Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
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I don't know about this. I mean, obviously I don't know you, PP, or what you'd say about it personally, but when I was dating a guy who revealed his ex got a restraining order against him during their divorce 5 year earlier, PLENTY of people stepped up to tell me I was taking a chance on him, that he might be fine when a relationship was casual or going along swimmingly, but there was evidence that he apparently didn't take serious relationships ending well. |
Anonymous
| People do change. 10 years ago is a long time. |
Anonymous
She caused a scratch, and we don't even know if any kind of legal action was ever taken against her. That's a little different. I'm guessing your ex did more than just grab his ex's arm when she tried to walk away during a fight. |
Anonymous
| Troll. |
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"My friends and I are SOOO incredibly jealous of our friens who is getting married soon. I mean, like, I'm engaged and everything, but it's been a couple years and we're living together, but he won't set a date or anything and I'm still paying all the rent. Anywho, our friend is being all uppity with her new rich man, and we know we can really bring her down a notch by telling her fiancé some sort we know. I for one am not going to sit by while she elevates herself like that when I know what she did last summer, you get what I mean?
So DCUM, don't you think I'm an evil genius with a great plan?" |
Anonymous
And, how exactly is this YOUR business? |
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Oh FFS hes a grown man who can easily run a background check on his fiance if he wants...this is the Age of the Internet/no privacy. Its his responsibility to vet anyone he marries, not yours. If he was my son, I hope he will have taken my advice to trust but verify what anyone tells him. If he is so naive and unknowingly marries someone with a documented misdemeanor/felony well thats on him. Hard life lesson to learn.
I hope youre just a troll. If not, you sound envious and secretly wish you could dramatically reinvent your life and catch a man like your friend's. I had friends like you back when I went through something similar. They are no longer my friends...hope your friend wises up. Before you say anything to her fiancee...remember...Karma is a bitch! |
Anonymous
| You are an awful friend. |
Anonymous
| I haven't made it past the first page yet, but you completely suck OP. And if this is how you treat your good friend wth do you do to your enemies? Get a damn life. |
dcguy
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Is it possible you feel your friend doesn't deserve the luxury car and the fancy house because of her past and you are trying to get her to unravel it? |
Anonymous
She smacked him when she caught him cheating on her? Bitch, please. I doubt he even pressed charges. |
Anonymous
This all day long. As if you are so concerned about protecting her fiancé, a total stranger. |
Anonymous
Bingo. Plus it sounds like the friend is actually getting married while OP has a "Fiance" in name only. Sour grapes, bitterness, and jealousy abounds. She knows no details of the case, just wants to tell the fiance that her friend smacked someone once for cheating on her. OP wants the friend to grovel forever because she lived with her for a little while. I hope the friend catches wind of this and completely cuts OP off. |
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The first problem w/ this entire scenario is that you're claiming you're her friend OP.
You're just bored and trolling. No friend behaves this way. I don't believe a thing you're saying. |
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OP, let's be honest here.
You don't know and love this person as a friend. You know of her past and love to gossip about it. For some reason, even though you clearly don't like or care for her, you've reminded in her life. The idea with friends is that you either stick by them because you believe in he person they truly are, despite bad decision (please see definition of friend), or you cut them loose because friends need morals and ideals that align with each other. A friend does not sit in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to take their friend down. A friend sits in the shadows, joyful that their love, support, and time has helped bring their friend to a better place in life, despite times that were tough. I'm not really clear on why you're feeding off the drama hat comes off this,save for the fact that you seem like a horrible person and much less than a "friend". From what have posted, I also think you're extrapolating a little on the term "violent past". You're creating connotations and perjorative language to support the fact that you're unhappy that she's getting further ahead than you are. I know people lie, you have a hard time outside very concrete definitions, but a one time scrap with a College boyfriend who cheated on you is completely different than a history of beating men that she is in relationships with, or getting into throwing things/violent fights repeatedly, or getting into random bar brawls. The later things I would consider a "violent past". Maybe you've lived an ideal life, but sometimes, people are volatile together, and only in that situation. It sounds as though your friend has rebuilt herself over 10 years. And that's a long time, especially when you're looking at young adult vs. full adult. As I see it, you probably need to look at yourself and your intentions vs. your friend. Great only looking for validation here, and I notice you're only responding to those posts. Are you a rainy weather friend? Why do you want her to fail or hurt so badly? So she needs you again? It's her relationship. Let her deal with what is important to tell or not. |