hit them.

This is not rocket science, and I can't believe we are still having this conversation in 2022.

I understand. But I don't view my parents as horrible people. I also don't think I would have felt bad if they said "No tv for 3 months". I know b/c those were often my punishments and it just doesn't hit the same. I get what you are saying, but I don't think a spanking or two is going to kill a kid. I've never hit my sibling or anyone else. What's weird is I am an extremely soft person...not sure how that happened. I won't spank b/c I am just way too soft but I also don't feel I lacked in love. This conversation is always weird to me b/c people have every right to discipline their kids how they want.

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People are seriously overreacting about spanking. This thread if full of bullies and Permissive parents.

I bet many of you would be ok with your teens drinking under age or smoking weed. "as long as they are doing it at home"

Same as sex. "Just get her on birth control" "I don't know if he's doing it but buy him condoms"

You people are ridiculous. That's why so many kids don't respect their parents. No boundaries. No respect. No love.

One doesn't have anything to do with the other. The idea that refusing to *hit your children* means that you are fine with them drinking, doing drugs, and having sex whenever is absurd, and is just the kind of slippery slope argument that child abusers have been using for decades to justify hitting their kids. You can have rules and set limits, and raise kids who respect you and love you, without hitting them. My parents spanked us and it's one of several reasons why I don't respect them now. I followed their rules when I was a kid because I didn't want to get hit. But as soon as the risk of being hit ended, I stopped following their rules. I also started drinking my senior year of high school, after abstaining for years, simply because I was so tired of my parents hitting me and distrusting for most of my adolescence that I figured, why not? Spanking does not lead to love or respect.

I agree with the PP who said that if you are resorting to hitting your kids as a form of discipline, you've failed as a parent. You always have other options.

Okay just because YOUR parents abused YOU does not mean that other people that were spanked believe their parents are horrible people or failed as a parent. I love my parents and had an amazing childhood and I was spanked. I talk to my mom several times a day and my dad about every other. Do what works for YOU and stop judging other people for your shitty childhood. My mother didn't get spanked as a child and her mom was definitely a crap mom. Stop projecting.

I agree.

My mom spanked me and I love her to death!

Same!! I was spanked and I can't imagine a life without my mom and dad. I love those two to pieces!!

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People are seriously overreacting about spanking. This thread if full of bullies and Permissive parents.

I bet many of you would be ok with your teens drinking under age or smoking weed. "as long as they are doing it at home"

Same as sex. "Just get her on birth control" "I don't know if he's doing it but buy him condoms"

You people are ridiculous. That's why so many kids don't respect their parents. No boundaries. No respect. No love.

One doesn't have anything to do with the other. The idea that refusing to *hit your children* means that you are fine with them drinking, doing drugs, and having sex whenever is absurd, and is just the kind of slippery slope argument that child abusers have been using for decades to justify hitting their kids. You can have rules and set limits, and raise kids who respect you and love you, without hitting them. My parents spanked us and it's one of several reasons why I don't respect them now. I followed their rules when I was a kid because I didn't want to get hit. But as soon as the risk of being hit ended, I stopped following their rules. I also started drinking my senior year of high school, after abstaining for years, simply because I was so tired of my parents hitting me and distrusting for most of my adolescence that I figured, why not? Spanking does not lead to love or respect.

I agree with the PP who said that if you are resorting to hitting your kids as a form of discipline, you've failed as a parent. You always have other options.

Okay just because YOUR parents abused YOU does not mean that other people that were spanked believe their parents are horrible people or failed as a parent. I love my parents and had an amazing childhood and I was spanked. I talk to my mom several times a day and my dad about every other. Do what works for YOU and stop judging other people for your shitty childhood. My mother didn't get spanked as a child and her mom was definitely a crap mom. Stop projecting.

Not projecting, just stating a deeply held personal belief. You should not hit your kids. There are other (and universally better) ways of disciplining children or enforcing boundaries. I will die on this hill.

Yes there are lots of ways to be a crappy parent and not all parents who spank are universally bad. But spankign is universally bad. It's wrong. You are hurting a child, on purpose. There is simply no justification.

