6 dates in and we're still just talking. Huh??

[Anonymous]

Man here, granted I would have made a move on date 1 or 2 so take this with a grain of salt. I first thought STD but then again, that wouldn''t stop him from making out.

OP, date others, pull away and see if he pursues. if he doesn't he isn't that into you.

[Anonymous]

Are you the first woman he’s dated since his divorce?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just not into you and is not good at exiting.

[Anonymous]

NP 53 Guy. ED or STD ? Why would he date you ? Why did you not kiss when he asked ? Based on responses here I’d think You’re frigid ? An STD ? 10 cats in the closet ?
That said most promising dates involve passionate kiss on 2-3rd date in my experience

[Anonymous]

agree with herpes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back. We're done with mini pumpkins and onto "Moana".

For everyone invoking #metoo, please stop. There is a planet's worth of difference between two consenting adults in a dating situation navigating the pace of physicality, and unwanted sexual content and innuendo in the workplace. For everyone wondering why that sh*t still happens, it's because people confuse these two issues. They're oceans apart. Let's stay on topic or just let the thread end. Seems like there's a quorum anyway.

Op, I would link this post in website feedback and ask that it be deleted. You gave a ton of personal details in your OP. This guy probably doesn’t read dcum, but the specifics are not necessary.

[Anonymous]

If you push, he will know you are not willing to wait until he is ready. If you are not into him enough to give it more time, then let him move on to someone else who is not in a rush to develop a relationship.

[Anonymous]

6 dates isn’t a lot. If you want a decent guy, then act decent.

[Anonymous]

He tried to kiss you and you did the classic “I just want to be friends” cheek move. So he’s not sure where he stands with you and is protecting himself. I know you told him it’s okay now, but he figures you were unsure on date 2, are probably still unsure and you’re just testing the waters. He doesn’t want to get blown off if he does kiss you and you decide the chemistry isn’t there after all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No, it's that flirting is now often being perceived as a form of sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment has often been falsely labeled flirting.

[Anonymous]

OP.....where'd you go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a 6 year old

This.

Women overthink this stuff and assume there's something wrong with him. The issue is he's not sure about OP. He doesn't know if he wants to take it to the next level. OP also spelled it out for him that she's looking for something serious. He just dropped his youngest off at college. He is probably hesitant to get involved with a woman with a young child. So he's giving it time.

When a man wants to take it slow, it rarely means he has an issue he's working through; it almost always means he's not sure if he likes you enough to get more serious.

I agree with the first half of this.

OP gives off a bit of a "Type A" vibe, which is understandable for a doctor. He probably senses that if he sleeps with OP, she will become attached. He is unsure of how serious he wants this to be and is being cautious.

He's probably a nice guy who doesn't want to sleep with OP only to break things off shortly afterward.

[Anonymous]

OP,

He may have ED issues. I am mid 40s and just encountered it with a mid 50s guy. It sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

He may have ED issues. I am mid 40s and just encountered it with a mid 50s guy. It sucked.

I'll take his place in bed.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:welcome to the new age of #metoo

+1. If I was a man I would be wary as hell.