Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHAT IF HER FIANCÉ WERE YOU OR YOUR SON??

I'd be horrified that her "friend" was trying to start drama at our engagement party, over something that happened a decade ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHAT IF HER FIANCÉ WERE YOU OR YOUR SON??

I'd be horrified that her "friend" was trying to start drama at our engagement party, over something that happened a decade ago.

Exactly. Just don't go to the party. You aren't celebrating with them. It would just be wrong.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you don't want her to be as successful or more successful than you.

[Anonymous]

Unless you think your friend is a danger to her fiancé, it's not your place to tell. It's up to her to weigh the risks to her relationship if her fiancé finds out she kept this part of her past a secret.

[Anonymous]

What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.

[Anonymous]

You've got good dirt and want to drag her through it. Admit it OP. Your jealousy is showing...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.

Assault can be verbal or physical. If you swing a golf club at someone, that's assault. If you CONNECT that golf club against someone's skull, that's battery.

[Anonymous]

What??? No.

[Anonymous]

PP here who said no...just wanted to ask...do you think she is a danger to her fiancé?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.

Assault can be verbal or physical. If you swing a golf club at someone, that's assault. If you CONNECT that golf club against someone's skull, that's battery.

Yes, I get what the legal distinction is. But that's not how it's used in common parlance, which is why I asked for clarification.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should be the one to tell your friend's fiance about the domestic violence incident in her past. She should have told him herself before it got too serious. Something like this could be a relationship-breaker and it's best to know where the person stands. The fact that she refuses to would make me want to distance myself from her. It is a matter of integrity.

[Anonymous]

OP you and your friends sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

I think your fiancé deserves to know what kind of person you are OP. At least your "friend" had an incident 10 years ago and has now straightened out her life. I'd rather be marrying her than you, That's for damn sure.

[Anonymous]

She better hope her DH doesn't have a job or family situation that requires extensive background checks on him and his wife. My DH and I have gone through several and we don't work for the government.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your fiancé deserves to know what kind of person you are OP. At least your "friend" had an incident 10 years ago and has now straightened out her life. I'd rather be marrying her than you, That's for damn sure.

So if this fiance is so impressive a human being, he'll be fine with it.