6 dates in and we're still just talking. Huh??

[Anonymous]

Another one here who will be checking at 6 PM for an update!

[Anonymous]

So Op, you are OK with not bring exclusive with flaky guy but not with military guy?

[Anonymous]

Hmm. Op I hate to say it but I think he is going to dump you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. Op I hate to say it but I think he is going to dump you.

May be but it sounds like she has a nice fallback plan even if it's just short term. Not many of us have options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another one here who will be checking at 6 PM for an update!

Me too. Glad to see I'm not the only on who is entertained by this all! Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back with an update.

He texted this morning and asked if I was free this eve to chat on phone. I said sure, DD has an activity at 5:30. We're going to talk then. So he's either going to clarify things for me, or I'm getting dumped. Either way, I respect that he's following through, even if it's only to let me go. He seems like a standup guy, which is what I want. I'd like to see him again, so I'm hoping it's clarification and not a "Dear John" letter.

In the meantime...

I ran into a someone I spent a little time with last summer at the gym, this morning after dropping off DD. We never had anything serious; he's hot & in amazing shape but always came off as a flake so I never took him seriously. We chatted briefly and I mentioned some house projects I was doing; he said to let him know if I needed any help at the house. Then hugged me in a casual, good-to-see-you way and whispered in my ear "or with anything else". I stepped back, somewhat stunned. He winked, grinned, & walked away!

I'm telling you DCUM...when it rains, it pours. Gonna be hard for me to say no to hot-but-flakey-gym guy....cross your fingers that go-slow-military guy makes it happen.

OP - I know this sounds crude but if it been five years since I had dated..or whatever....and one guy was resisting me and another, younger, hard body was hitting on me I go for the younger guy in a flash. It could be very short term but it might be fun and the sex might be great and immediate. It sounds like he's fired up and ready to go and the military guy isn't prepared to "salute".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another one here who will be checking at 6 PM for an update!

Me too. Glad to see I'm not the only on who is entertained by this all! Lol.

Maybe we can get OP to set a time and we can all join with a glass of wine in our hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back with an update.

He texted this morning and asked if I was free this eve to chat on phone. I said sure, DD has an activity at 5:30. We're going to talk then. So he's either going to clarify things for me, or I'm getting dumped. Either way, I respect that he's following through, even if it's only to let me go. He seems like a standup guy, which is what I want. I'd like to see him again, so I'm hoping it's clarification and not a "Dear John" letter.

In the meantime...

I ran into a someone I spent a little time with last summer at the gym, this morning after dropping off DD. We never had anything serious; he's hot & in amazing shape but always came off as a flake so I never took him seriously. We chatted briefly and I mentioned some house projects I was doing; he said to let him know if I needed any help at the house. Then hugged me in a casual, good-to-see-you way and whispered in my ear "or with anything else". I stepped back, somewhat stunned. He winked, grinned, & walked away!

I'm telling you DCUM...when it rains, it pours. Gonna be hard for me to say no to hot-but-flakey-gym guy....cross your fingers that go-slow-military guy makes it happen.

OP - I know this sounds crude but if it been five years since I had dated..or whatever....and one guy was resisting me and another, younger, hard body was hitting on me I go for the younger guy in a flash. It could be very short term but it might be fun and the sex might be great and immediate. It sounds like he's fired up and ready to go and the military guy isn't prepared to "salute".

She could also just use them both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another one here who will be checking at 6 PM for an update!

Me too. Glad to see I'm not the only on who is entertained by this all! Lol.

Maybe we can get OP to set a time and we can all join with a glass of wine in our hands.

I'm in. I'm an enologist, and have access to aged wines. I'd bring a few bottles for us to enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back with an update.

He texted this morning and asked if I was free this eve to chat on phone. I said sure, DD has an activity at 5:30. We're going to talk then. So he's either going to clarify things for me, or I'm getting dumped. Either way, I respect that he's following through, even if it's only to let me go. He seems like a standup guy, which is what I want. I'd like to see him again, so I'm hoping it's clarification and not a "Dear John" letter.

In the meantime...

I ran into a someone I spent a little time with last summer at the gym, this morning after dropping off DD. We never had anything serious; he's hot & in amazing shape but always came off as a flake so I never took him seriously. We chatted briefly and I mentioned some house projects I was doing; he said to let him know if I needed any help at the house. Then hugged me in a casual, good-to-see-you way and whispered in my ear "or with anything else". I stepped back, somewhat stunned. He winked, grinned, & walked away!

I'm telling you DCUM...when it rains, it pours. Gonna be hard for me to say no to hot-but-flakey-gym guy....cross your fingers that go-slow-military guy makes it happen.

OP - I know this sounds crude but if it been five years since I had dated..or whatever....and one guy was resisting me and another, younger, hard body was hitting on me I go for the younger guy in a flash. It could be very short term but it might be fun and the sex might be great and immediate. It sounds like he's fired up and ready to go and the military guy isn't prepared to "salute".

Amen girl

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is married, op. What truly single guy leaves to go home at 10 p.m. it sounds like he is configuring things so he can tell his wife that nothing happened. I would tell him you no longer wish to see him. If it matters, I like you. You responded well to people’s questions. Next time insist on actual dates, not quick coffee and lunch dates, and feel free to ask any questions you want of your dates. They don’t have to answer, but you can always ask.

[Anonymous]

You do all realize this is entirely made up, right? The whole thread reads like bad Sex and the City fan fiction.

S/he also started the happy cat call thread. Maybe that was your Mr. Big in that pretty black SUV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do all realize this is entirely made up, right? The whole thread reads like bad Sex and the City fan fiction.

S/he also started the happy cat call thread. Maybe that was your Mr. Big in that pretty black SUV.

I think you’re right. My twi give aways are:
- when OP said that she cared about his privacy as a doctor. Not sure what this has to do with personal life.
- She wasn’t serious with gym guy but claims to only have sex in sn exclusive relationship.

We’ll see if she comes back with an update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do all realize this is entirely made up, right? The whole thread reads like bad Sex and the City fan fiction.

S/he also started the happy cat call thread. Maybe that was your Mr. Big in that pretty black SUV.

How do you know she started the other thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he is married, op. What truly single guy leaves to go home at 10 p.m. it sounds like he is configuring things so he can tell his wife that nothing happened. I would tell him you no longer wish to see him. If it matters, I like you. You responded well to people’s questions. Next time insist on actual dates, not quick coffee and lunch dates, and feel free to ask any questions you want of your dates. They don’t have to answer, but you can always ask.

He is acting exactly the opposite of a married guy.

Married men usually are purposeful and want to get the sex and affection that they typically aren't getting from their wives. It's not easy for them to date so every moment counts.

This guy is clearly no hurry.