I do not spank. But I don't think it's YOUR place to judge someone else. There are a lot of things I think are bad that are common but I'm not going to judge others on it. It's okay to die on that hill. Millions of people will do what they feel is best for their situation.

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I thinking taking away privileges and time out are fine. But I don't think those things signal extreme disobedience. What some of the other posters are bringing up about deliberate disobedience is interesting. I'd be curious to know what people do for extreme offenses because I don't find the same old punishments to work. A lot of you are sharing good disciplines but those are all good for the everyday run of the mill disobediences. If your 7 year old lies repeatedly or destroys something sure timeout or taking away something. But if you aren't spanking how are you making it extremely clear that this behavior is NOT ok? I'm a teacher and I don't think parents discipline their kids nearly enough because they often are disrespectful.

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People are seriously overreacting about spanking. This thread if full of bullies and Permissive parents.

I bet many of you would be ok with your teens drinking under age or smoking weed. "as long as they are doing it at home"

Same as sex. "Just get her on birth control" "I don't know if he's doing it but buy him condoms"

You people are ridiculous. That's why so many kids don't respect their parents. No boundaries. No respect. No love.

One doesn't have anything to do with the other. The idea that refusing to *hit your children* means that you are fine with them drinking, doing drugs, and having sex whenever is absurd, and is just the kind of slippery slope argument that child abusers have been using for decades to justify hitting their kids. You can have rules and set limits, and raise kids who respect you and love you, without hitting them. My parents spanked us and it's one of several reasons why I don't respect them now. I followed their rules when I was a kid because I didn't want to get hit. But as soon as the risk of being hit ended, I stopped following their rules. I also started drinking my senior year of high school, after abstaining for years, simply because I was so tired of my parents hitting me and distrusting for most of my adolescence that I figured, why not? Spanking does not lead to love or respect.

I agree with the PP who said that if you are resorting to hitting your kids as a form of discipline, you've failed as a parent. You always have other options.

Okay just because YOUR parents abused YOU does not mean that other people that were spanked believe their parents are horrible people or failed as a parent. I love my parents and had an amazing childhood and I was spanked. I talk to my mom several times a day and my dad about every other. Do what works for YOU and stop judging other people for your shitty childhood. My mother didn't get spanked as a child and her mom was definitely a crap mom. Stop projecting.

I agree.

My mom spanked me and I love her to death!

Same!! I was spanked and I can't imagine a life without my mom and dad. I love those two to pieces!!

My mom spanked us and my sister started hitting her back. She stopped after that.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who reads this and thinks that spanking rarely is okay? I was spanked a few times as a kid. My parents were wonderful, caring parents. I deserved it and knew I deserved it at the time. I grew up perfectly fine and am very close with my parents.

I personally have trouble controlling my children sometimes and haven't figured out a good strategy. I don't spank, but talking to them and taking away things absolutely doesn't work. They're little and the oldest is 5. The oldest is very grumpy and rolls her eyes and is pretty disrespectful (thanks to public school for teaching her that this year!)

What are you doing to address the behavior? Stop blaming public school and address the behavior - time outs, send to room, no electronics, etc. and be very consistent.

The PP is right. That stuff sometimes doesn't work.

Spanking also often doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

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People are seriously overreacting about spanking. This thread if full of bullies and Permissive parents.

I bet many of you would be ok with your teens drinking under age or smoking weed. "as long as they are doing it at home"

Same as sex. "Just get her on birth control" "I don't know if he's doing it but buy him condoms"

You people are ridiculous. That's why so many kids don't respect their parents. No boundaries. No respect. No love.

One doesn't have anything to do with the other. The idea that refusing to *hit your children* means that you are fine with them drinking, doing drugs, and having sex whenever is absurd, and is just the kind of slippery slope argument that child abusers have been using for decades to justify hitting their kids. You can have rules and set limits, and raise kids who respect you and love you, without hitting them. My parents spanked us and it's one of several reasons why I don't respect them now. I followed their rules when I was a kid because I didn't want to get hit. But as soon as the risk of being hit ended, I stopped following their rules. I also started drinking my senior year of high school, after abstaining for years, simply because I was so tired of my parents hitting me and distrusting for most of my adolescence that I figured, why not? Spanking does not lead to love or respect.

