6 dates in and we're still just talking. Huh??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Much too specific information about this man, and now everyone is speculating if he has an STD, sexual issues, etc. Shameful.

OP came here looking for insight and advice. I seriously doubt anyone here is going to use any of the "specific information about this man" to find him online, and even if they did, it would be just what you said: speculation. There's nothing friggin shameful about having ED or a STD - what's shameful is ridiculing people for having those problems. Nobody here has even done that to this unidentified man. The man has a choice about being direct with OP, and OP has a choice about how she chooses to handle his evasiveness.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he has female parts.

[Anonymous]

He's struggling. Likes you. He would probably would like a relationship that *could* lead somewhere. You have a 6 year old. He doesn't want to be a father to a six year old.

Then why spend time with me? I'm very straightforward about my situation; how much I love my daughter, that we lead a stable, drama-free, fun life. I want another adult in her life but I don't need someone to save either of us. Now some men don't want to be around smaller children. Understandable; but again, then why date me?

OP, you're clear on what you want. Doesn't mean everyone knows what they want immediately.

[Anonymous]

This guy may be one of the few in the male population that actually wants to develop a sound relationship before unleashing his sexual wild side. OP, give he dude some time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you implied or stated overtly to him that sex= exclusivity for you? Because if you have, that could be part of it too. If he's not 100% sure about making you his girlfriend, he could be holding off so as not to give you an indication of a commitment he isn't ready to make.

This. He is an older guy and has been single a while. He has probably already experienced dating some crazy women and wants to be sure you are normal before getting physical and exclusive (they do tend to go together).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the BEST it will ever get with this guy. Think about if that's what you want. If not, ghost him.

OP here; I don't ghost people. It's weak. If anything I'll just be honest and explain that I think he's awesome but we clearly want different things and wish him well.

As for outing him on DCUM, come on. You can't throw a rock in DC w/o hitting a 50 yo military guy. As a physician I take privacy seriously (and really like this person. Would never jeopardize his identity).

OP, maybe the problem is your responses are extra. You're exhausting!

[Anonymous]

welcome to the new age of #metoo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the BEST it will ever get with this guy. Think about if that's what you want. If not, ghost him.

OP here; I don't ghost people. It's weak. If anything I'll just be honest and explain that I think he's awesome but we clearly want different things and wish him well.

As for outing him on DCUM, come on. You can't throw a rock in DC w/o hitting a 50 yo military guy. As a physician I take privacy seriously (and really like this person. Would never jeopardize his identity).

OP, maybe the problem is your responses are extra. You're exhausting!

She can exhaust the heck out of me whenever she wants. I'm anxious to see what she's all about in the sack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the BEST it will ever get with this guy. Think about if that's what you want. If not, ghost him.

OP here; I don't ghost people. It's weak. If anything I'll just be honest and explain that I think he's awesome but we clearly want different things and wish him well.

As for outing him on DCUM, come on. You can't throw a rock in DC w/o hitting a 50 yo military guy. As a physician I take privacy seriously (and really like this person. Would never jeopardize his identity).

OP, maybe the problem is your responses are extra. You're exhausting!

"Extra"? Damn. If you OP is "extra". . . .I just don't know what to say

[Anonymous]

What does “extra” mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does “extra” mean?

Too damn much. Trying too hard / over the top.
Above and beyond for unnecessary reasons

[Anonymous]

Six dates in is a long time for not even making out. But, thank you #metoo for slowing things down for women who do have an interest. I have a 31 year old single brother who told me that women have to clearly make the first move because he won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Six dates in is a long time for not even making out. But, thank you #metoo for slowing things down for women who do have an interest. I have a 31 year old single brother who told me that women have to clearly make the first move because he won't.

That pesky consent is always getting in the way of things!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does “extra” mean?

Too damn much. Trying too hard / over the top.
Above and beyond for unnecessary reasons

"Extra" = too much bc I'm participating in there conversation? Lol, no. Don't be weird.

Plus I'm home tonight watching the kids tonight (I do babysitting swap w/upstairs neighbor). We're painting mini pumpkins and listening to Hamilton soundtrack. I can multi-task and post on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

#metoo