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People are seriously overreacting about spanking. This thread if full of bullies and Permissive parents.

I bet many of you would be ok with your teens drinking under age or smoking weed. "as long as they are doing it at home"

Same as sex. "Just get her on birth control" "I don't know if he's doing it but buy him condoms"

You people are ridiculous. That's why so many kids don't respect their parents. No boundaries. No respect. No love.[/quote]

One doesn't have anything to do with the other. The idea that refusing to *hit your children* means that you are fine with them drinking, doing drugs, and having sex whenever is absurd, and is just the kind of slippery slope argument that child abusers have been using for decades to justify hitting their kids. You can have rules and set limits, and raise kids who respect you and love you, without hitting them. My parents spanked us and it's one of several reasons why I don't respect them now. I followed their rules when I was a kid because I didn't want to get hit. But as soon as the risk of being hit ended, I stopped following their rules. I also started drinking my senior year of high school, after abstaining for years, simply because I was so tired of my parents hitting me and distrusting for most of my adolescence that I figured, why not? Spanking does not lead to love or respect.

I agree with the PP who said that if you are resorting to hitting your kids as a form of discipline, you've failed as a parent. You always have other options. [/quote]

Okay just because YOUR parents abused YOU does not mean that other people that were spanked believe their parents are horrible people or failed as a parent. I love my parents and had an amazing childhood and I was spanked. I talk to my mom several times a day and my dad about every other. Do what works for YOU and stop judging other people for your shitty childhood. My mother didn't get spanked as a child and her mom was definitely a crap mom. Stop projecting. [/quote]

Not projecting, just stating a deeply held personal belief. You should not hit your kids. There are other (and universally better) ways of disciplining children or enforcing boundaries. I will die on this hill.

Yes there are lots of ways to be a crappy parent and not all parents who spank are universally bad. But spankign is universally bad. It's wrong. You are hurting a child, on purpose. There is simply no justification.[/quote]

I do not spank. But I don't think it's YOUR place to judge someone else. There are a lot of things I think are bad that are common but I'm not going to judge others on it. It's okay to die on that hill. Millions of people will do what they feel is best for their situation.[/quote]

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