I agree with the PP who said that if you are resorting to hitting your kids as a form of discipline, you've failed as a parent. You always have other options.

Okay just because YOUR parents abused YOU does not mean that other people that were spanked believe their parents are horrible people or failed as a parent. I love my parents and had an amazing childhood and I was spanked. I talk to my mom several times a day and my dad about every other. Do what works for YOU and stop judging other people for your shitty childhood. My mother didn't get spanked as a child and her mom was definitely a crap mom. Stop projecting.

I agree.

My mom spanked me and I love her to death!

Same!! I was spanked and I can't imagine a life without my mom and dad. I love those two to pieces!!

My mom spanked us and my sister started hitting her back. She stopped after that.

I mean ok…that was your sister. What does anyone else have to do with your experience?

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Apparently spanking and punishments are wrong. Anyone follow biglittlefeelings on IG?

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Is it possible that your brother was an "a*hole" because of how he was treated? I'm not just talking about "spankings". I think whichever parent abused your brother had no patience or tender feeling for him and took any opportunity to hurt him and justify it by labelling him as a bad kid. My parents were each abusive in their own ways and I observed at the time that my dad was roughest on my eldest brother and my mom was harshest on me. You seem hesitant to accuse your parents of abuse, by where do you suppose your rage comes from? I know I was affected not only by being beaten, but from witnessing my siblings being abused, as well. Please consider working on your rage feelings toward your kids. I promise they do nothing to deserve it.

I know why I was an a**hole and got punished harder as a kid - it's because my sister was the Golden Child who could do no wrong and I was the Scapegoat who could do no right. I always felt that my parents were teamed up with my sister and against me, which made me resent my sister and be an a**hole to her, which led to me getting punished, which increased my resentment, and so on.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Children aren't born aholes, they act that way for a reason. My eldest sister was the golden child and never got beaten. There was a time I was with her and couldn't have done something which enraged my dad. I was whipped with a belt and she didn't tell him I was innocent. My skinned swelled so much, it split and I bled. I was 9. I have never and will never spank or otherwise assault my kids. I don't view them as anything other than children, who are to be treated gently and with love. I hope you treat your kids gently, too.

I'm a different poster. I think it's fine to do what you want, but some kids are born aholes. Like why are some kids doing super disrespectful things?

Which kids? When mine were young, I had age appropriate expectations for their behavior. I was "spanked" and I can assure you the only benefit that gave me was a simmering rage, a quickness to violence and the knowledge that I could withstand a beating. Considering that we live in a civilized society and not in the hunger games, those skills only brought trouble.

I’ve seen a 2 year old dragging a cat and beating it up. Seriously WTF

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I do not spank. But I don't think it's YOUR place to judge someone else. There are a lot of things I think are bad that are common but I'm not going to judge others on it. It's okay to die on that hill. Millions of people will do what they feel is best for their situation.

I am absolutely going to judge that you are a sh*tty parent and sh*tty human being if you hit your kids, regardless of how "right" you may feel you were for doing so.

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Is it possible that your brother was an "a*hole" because of how he was treated? I'm not just talking about "spankings". I think whichever parent abused your brother had no patience or tender feeling for him and took any opportunity to hurt him and justify it by labelling him as a bad kid. My parents were each abusive in their own ways and I observed at the time that my dad was roughest on my eldest brother and my mom was harshest on me. You seem hesitant to accuse your parents of abuse, by where do you suppose your rage comes from? I know I was affected not only by being beaten, but from witnessing my siblings being abused, as well. Please consider working on your rage feelings toward your kids. I promise they do nothing to deserve it.

I know why I was an a**hole and got punished harder as a kid - it's because my sister was the Golden Child who could do no wrong and I was the Scapegoat who could do no right. I always felt that my parents were teamed up with my sister and against me, which made me resent my sister and be an a**hole to her, which led to me getting punished, which increased my resentment, and so on.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Children aren't born aholes, they act that way for a reason. My eldest sister was the golden child and never got beaten. There was a time I was with her and couldn't have done something which enraged my dad. I was whipped with a belt and she didn't tell him I was innocent. My skinned swelled so much, it split and I bled. I was 9. I have never and will never spank or otherwise assault my kids. I don't view them as anything other than children, who are to be treated gently and with love. I hope you treat your kids gently, too.

