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[quote=Anonymous]OP, let's be honest here.

You don't know and love this person as a friend. You know of her past and love to gossip about it. For some reason, even though you clearly don't like or care for her, you've reminded in her life.

The idea with friends is that you either stick by them because you believe in he person they truly are, despite bad decision (please see definition of friend), or you cut them loose because friends need morals and ideals that align with each other. A friend does not sit in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to take their friend down. A friend sits in the shadows, joyful that their love, support, and time has helped bring their friend to a better place in life, despite times that were tough.

I'm not really clear on why you're feeding off the drama hat comes off this,save for the fact that you seem like a horrible person and much less than a "friend".

From what have posted, I also think you're extrapolating a little on the term "violent past". You're creating connotations and perjorative language to support the fact that you're unhappy that she's getting further ahead than you are.

I know people lie, you have a hard time outside very concrete definitions, but a one time scrap with a College boyfriend who cheated on you is completely different than a history of beating men that she is in relationships with, or getting into throwing things/violent fights repeatedly, or getting into random bar brawls. The later things I would consider a "violent past".

Maybe you've lived an ideal life, but sometimes, people are volatile together, and only in that situation. It sounds as though your friend has rebuilt herself over 10 years. And that's a long time, especially when you're looking at young adult vs. full adult.

As I see it, you probably need to look at yourself and your intentions vs. your friend. Great only looking for validation here, and I notice you're only responding to those posts. Are you a rainy weather friend? Why do you want her to fail or hurt so badly? So she needs you again?

It's her relationship. Let her deal with what is important to tell or not.

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