6 dates in and we're still just talking. Huh??

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Anonymous wrote:Six dates in is a long time for not even making out. But, thank you #metoo for slowing things down for women who do have an interest. I have a 31 year old single brother who told me that women have to clearly make the first move because he won't.

That pesky consent is always getting in the way of things!

It isn't even about consent at this stage where an accusation is taken as sancrosact. They have sex and he decides he doesn't want to see her anymore and bam his life can be ruined. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

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Anonymous wrote:Be aggressive with him. If he turns you down then, walk.

Would you advovge that a man be "aggressive"? Damn those double standards. .

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No, it's that flirting is now often being perceived as a form of sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment has often been falsely labeled flirting.

and visa versa

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he wants to be nominated some day for the Supreme Court?

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Anonymous wrote:If you push, he will know you are not willing to wait until he is ready. If you are not into him enough to give it more time, then let him move on to someone else who is not in a rush to develop a relationship.

Ultimately, whatever the guy's reasoning is, this is the answer. If it's a medical issue, pushing him to disclose before he feels ready will not help him feel more comfortable. If he's moving slowly because he's not sure about how much he likes her yet, rushing him will only help him decide against her. OP you are entitled to pursue the relationship you want, at the speed you want, but ultimately the person who is less invested/interested/far along in their desire for the other person decides the pace the relationship moves at, or it fails. Either because the more interested party/party who is trying to speed things up moves on, or because they push the other person away with their attempts to speed it up. If you're willing to give it more time, do so, without badgering/nudging him. Maybe date some other people while doing so, as others have suggested. If not, move along to find someone else.

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He is a MAN!!!!

Men in general would jump at any opportunity to have sex.
Trust me.

This man has erectile dysfunction issues & is ashamed to admit this to you.
Perhaps he is too embarrassed to seek professional medical assistance for it + would rather suffer in silence.

Men are funny about not going to the Dr.s, especially w/an issue that probably affects his ego/manlihood, etc.

It is entirely up to you to decide if this is something you are willing to deal with in a man.

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Anonymous wrote:Dating someone else also and feels weird about hooking up with you while having sex with someone else. Asexual. Very high fear of rejection, and got freaked out when you didn't kiss him back the first time. Or maybe just slow to warm up. It is a confusing one, I would keep nudging him to be open about what's going on, because being closed off to discussion is probably a red flag regardless of what else is going on.

This is most likely it.
Ran into this several times. My guesses are: not really divorced, or divorced but remarried and is trying to end the second marriage but doesn't want to tell you there is a second marriage or is living with girlfriend and hasn't decided to break up with her yet.

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Or everything works just fine, but he is struggling with his values and faith. He goes to church every Sunday, hopping into bed on date two or three may just not be his style. Yes, you have had 6 dates. Add up how many hours you have actually been in his presence. He is a man of faith in his 50's, it it possible you are dating........a gentleman?

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Anonymous wrote:Or everything works just fine, but he is struggling with his values and faith. He goes to church every Sunday, hopping into bed on date two or three may just not be his style. Yes, you have had 6 dates. Add up how many hours you have actually been in his presence. He is a man of faith in his 50's, it it possible you are dating........a gentleman?

She's not talking about having sex right away. She's wondering why he hasn't even kissed her for real. Damn, why is it all or nothing with you guys? You don't run up to sex, you walk. Per OP, they're not even crawling.

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Men don't want to make out. They might make out when it might lead to sex (and this guy doesn't want sex right now .. for whatever reason)

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52 yo retired military and divorced man here. Honestly you can do better. I suspect perhaps mild ED. Sstikk works but not rock hard.

He likely never got meds because he wasn’t getting any. And if we are all correct, at this point he should make out with you, and if you’re into it take care of you with oral, let you see what you can do for him (he can still get off if you’re game), and make a joke about his age and eating too much red meat, and how he has a doctors appointment. He could bring you into his life on this and as a doctor you might think it’s cute.

This was exactly me. Post viagra it’s better than ever. Really. Crazy great.

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't want to make out. They might make out when it might lead to sex (and this guy doesn't want sex right now .. for whatever reason)

Man here, don't speak for all of us, I love a good make out session.

OP, my guess is ED or STD.

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The best two guesses:

ED. If so, he needs to get to the VA. They give out boner pills like candy to service members.

or

He’s a gentleman and he’s worried about leading you on. You have a young child and he just sent the last one off to college. He knows that if you get physically intimate, you will want an exclusive and potentially serious relationship. He’s grappling with if/how to raise another kid when he just finished 20 years of that. It’s a huge decision and casts a pall over everything, including sex.

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I totally agree with the second point of pp. Add that I don't care if you have slept with fifty women, getting into bed with a new person that has relationship potential is not the easiest thing. Men are under enormous pressure to "perform" in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't want to make out. They might make out when it might lead to sex (and this guy doesn't want sex right now .. for whatever reason)

Not true at all.