I'm a different poster. I think it's fine to do what you want, but some kids are born aholes. Like why are some kids doing super disrespectful things?

Many people consider certain developmentally normal behavior from kids as "super disrespectful" because of their own issues. Like sometimes kids will break rules or do things they know will annoy their parents, on purpose, just to see what will happen. This isn't "disrespectful" unless you define respect as a child who always does exactly what they've been told, 100% of the time. That's not developmentally appropriate for children and childhood and adolescence are largely about using trial and error to learn about the world in a relatively safe environment. Kids who do stuff like this are not a*holes, they are just kids. And when they do it, it's a terrific opportunity to provide them with natural consequences for risky, rude, or inappropriate behavior, and to talk to them about why that behavior will cause problems down the road. All of which you can do without hitting them. This is literally what parenting is.

But if you just hit or ignore kids in this stage instead of, you know, parenting and teaching them, then they will keep engaging in sometimes escalating bad behavior. Maybe they become nihilists who figure "I can't do right so I might as well enjoy doing wrong," maybe they are testing the absolute limit of your relationship with them to see what will push you to throw them out or say you hate them (because at least then they'll know instead of living in fear of that moment), maybe they are just so freaking confused about what it even means to make good choices because they see their parents consistently raging and hitting in a way that is deemed fine and justified within their family, but when they do the same they are punished.

No kid is a born a*hole. I know that's hard to hear, but kids get that way through experience.

I get what you are saying. But let's fast forward to the older years when kids aren't getting spanked....why are kids being nasty to one another, hurting one another, manipulating, doing drugs, constantly lying. Many of them have not been spanked. A lot of this is considered common for older kids but many parents have laid the foundation when they are young. I'm not saying spanking is the answer but the cop out answer of "Oh something is wrong" or "They are just kids" just doesn't do it for me. I don't believe people are always as "good" as some of you are trying to make it seem. I'm not perfect. But I've been around kids when I myself was in middle school, high school, college etc. and some of the things kids do is really not okay. I myself have lied and cheated yet I was not taught to do that. Whether you spank or don't spank I just don't think that makes a child "good". The "just kids" reminds me of all the people that justify bad behavior in later years. You know the boys that rape girls in college at some frat party...."oh they are just kids". I hate this statement.

I'm not the PP from above. I think that it is important to consider the ways in which cultural norms change. There are many ways in which "kids today" grow up faster than I did (b. 1981). There is a lot of youth culture that is toxic, which I blame largely but not exclusively on social media. I personally think that the way they talk to each other is encouraged by online video games. It's like the kind of smack talk that would happen at sports stuff when I was a teenager, except it's relentless and not contained to one event anymore.

You could also argue just as strongly that the parents of today's teenagers over-parented them as children including over-scheduling them for activities, unrealistic expectations about academic and athletic success, and restricting personal freedom such that a 14yo today has zero experience behaving themselves in public without a parent to regulate on the activity.

But it's also important to recognize that there are a lot of parenting strategies that are unacceptable today. This is one of them.

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I get what you are saying. But let's fast forward to the older years when kids aren't getting spanked....why are kids being nasty to one another, hurting one another, manipulating, doing drugs, constantly lying. Many of them have not been spanked.

I grew up when spanking kids was common and acceptable, and I assure you that when those spanked kids got older, they were nasty to each other, they hurt each other, they manipulated each other, they lied, they cheated, they did drugs. Being spanked as kids didn't hold them back from teen misbehavior at all.

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I get what you are saying. But let's fast forward to the older years when kids aren't getting spanked....why are kids being nasty to one another, hurting one another, manipulating, doing drugs, constantly lying. Many of them have not been spanked.

I grew up when spanking kids was common and acceptable, and I assure you that when those spanked kids got older, they were nasty to each other, they hurt each other, they manipulated each other, they lied, they cheated, they did drugs. Being spanked as kids didn't hold them back from teen misbehavior at all.

And the ones that weren’t spanked probably did the same thing. I’m not saying it should be one way or the other but some of y’all are lying acting like kids just don’t do bad things.